Put down the pee sticks!

[BabyB19]

Hi ladies

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@bluetue @ceebee21 @dizzy85 @Jonesbabynumber1 @Tbug

And welcome to any newbies that want to join this mad mad world of trying to conceive x

Maybe you should try and have a month off, no temping, no apps, no Mumsnet, have sex only when you want to etc, that way if next month it's still a bfn you can rule out the 'you just need to try to relax' theory and crack on with tracking it all again? @Jonesbabynumber1 xx

And not really 🤦🏽‍♀️ my scan isn't too far off though so should give me a much clearer idea 🤷🏽‍♀️

@BabyB19 yes I’m torn as I think I maybe more stressed not doing anything. I’m glad I’ve done temping as I wouldn’t have found out that I ovulate later than I think. I’m 100% going to try and relax with the bd and just go with flow. How exciting that you get to see him/her so soon.

I'm struggling a little bit tbh @Jonesbabynumber1 the minute I find myself getting excited I check myself and remind myself what happened last time, my barriers are completely up, it's taking away from what should be the most amazing experience 😓 hopefully I'll feel better after the scan. I have a feeling this is just our lives now, ttc is a worry, being pregnant is a worry, and I wouldn't imagine that stops any time after the birth would you? 🙄🤦🏽‍♀️

@BabyB19 I think the type of people who look to Chats for support are worries especially I think if you’ve had MC or had a hard time TTC because you know the pain and hardship. I think with the worry comes appreciation and by nature worries have big hearts and it just shows how much a baby is wanted and how much they will be loved. But your right the worry never stops ❤️

I feel like I’m coming on. CD27 tomorrow.
I hate this!! Trying not to stress but I just feel so sad ☹️

@Jonesbabynumber1 iv been there, I really hope you are ok. TTC is such an emotional process and I’m sending you a big hug xx

@shiningstarz stay hopeful. I’m going to try and do the same ☺️

@jonesbabynumber1 yeah, I could do but I think I'm just gunna delete my apps etc and relax for a few months cos I've been so stressed so just enjoy DTD more ☺️

@shiningstarz I'm having a really bad urge to POAS🤣🤣

Haha @MrsCl19 Hold off, you can do it!!!
My boobs are less sore today, so I’d say they’ll continue being less sore and AF will arrive by Sunday. Iv been checking if it’s arrived since yesterday as iv had that wet feeling 🙈 sorry TMI!!!

@shiningstarz me to! I'm pretty sure it's coming aswell 😩

My boobs are no longer sore, got some cramping

@Jonesbabynumber1 Find what works for you. I've been trying for 14 months. Tried being relaxed about it, nothing happened. Tried being more on the ball with temping and opks and got SO STRESSED, still nothing happened. I just found the constant monitoring tough. I have longterm chronic pelvic pain and I find monitoring any of what's going on in that region really unhelpful.

So, the advice I have been given is to have sex every 2-3 days throughout your cycle. Don't worry too much about your peak time - sperm can live for up to 5 days in your body. Your DH should not masturbate in this time if you're DTD every 2-3 days - ejaculating frequently leads to lower quality sperm. However if it's been more than 3 days he should "clear the pipes".

This cycle I have not temped or peed on sticks and I have felt SO MUCH MORE RELAXED. I've also drunk too much alcohol, which might have helped the relaxation and feeling like my life is normal again, but has probably prevented any pregnancy this month.

My plan for the next few months is to follow the DTD regime above - my DH doesn't have such a high sex drive and I think our biggest problem has been DTD enough. However when we do it more often, everything gets better including our relationship. I'm not going to drink (although I have been told that 2-3 drinks a week makes no difference to TTC). I think this will make me feel like we're doing useful things but also I won't be madly stressing about "having" to have sex at the perfect moment and then DH is working nights / the sex doesn't "work" due to anxiety, it's all stressful...

I'm hoping this will work for me, but you might be different. For a good friend of mine, that is monitoring everything, feeling in control and that she is doing as much as she can.

NB We've had all the tests and everything is fine (except for me finding out I have endo & adeno). I'm ovulating. DH is producing sperm - the IVF doc said there's no reason it shouldn't happen naturally, although the chances for us are poor - 7-10% - due to my age.

