TTC for the 1st time and struggling!

[MrsA2019]

Hi everyone, this is my first post so please bear with me!

We are recently married and desperate to have a baby. I came off the pill in May, married and started trying in August and so far no luck.

I know its not been too long so far but we are wanting a baby so badly so it feels like an age! I work in Maternity and it feels like everyone is having a baby but me.

I am using ovulation sticks, which seem to tell me I ovulate and I am constantly symptom spotting. I track my periods and I am regular. I feel crazy. Everyone is telling me to stop thinking about it but it's easier said than done! The first month of trying I cried when AF came (pulled myself together the following months!)

Last month I was 2 days late and convinced I must be pregnancy but BFN and AF came the next day

I am now mid cycle so the TWW begins!

Any advise, suggestions and reassurance welcome

Hi @MrsA2019 🙂 if it's any help I drove myself nuts and spent a small fortune on tests out first month ttc. I feel exactly the same, everyone is pregnant but me. The only advice I can give is do whatever makes you feel most relaxed. For me thats ovulation tracking and testing only at 10dpo or later but everyone is different! Sending you lots of luck xx

Thank you @HalfPenny28

Definitely know how you feel! I know it is annoying but please try to enjoy ttc while you can. I've been ttc for 17 months and it's a very stressful time.

@MrsA2019 no problem :) I found a lot of comfort in just chatting to people on here going through the same thing! My tww starts tomorrow so happy to keep you company 💐🙂 xx

Can I join the club? Have be TTc since August too and no joy. Realistically and logically it’s early days but still............. 👶 👶 👶. I’m 7 DPO this cycle , have stopped the OPKs and limiting myself to less mumsnet time as got very stressed about things last month.

Wishing you ladies lots of luck 🤞

How is everyone feeling?

I think I've got sore boobs but only when I poke them but never really got that pre period before.
I'm also really emotional but think that's because I'm just sad we aren't pregnant yet.
I read somewhere that if pregnant the ovulation sticks still show up positive, mine are definitely negative so that got me down.

Who knows but trying not to get my hopes up!

Fingers crossed for us all! Xx

@MrsA2019 hey 🙂👋🏼

Feeling a bit down in the dumps at the moment and am ready so much stuff!

I feel like I might be having implantation cramps today but I thought that last month and bfn!

I've been reading that the ic tests I've got are rubbish but don't want to waste a load of money on frer 😅 so all over the place!

How're you?

Hello! I am not yet pregnant but also TTC. I have heard that sometimes it takes sperm 2-3 days to get to the egg so good to have sex before the LH surge as well... I'm sure you know all about that and all the various tips so please forgive me if I'm telling you stuff you already know. I think it can be confusing with all the stuff out there these days! It's helpful. But also confusing! X

@HalfPenny28 down in the dumps also. I've just been chatting with DH about how I feel and how I'm upset it's not us yet that's pregnant.
He obviously doesn't want me to be sad but his idea of helping is way off the mark right now. He says I need to have a 'vision' and work out how I'm going to make it happen. Is he joking?!
I just want to be left to be sad for a bit but he can't understand why anyone would want to feel like that. Obviously I don't want to be sad forever but I feel like I just need this time....hard to explain.
As a result neither of us want to BD right now so I guess this sadness is affecting my 'vision'

We are only 4 months in and I know people have it really a lot worse but not knowing when our time will be is unbearable.

@MrsA2019 my DP is similar to that. His response when I'm sad about it is that 'itll happen when it happens'. Think he just doesnt want to get his hopes up more than anything. Sometimes we just need to have a moment to be sad before we pull ourselves together again.

Fingers crossed we both get the BFP soon 🤞

Hi all, I'm in the same situation. I stopped my pill in Feb this year and we started trying in March. At first I wasn't paying too much attention of when we were DTD and ovulation but after months of trying and no luck I bought ovulation test. When I used them I realised that I was ovulating later than what my app was saying so we started trying around that time (we're too tired to DTD every other day so we are a bit more selective with the days we're "active" ).
Last mont AF was late 6 days when it's always on time so we got quite excites even though we tried not to put our hopes up. Never the less when AF arrived I was devastated and my DH was very disappointing too. I'm 31 and he's 28 so we though that it would be pretty easy, which clearly hasn't been the case 😒