CD58, losing hope

[PlanBea]

I've been off contraception since January, with fairly regular cycles of 33-35 days but no obvious sign of ovulation. I take my BBT and track CM but as yet I'd say I haven't ovulated. I have endometriosis too but this is low level and gynecology have discharged me from their care last year.

Last month, my GP offered to do a CD21 test on CD26 which came back negative (as expected) and... Then, nothing. My period has completely disappeared. I'm currently on CD58. No temp spiked/CM changes, but extra symptoms - nausea, cramps, exhaustion etc. I've been told to do a pregnancy test every week until AF arrives, then book in for a second CD21 to give it another go.

I'm so frustrated, after nearly a year of TTC to have felt like I took a step forward and now have taken a giant step back. It's so hard having spent most my life practically being told even thinking about unprotected sex would result in pregnancy to now be trying for nearly a year with my DH and to be getting nowhere. We're both early 30s so age isn't a factor but is a consideration for us to have 2. I just needed to have a vent as my mum is on full "when will I be a grandma?" mode and I don't feel like I have anyone to whine at!

Anyone else want to join in my little pity party?

Me! @PlanBea

I'll join. Currently day 54. Came off the pill in January, waited 74 days for my first period. Then 54, 40, 40, 38.. the last period was odd in that I had a lot of dark old blood discharge for around 4 days then my period which I counted from the pink blood. (Sorry)

I was diagnosed with pcos at 16, I'm 34 now. Because my last scan in 2015 showed no cysts they are wanting to do tests again so had bloods done Friday on cd51 (not 21🤦🏻‍♀️)

Used OPK for a few months and, aware you can get false positives if you have pcos, I did always get a positive then period 12 days later. Apart from this cycle. We dtd on the day of my positive OPK and I was sure that may have been it- I was pregnant. What a laugh. Stark white negative 🙁 family member announced early pregnancy to us this week, she would have had her last period around the same time as me... she's late as she'd pregnant.. My body is just broken..

Day 84 here, completely understand your frustration. This is my longest ever cycle, have been trying to get pregnant for years and the irregular cycles just seem to be getting worse. To make matters worse the baby bombs keep dropping from family and friends alike, I'm just sat here thinking when will this ever be me!

Hi @Mycrazylife85, we'd talked on a previous thread a few weeks ago. Sorry to hear AF has still disappeared for you. When do you get your blood results back?

Is it a closer family member? A friend from our friend group announced their second is on the way, it's hard hearing our friends talk excitedly about it. One day it will be our turn.

Hi @emojisarentwords, sorry to hear you're in the same boat. Nothing tests patience like TTC. Is your GP any good and worth a visit? They may be able to help. I have s great relationship with mine, but I'm moving next year to out of the catchment area. I'm hoping AF turns up in time for me to try the test again and get the precious referral before I have to switch!

Hi this is just some friendly advice for some reading up..

When i came off the pill I didn't have an af and 5 months passed and I was desperate, I read about Agnus Castus and started taking it and it may be coincidently 6 weeks later I got a bfp.

I'm not saying go out buy it now but deffo have a read up on it as it may help you

@PlanBea I thought so! I just couldn't find the thread. It's pretty rubbish isn't it? Ugh... good luck! Fingers crossed your af arrives so you can get your actual 21 day bloods. Reckon I'll need to rebook mine. They told me they like to do it on day 21 and asked what day I'm on, the answer was simply, day 51. 😒 good luck!

I get the results on 4th December. Flipping wait. If AF hasn't arrived I'll be in day 70 territory. My friends are all on their 2nd/3/4th. The announcement was a family member who is 9 years my junior 😞 damn ovaries

@Mycrazylife85 4th December is ages for blood results! My CD21 was done on a Friday and I had the results Monday afternoon. How can it take so long?! Take a little time for self care following your family announcement. It's so hard, as you are so happy for them but it reminds you of your own struggle.

@PlanBea thank you. It's knocked me and whilst I am better than I was the weekend (whilst trying to retain some self respect and dignity) it's on my mind, but it'll be fine. Dreading Christmas though having the family round asking me why we haven't yet or don't we 'fancy it?' and 'time is ticking'. I've asked my husbands to take over answering those questions.

I know- it's ridiculous the wait. It's an appointment to 'discuss the results' and that was the soonest they could do it. Over three weeks from when I booked it

Hi. I just wanted to say that I was exactly like this. I needed clomid to help ovulate and after 3 cycles and 5 months got pregnant with my little boy who is now 21 months old.

If your not ovulating hopefully some meds will
Help you!

@Rkay2 thank you for your encouraging story. Lovely news. Congratulations

@PlanBea did AF arrive for you? I'm cd60 today 🙄

Hi everyone!
I am in the same boat...had my last depot in june 2018.
First ovulation and period in august 2019 which I fell pregnant but resulted in a chemical. My cycle after that was 41 days. Now on the next cycle and on cd69. Safe to say I am demented.

