Wanting a baby but partner doesn’t?

[Lucky97]

TLDR I want/need a baby but partner doesn’t

Basically I have 1 son he’s nearly 3 and i really want another baby, it’s almost as if it’s pulling at my heart strings saying i NEED to have another baby. Have you ever wanted a baby so much it was getting you down and making you almost depressed? My partner isn’t my sons father but is very much like a father to him. He is not fussed at all and really doesn’t want children yet and tries to reassure me that we won’t split and he won’t leave if i do fall pregnant but he wouldn’t be happy. I just find it hard to explain to him how much this is really really playing with my heart strings i don’t know how to word it anymore. Any help or advice would be great please 🙏🏻🙏🏻

When he says he doesn't want children "yet".. how old are you? And does he want them at some stage in the future? It's a decision that both of you have to be happy with

He just keeps saying he doesn’t know but he might, he’s always said he doesn’t want children at all, so i keep trying to talk to him, he just keeps replying he knows he doesn’t want one now.

You haven’t been together that long so unless you’re 40+ there’s no hurry and he’s said he’s not ready so that’s that for now. If you definitely want another child then you could put a timeframe on it and if he’s still not sure then break up and find someone who does want children. You’d be insane to get pregnant without him agreeing. He might not leave straight away but he’s been clear he’s not ready so make sure your contraception is reliable.

Well, then you’re completely incompatible. There are no compromises on having a child. You can’t slightly have a baby. And the person who doesn’t want one has the veto. All children should be wanted.

Why did you start a relationship with someone who has been explicit that he didn’t want children if you’re on fire for another, anyway?

I’ve discussed it with him and reassured him that as much as i want a baby, i wouldn’t ‘trick’ him before he was ready. contraception is in order 👍🏻

I totally understand the deep desire for a baby but he doesn't want one yet and that's the end of it I'm afraid.

It seems either you’re incompatible or you are both very young and he isn’t ready yet.

I would guess as the second and that you’re early 20s which would probably just mean that he’s not ready as of yet. Give him a few years and then discuss again.