TTC #1 and hot yoga?

[danielasummer]

Hi everyone, my DH and I are planning on TTC next month after a missed miscarriage in early October. We both tried hot yoga last night for the first time and absolutely loved it! But today I have been researching like a crazy person whether hot yoga is safe when TTC or if it impedes the process..

FYI we are both taking Zita West vitamin/vitafem, eating well, I don't drink and DH has cut down a lot, we don't smoke, I'm 27 and he's 28, he exercises a lot and both have a good BMI. I also track BBT and cervical music (although both are out of whack due to miscarriage). Will hot yoga ruin our chances of conception? Will be grateful to hear of your experiences, and if you have asked a doctor for their opinion on this x

@danielasummer I love hot yoga and have been going regularly for many years. I fell pregnant in September (and wasn't trying) so continued to go until I got a BFP at 5 weeks. Sadly I had a MMC early October which I know is almost certainly unrelated to the yoga, now we are actively trying again I'm hesitant to go back. My teacher told me that it is personal choice on whether you continue to practice she had one lady who was going right up until her due date. But I think the increased heat is the issue. I wouldn't go in a sauna or steam room if I thought there was a chance I could be pregnant so probably won't go back to hot yoga sadly. With all the other risks I just want to try and eliminate as many as possible that are in my control. Currently in the 2WW and enjoying the gym and good walks with the dogs! Whatever you decide I hope you fall pregnant again and it all works out for you. Namaste 🙏 x

Hi @Mystie I think we were on the same May 2020 thread.. I'm so sorry to hear you have also miscarried - it's awful isn't it?

Fingers crossed for a positive after your TWW! I think I probably won't continue hot yoga which is a shame but I don't want to ruin my chances. Thank you for your reply xx

Heat exposure like that isn't good whilst ttc in particular the 2WW or early pregnancy hence why doctors recommend to avoid hot tubs

@danielasummer it really is the pits! So sorry that you had to go through it as well. Fingers crossed for both of us in the near future! 😘

@itwasalovelydreamwhileitlasted yes I think you're definitely right.. no hot yoga for me whilst TTC and (fingers crossed) pregnant! Thank you! x

@Mystie it's the absolute worst. Has been the worst time of my life but hopefully coming to the end of it now (bleeding finished 2 days ago, but still getting positive pregnancy tests.. hope it's all over soon!). Sending loads of positive vibes your way, hopefully we will see each other on a pregnancy thread soon x

@danielasummer oh lovely I'm so sorry you've had such an awful time. How many weeks were you when you found out it wasn't viable? Did you have surgery or let it happen naturally? It is the most overwhelmingly emotional rollercoaster, after you get past one hurdle another one appears, I remember waiting ages for my negative and it felt so wrong and upsetting wishing for a negative test result. Really hope you get yours soon so you can start trying again. But make sure you give yourself time to recover and don't rush it if you're not ready. I'm 43 so time isn't on our side, trying not to get too anxious about this month, if it doesn't happen than it will be nice to enjoy a few drinks in the run up to Christmas. Don't think I could handle having an early scan the week before Christmas and potentially go through it all again x

@Mystie Thank you, so I had an early scan at 7+3 but they measured me at 6+1 which was weird, saw the heartbeat which was amazing, so I started to relax.. little did I know that 2 days later the baby's heart would stop beating - I found out 3 weeks later at a random scan I had which wasn't even booked (happened to be at the hospital for bloods), was so awful. I had medical management 2 weeks ago today and was told to do a pregnancy test today which is positive, so I have no idea what to do now!

How are you doing? Did you have surgery or natural or medicine? Is this your first? When did you find out? It was so lovely being on the May thread wasn't it.. I hope everyone else is doing ok, I'm just so devastated.

Thank you for your advice. I'm hoping you're not able to have any drinks at Christmas... let me know how you get on after your TWW x

@danielasummer oh god I'm so sorry that sounds horrendous, so cruel after you heard a heartbeat. There really is no way you can even start to relax at all until 12 week scan I don't think as anything can happen no matter how many times you have scans. I found out quite early thankfully, had some bleeding and so had an early scan but they couldn't see an embryo, they told me to come back in 2 weeks as they thought I could've been earlier than I thought but after 2 weeks of light bleeding I went back and the sac had collapsed so we were told it wasn't developing I think I was around 7 weeks although nothing had grown since 5 weeks. We were offered a D&C the next day which was a relief not having to wait and thankfully only had 3 days of bleeding. That was 8 October, Took around 10 days to get a negative test. Had this weird energy surge the following week, went back to the gym and felt ok then the week after felt like the world was crashing down around me and was in bed for days! Put on about half a stone as well think I've punishing my body for not doing its job properly. Trying to get back on track now in the hope it might happen this month. Will you start trying again straight away?