Went to GP on friday and getting lots of bloods taken tomorrow to check hormone levels etc and he has also booked me in for a ultrasound to see if it could be PCOS or anything else. Sucks to be us doesn't it?!

For anyone who has tried agnus castus what dose did yous use please?

CD62 for me! Lots of symptoms (my boobs are killing me today ) so fingers crossed something soon. How are you doing?

Hi @Sarah5678 sorry to hear about your chemical. Hopefully AF comes soon and you are on a lucky cycle next time

@PlanBea sounds promising for you. Fingers crossed. I'm just mega bloated and uncomfortable. My IBS is playing me up too (probably linked) and I feel about two stone heavier. I've got 10 days until the doctors and part of me would prefer it if AF doesn't arrive until then. Going to buy a pair of stretchy stomach pinchers to get in my dress for my husbands works party Saturday 😂

@Sarah5678 that's awful for you. your doctors sound very good and pro active too which is good. Fingers crossed for you also. Mine are SLOW! Had blood test a week ago Friday gone, my appointment to discuss is in 10 days.

@Sarah5678

In 2017 I took 400mg in morning and a night.

I came off the pill and have tried it and so far it hasn't helped me this time 😢 I was convinced that it helped me regulate last time but not so sure now..

Going to keep going and hope for af of a bfp 🤞🏼

I just rang the doctors to see if they checked my thyroid and she told me that was fine and it appeared every other test came back normal too. I feel disappointed really there is no obvious reason for this that can be sorted. Currently CD63.

I won't be pregnant. My sex drive has disappeared and I feel just down.

I guess I’ll have to hope they refer me next week for a scan to see if anything comes up then, if that’s normal that’s pretty much it I guess. Then it's just hope

@Mycrazylife85 whilst it's rubbish there's not an obvious answer (and therefore a solution), at least you've got a few problems ticked off the list? I hope that the insistence on a GP appointment next week means they are planning on being proactive.

Have you had much to do with your cousin since her announcement?

I'm now CD66. I've had some brown spotting yesterday so I'm hoping AF arrives today or tomorrow and I can then ride the wave of hope that a new cycle brings. Right now it just feels like it won't happen.

@Sarah5678 have you had your bloods? When do you get the results?

Got them done on Monday, going to ring them tomorrow! Will let yous know :) xx

@PlanBea that's true regarding the results. Hopefully they'll be prepared next week but I'm feeling proactive and will be a little insistent. Fingers crossed AF arrives for you. That is a long time! Is this the longest they've been for you?

I haven't had any contact with her as yet. I'm waiting for their first scan in a few weeks and my mother in law to be told (feel I need to get that out the way then Christmas with all the questions from my husbands brother who will be the new grandad). My husband told me last night that they admitted it happened so quickly it was a real surprise for them. ☹️ selfishly for me. How awful does that make me that I think of myself.

@Sarah5678 I'm keen to know also. Good luck!

@Mycrazylife85 yeah, I can't really recall pre-contraception but this has been the longest in the almost year I've been off. I'd class today as heavy spotting but still no red blood so hopefully this afternoon/tomorrow. How are you?

I found out yesterday I'd only had one MMR vaccine, and advice is to have two. I've had all my others so I'm guessing the advice for a second one came in after I was born. So I've booked in for that next week. As it's a live vaccine, the doctor recommends not TTC for 28 days after so I'm hoping this next cycle is normal and we can get back to it in January's cycle. It feels wasteful throwing a chance away but at least then I won't need to worry about it. And it feels like getting all my ducks in a row!

Hope you're doing ok today @Sarah5678?

Hey @PlanBea

Phoned the gp and they said all my blood results are within normal ranges and require no action! Suppose that's good but will have to wait for ultrasound now to see if I get an answers then! Now on cd73 and reallyyy getting sick!

@PlanBea blimey. That's good you've found out, I didn't know that though. To be honest I wouldn't consider we are 'trying' anymore. This long cycle has completely thrown me and we've hardly dtd. I have felt so low. Not helped by the dark days. I literally feel nothing. It's the only way to deceive it. My hormones are dead.

@Sarah5678 I think that'll be me next week. Are you booked in for a scan? They've told me my results are normal but I've got an appointment next week to discuss. Also got my cervical screening- no end of excitement that day!

I have had some sharp lower stomach pains recently. It's right in the middle. I always panic it's the start of an UTI as I suffered with them terribly when I was younger (10 years plus ago). I suspect it is related to PCOS or IBS though, but it can be quite sore but once or twice every few days. It panics me. I'm done also

This morning I did a OPK. I almost didn't. My urine was strong so I thought I shouldn't but did. The second line came up quickly.

But in my sleepy state I did a pregnancy test. An internet cheapy. A second line came up immediately.

I got the emergency FRER out. Nothing..

What's going on.... false positive? The FRER is so much more sensitive surely that's the best one