@tigerjoy that’s good advice thank you your right you have to do what’s right for you. I’m fine until I see a post on Facebook or instagram of friends with a baby then it hits me like a tonne of bricks. I have to keep reminding myself it’s only been 4 months. Our problem is definitely not that we aren’t doing it enough I’ve tried every 2/3 I’ve also tried everyday for 10 days. I get constant cramps too so I think I’ll have to ignore that symptom and I had a ultra scan and they said it was clear but I know that’s not a definitive answer. It wouldn’t be so bad if my cycles were roughly the same but every month they get longer. I was on a copper coil so I didn’t even have any hormones that I was waiting to leave my body. I think stress is a big thing I have to try and deal with as I have a stressful job which doesn’t help. That’s good that everything’s working. I’ve said before I know lots of people who have conceived older it is harder but still possible. I just wish I was prepared for it to be this emotional.

I know. I went through hell last year. Big hugs.

Maybe stay off social media? Or can you block seeing those sort of messages? xx

@TigerJoy I have the endo pain too and was diagnosed with adenomyosis.
I was fine on the pill, used to exercise everyday, running few times a week. 2 stone lighter... I came off pill 1 years ago and I’m hating the heavy periods and pelvic discomfort and sore boobs. I don’t go to the gym anymore and have put on weight, it’s all a bit ☹️

@Jonesbabynumber1 I removed at least half of my Facebook friends and removed the app from my phone. I only use it a bit now and to be honest it’s helped a lot. That could be your new year resolution. A friend detox and a break from it!! I did it this time last year!

I’m sure I have seen so many pregnancy announcements over the past few weeks!!!

Actually puts me off making one on social media if we are ever successful as I know how many people just wish they were you, but also don’t know the back story xx

@ceebee21 yes puta me off too but I suppose we all get our turn to enjoy the celebration and I wouldn’t want the people posting to feel guilty. It’s the people who ask about it that need to learn the hurt it’s causes. How you feeling about things? Are you temping I roughly know now that I ovulate cd16+ and that’s the point of it to. When do people count end of period. tmi I know but this month bleed for two days day three there’s hardly anything so is it a 2 or 3 days period?

I haven’t consistently tempted whilst AF has been here, plus been off work so not waking at the same time. Will start to again now back at work..I seem to OV between 14&16.

My AF has been heavy, but it is all the time tbh and usually lasts around 6 days...I’m CD5 now but still pretty heavy xx

Evening all,

Feeling really crap tonight, have been spotting the last couple of days (I NEVER spot and it was days before AF was due) I convinced myself it could possibly be implantation bleeding but didn’t want to get my hopes up.

I’m now lay in a hot bath with the worst endometriosis period pains ever! AF is 100% coming and im in agony 😩. I’m deffo having a chilled month next month, no ovulation tests or having sex by a calendar! Hope you’re all ok x

@Togetherismyfavouriteplace I hope you are ok.

I’m crampy, emotional, teary. Me literally all day - go toilet, check pants for af and check boobs for soreness 🙈
Cd 28 tomo..
@MrsCl19 there will be no testing for me tomorrow as iv no tests lol. I’m holding out now until maybe Sunday morning. I really don’t want af for my first week back at work!!!!😢

@MrsCl19 how are you feeling?

@ceebee21 I'm sorry agonising endo pain is the worst! I hope it eases soon.

I’m lying in bed feeling like a fluttering in my pelvic area. I’m scared to sleep and wake to AF. More emotional today than iv been in a longtime.. prob new year blues!! Night ladies

Ah I'm sorry @shiningstarz. What will be will be. Fingers crossed for you.

I've just had the start of endo period pain, abdomen back and down the thighs. Yay. Am grumpy and achey too. Wonder if boobs hurting then not meant I implanted but it didn't take. I'd feel bloody dreadful if that's the case because I would blame the booze I've drunk this month 😥

I was certain I was pregnant for about 2 weeks in April and then suddenly felt like I wasn't so DH and I thought I had a failed implantation then.