This isn't my first, I'm really lucky to have 3 amazing kids, 18, 12 and 11 but this will be first (and only) baby with my new partner. We've only been together 16 months but both really want a baby together and know I haven't got much time. He's 26 so has plenty of time 🤣 hoping his young healthy sperm will do the job!! To add salt to the wound we had a termination in February because we'd only been together 6 months at the time. It was the right thing to do, but if it doesn't happen for us I think I'll always regret not going through with it.

Is this your first? Whereabouts do you live? X

@Mystie bless you, thank you. It was an ordeal to say the least! I've just spoken to the EPU and they told me to do another pregnancy test in a week, and if it's still positive, to go for a scan.. which will be heartbreaking because I have a really negative/traumatic view of ultrasound scan rooms now. But we'll see how it goes.

I'm so sorry you have also suffered this. Whether you found out early or late, a loss is still a loss and grief is grief I've found. When people have tried to make me feel better by saying 'at least you weren't further along' I have to just smile and nod because how can anyone understand the love you have for your little bean growing inside of you unless they are you?!

How was the D&C? I'm really glad you had only 3 days of bleeding. I think you can be so up one day and down another, which is what sounds like happened to you. I take it as a win if I haven't cried by 1pm most days! My fingers are crossed that you start to feel somewhat 'back to normal soon' (whatever that means for you) and my heart goes out to you.

We would like to start trying again ASAP but the midwife at the EPU told me this morning to absolutely not start trying until I've had a period, which would be 4-6 weeks from the negative test.. so for me, around 5-7 weeks away, which seems like to long to wait, especially since I normally ovulate day 26! So we're looking at late January/early February now, which literally breaks my heart. How are you feeling about trying again?

I am sure you will get your baby with your new partner! If you're still having periods then there's no reason not to, and as you say, if he's young he has some good swimmers!!

I know it's easy to look back and reflect on past actions but in February that was the right thing for you. I've realised over time that regrets don't serve us and we do the best we can when difficult situations arise.

Yes this is my first. We got married in August after being together for 9 years and didn't expect to get pregnant honestly (we were going to start trying in January 2020) but I ovulated super late because of the wedding so I fell pregnant 2 weeks after it! I live in Cambridgeshire. What about you? x

Just to say I did hot yoga whilst pregnant from about month 3 to month 7 when it just got too hot / Uncomfortable. I had been going for a while prior though and the teacher gave me modifications. I absolutely loved it - kept me sane and was a gorgeous relax at the end. Good luck!

@danielasummer I'm so sorry that you have to wait that long, hopefully Christmas will be a good distraction that you can really enjoy. Very good chance next Christmas you will be pregnant or even have a newborn! I know it's hard to even imagine that when you've just been through a loss I really do but if there was ever a good time of year to not be TTC it's Christmas.

I am trying not to get super obsessive about the whole thing although it's really hard when you're charting etc. I definitely think stress plays a big part in falling pregnant and don't want it to become the centre of everything (easier said than done)!

Really good sign that you feel pregnant without even trying, that's such a positive sign!! You just need to really look after yourself for the next few months - it will happen again!!!

I'm in St Albans! Xxx

@VickyBHF Hi, thank you so much for posting. I'm glad you enjoyed hot yoga throughout - I've spoken to the yoga teacher and she said in her studio they don't allow pregnant women as it's a super hot class. I think I'll sit it out until post-baby (fingers crossed!) but it's good to know that you were able to do it throughout pregnancy. x

@Mystie thank you, it'll all be over soon I'm sure.

I don't actually drink but I will definitely over-indulge on smoked salmon and stuffing! Fingers crossed we will both be pregnant/holding a baby in our Christmas photos next year. Will be thinking of you.

Are you charting everything? I do BBT (used to for birth control but now pregnancy) and sometimes cervical mucus but I'm not too good at that one. Did you use OPKs too? TTC really blows my mind to be honest.. there's so much to think about - it's not easy, is it?! x

@danielasummer I know the whole thing is such a minefield! I've started charting bbt and opks this month, using easy @ home cheapie opks and the Premom app which reads the result, much easier than trying to work out a positive yourself. Also bought an Ava bracelet, realising I probably didn't need to as I seem to be getting pretty clear results from opks and temping!

