Feeling like a failure after 2nd MC

[SoonToBeMrs91]

I have recently suffered my second MC, the first one was in July at 5 +6, this one end of October at 7 weeks. And I do know there is nothing we could have done in either case. I know I haven't done anything wrong, yet I feel like it is my fault. We have been TTC since beginning of the year, both times were over the moon when we got BFP. We've just recently got married (less than 2 weeks ago)
I hate the fact that we are no closer to having our baby than we were this time 10 months ago, and I know there are couples that try for years. I do know that even after 2 MC's there's still a pretty good chance the next pregnancy will go to term and we will get our baby.
But I feel like it's all my fault. Like the fact that I was on hormonal contraception for years prior have damaged me somehow, and I won't be able to have a successful pregnancy. (I have my IUD removed almost 2 years ago and haven't had any hormonal contraception since)
My DH has been so supportive I couldn't have asked for more.
I honestly do not know why I'm posting it. I just need a virtual hug

Hello OP
I'm so sorry for your loss
I'm in a very similar situation right now as I also had a miscarriage in July at 5 weeks and have just miscarried again at 7+5. I'm devastated. I'm also worried that it will take forever to conceive again and even if we conceive, will I be able to carry the pregnancy?
We have both been very unlucky. I wish I could say something to make it better for you and I feel like I'm not being much help as I'm also not in the best place right now, but just wanted you to know that you are not alone. Please don't blame yourself.
I hope you are able to get some rest and allow yourself to be looked after by DH.
Sending hugs to you xx

@Flippetyfloppy I'm so sorry for your loss. I know theres nothing anyone can do or say to make things better. I do hope it doesn't take us ages to get our rainbow babies xx if you ever need to talk, or just need someone to listen I'm here for you xx back to TTC for us isn't it

@SoonToBeMrs91 I'm so sorry for your loss.

Our first pregnancy also ended in miscarriage at 5w6 in August. I've only just now had my first cycle since with AF due in the next day or so (or at least I think).

I took it very hard, the only thing I took away from it was that whilst it didn't stick I at least know I CAN get pregnant - we'd been trying Since August last year so basically a year.

Happy to be a sympathetic ear if you need as I feel our journey has been pretty much the same.

I'm so sorry for your losses. The best advice I can give is try and remind yourself that despite the MCs, you can get pregnant. Many try to conceive for so long before realising there are underlying fertility issues - you know you can. Similarly, many women suffer a number of MCs before they get that sticky one that refuses to budge. I've got my fingers crossed for you that your next cycle comes up good x

@GingerRH sorry for your loss. I took the first one really bad. It is devastating. I agree at least we can get pregnant. Did AF show up? Are you using OPKs? Or just tracking from period.

@Cator thank you xx I'm trying not to lose hope and focus on the positive, like you said at least I know I can get pregnant

@SoonToBeMrs91 I use OPKS, although not excessively any more. I'll just do them from day 10 just to confirm it. And then I track my period.

It really is heartbreaking. Especially when it's taken so long to fall to begin with.

No AF. I've had a few positive pregnancy tests but being very cautious as I'm technically only 3W4. Xx

@GingerRH fingers crossed this one sticks and AF stays away xx keep me updated hun