Waiting to start TTC

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I wanted to start ttc over 2 years ago but my now DH said we should wait and get married first and get in a better position financially. We have just had our amazing wedding but are still in a lot of debt that we had expected to clear. We’ve tried a few rounds but had no luck so far. Now he wants to wait until April for 3 reasons (but understands how hard i’m finding it as well)

1. Money - we will have extra time to make a dent the debts (but they won’t be gone for a long time)
2. Our honeymoon - is in April and he thinks I won’t enjoy it pregnant.
3. I am having some scans and tests to make sure everything is ok as I struggle with period pain and have had some trouble getting a readable cervical screening.

I agree that waiting 5 months makes so much sense logically but emotionally I don’t know how I am going to get through these months. I will be 33 by there and I worry I’m missing my chance and by waiting I’m leaving it longer to discover any problems we might have conceiving.

I go between wanting to risk it and just go for it to being sensible and agreeing to wait. Anyone else been in a position like this before?

Hi :)

I'm in a slightly similar position to you,
Like you I've been ready for trying for around a year & a half but my partner wanted to wait.
We are now having to go through a major house refurbish & have had to put plans on hold for around another year.
I understand from your point the emotional side of wanting nothing more & the feeling of just going for it.
It's hard & it's taken me a while to understand why we're waiting & not to be so angry all the time.

I'm sorry I can't offer much advice but just wanted to let you know your not on your own :) xxx