@Mystie Agreed. It's physically, mentally, emotionally exhausting and I think about it all of the time! My miscarriage, fertility in general, trying again... it seems to seep into every thought and most conversations I have. Thank you for recommending Premom, will use that when I get AF after a negative pregnancy test (fingers crossed that will be soon). How far are you in the TWW? x

@danielasummer I'm 4dpo according to app although I'm pretty sure I'm 5 as I had really distinct O cramps on Friday but I'm going to go by what the app says! Had the weirdest pain in my nipples last night before I went to bed, they felt like they were literally on fire, was really painful. Also had loads of bloating and felt lightheaded today but I know that all of these are common symptoms for increase in progesterone which would happen if I was pregnant or not so not reading into them.

I know what you mean about TTC consuming everything you do and think about, it's so hard to switch off! How was you day?

@Mystie Ooh not long to go then, if you keep busy I'm sure it'll go quickly. You'll keep me updated on this thread? :) I can imagine it's hard not to read into things when you want something so badly but only time will tell I guess.

My day was ok thanks, and I have had most of today off too which has been nice, so keeping really busy doing odd jobs and meal prepping! How has yours been? x

@danielasummer glad you're ok lovely. I feel terrible today really hormonal and tearful. My best friend text me earlier and told me she's 4 days late 😏 She has a 9 month old daughter and we have been excited about getting pregnant around the same time and I really want to be so happy for her but i really wanted it to be me first, I know that sounds really selfish but she's not even trying and will be annoyed if she is as she's going to Barbados for Christmas and wants to be able to enjoy that. Never realised I'd feel like this as haven't been through this before but really makes me realise how hard it must be for women who try for years and have to watch their friends and family getting pregnant and having babies. I'm sure the feeling will pass , I know it doesn't come from a horrible place and that I will be happy for her if it is positive, I just really wish it was me!

Fingers crossed all of these mood swings will be leading to a BFP next week, of course I will keep you updated and likewise!!!

Been trying to keep busy, I don't work so days are pretty empty during school hours but I've been trying to get organised for Christmas and start feeling a bit festive. We're having it at home this year just the 5 of us which will be really nice and chilled. What are you doing for Christmas? X

Please don’t stop doing your regular activities while TTC. You’ll go insane. It could take months. Hot yoga will not stop you conceiving. Nor will hot tubs. Or Saunas. Or steam rooms. These things should be avoided once you are in fact established as pregnant (after your missed period). Giving up things you enjoy makes TTC even more mentally draining when it doesn’t happen first time. Carry on doing yoga, carry on enjoying the foods you love, have a drink if you drink (maybe just not in excess although think about how many babies have probably been conceived while drunk).. if it starts to take a long time to conceive, you can research some more but at the start of your journey, relax & live life as normal!

This pregnancy, I did Go Ape the day before my missed period. I was relatively certain I might be pregnant but I hadn’t missed a period and didn’t want to miss my friends birthday! No harm done & enjoy being Tarzan for the day

@Mystie aw lovely I'm so sorry you're feeling that way :( I honestly know how it feels. My cousin and I announced our pregnancies to each other on the same day (our babies would have been a few weeks apart) and honestly, I am so envious of her as her pregnancy is going well and only a few short weeks after telling her, I lost mine. I totally know how you feel. I have had to delete Facebook so that I can't see people's pregnancy announcements. You're not alone in this. Just know that her time has come now, and yours will come soon. We're all just following the trajectory of ours lives and at one point, perhaps when you were having your previous children, she was really jealous of you but didn't say anything. We're all fighting an internal battle and unfortunately for you and I, it's our time to fight our battle. We'll have peace one day when our babies are in our arms.

Anyway, fingers, toes, everything crossed for you for next week! Have you had any other symptoms?

Your chilled Christmas sounds lovely! We always go to my grandmothers for a big 9 course feast (we're Italian), so lots of people, lots of shouting (happy shouting!), it'll be lovely! Trying to put the fact that I should have a rather large baby bump out of my mind. Didn't feel like putting up a tree this year but I know I will do it as I do normally love Christmas. x

@Bol87 thank you for your advice - my cycles are very long and irregular and this year (although I was pregnant for 7 weeks of it) I only ovulated 4 times, so my chances are low anyway (I'm 27, normal BMI, already had one miscarriage, not sure what's going on with my ovulation). Therefore I'm just being so cautious with what I'm doing in the lead up of TTC. I will definitely continue to eat what I like though - sushi is my favourite! - and give up after ovulation. Luckily I don't drink alcohol so that's not an issue. We are going to try normal yoga together which is a good activity to do when TTC and when pregnant and it's something we both enjoy :) Thank you so much for your advice though. Sometimes I can convince myself into thinking one way but I do need others' opinions too!

I love Go Ape! Did you get a BFP? x

@danielasummer I can't imagine how hard that must be for you, I'm so sorry. I definitely think the universe has an individual plan for everyone and things are supposed to happen in the right order. Your strength really shines through in your words and are a real comfort, thank you.

More bloating last night and migraine symptoms today which I had when I was pregnant last time but all could be non related. I'm really trying not to symptom spot but it's so hard not too!! My OH thinks we should not test at all and just wait and see what happens but I know how hard that's going to be when next week arrives. I'm tracking LH levels anyway so that will be a pretty much yes or know by 11dpo and my temp may fall which will count me out as well before doing a test. How are you feeling?

Your Christmas plans sound wonderful!!! If I'm not pg I'm really going to enjoy this one as much as possible, next year could be very different - for both of us!

Have a lovely weekend 😊 x

@Mystie ahh thank you, and I'm so glad that has given you comfort. I wish I could say I was that positive and strong all of the time, as some days I wake up and pretty much howl all morning by myself which is a pretty dark time, but I do get moments of 'this has happened for a reason, life isn't all roses, and my time will come'. MN has honestly helped me so much, as has talking to people such as yourself. It certainly has made me feel less alone in a world when my 'real life' friends and family just don't understand (although I'm happy that they don't, as I don't wish what I've gone through on anyone).

How are you feeling towards your friend today? Has your day been a little better? I really hope it has. Sending you positive vibes and a virtual handhold.

Aww that's so exciting and must be so hard not to symptom spot! It's good to keep a clear head and feel balanced about whether it is or isn't a BFP, but I'm rooting for you, so please let me know! Fingers crossed for sustained high temps for you!!

Yes, definitely enjoy it as much as possible. Have a few tipples and drinks for me too (I don't drink but will be over-indulging on soft cheeses if I'm not pregnant by then!)

Hope you have a lovely weekend too. Any plans? x

@danielasummer hey lovely, hope you're having a good Saturday so far? I'm in the most horrendous mood really lucky my OH has gone to his parents for the weekend so he can avoid my moodiness... let's hope it's all those pregnancy hormones churning away! Took the dog out for a run this morning which was nice, I always feel better after exercise even if it isn't completely! Got a nice afternoon ahead, going to collect my sons first car from Bedford, he hasn't quite passed his test yet but is doing a crash course at the moment, always a special moment when you get the keys to your first car!

It turned out that my friend wasn't pregnant in the end, which she was really relieved about. I felt terribly guilty for also being relieved as I know that's not fair but like you said we all go through these challenges and it doesn't make us bad people.

In terms of my symptoms I'm still bloated in the evenings, boobs are fine though. Temp is getting higher and LH is creeping up to but don't think that really means anything until after around 10dpo.

One of my other closest friends works on a super yacht and has been over seas since February (ironically last time I saw her I fell pregnant) and she's back this week and coming to stay on Thursday/Friday next week. If I get a negative it will defiantly be a silver lining knowing I can let my hair down with her and not worry about doing anything I shouldn't be while pregnant! The Christmas diary is filling up pretty quickly now so I really don't think I'll be dwelling on a negative too much this month, I hate getting FOMO! 🤣

Decided I probably won't drink now until I know the result as I know it can affect implantation, I'm really not a big boozer so won't be the hardest thing to do. We're going to the Christmas festival with lights switch on tomorrow which will be a good distraction!

Hope you're feeling ok xx

@Mystie hey, it's been a reeeeally busy weekend which is great as I've just sat down for the first time and remembered that tomorrow I have to take a pregnancy test, now feeling all anxious!

Aww no I hope you're feeling better? Hope you had a good weekend! Are you feeling a little less cross with your OH?

Don't feel guilty for feeling relieved. One of my friends has also been messaging me feeling 'off' and I'm pretty sure her symptoms are all pregnancy-related.. so we'll see how I feel if I get the news.

Do you have any more symptoms? You totally have the right attitude of 'if I'm not, I get to enjoy xxx' which is what I'm hoping I will feel like when we start trying again!

Hope you had a good time at the Christmas lights! x