How to not be disheartened every month

[kylieeee]

So, fiancé and I have been together for 6 years and after years of broodiness on both parts, we are ready to buy our own home = ready for our little family😌

I stopped taking the pill at the end of August and spent the last couple of weeks of September convinced I was pregnant because of the horrid tricks my body played on me that month. AF came a few days late, very light and brownish. I then convinced myself it must be implantation bleeding - anything but facing the reality. Then the heavens opened, lol.

We DTD every day during my October fertile window and i had lots of nausea so my hopes peaked again. Only to be shot down by AF.

I promised myself I wouldn't get wrapped up in it and 'if it happens, it happens' but it turns out I CANT DO IT😂 I'm struggling to not be disappointed every single time and it's taking away from the excitement of it. Does anyone have any tips on how I can chill out about it a bit more and not be raging at my AF when she comes?

Thanks x

I'm not going to be much help here but it took us just almost 3 years to conceive and honestly when we were actively TTC I really struggled badly, it consumed every day of my life tbh.

We got a puppy a few months ago and she is our baby (always will be the first born haha). We then had a break where I started the pill again and then stopped a couple months ago. We literally DTD once on the day of ovulation and somehow I conceived.

We also started going to the gym together and going out drinking a lot more or even just going for food. Almost like we did lots of stuff not baby friendly and we got a baby! Same thing happened to my aunt years ago. 5 years and 3 failed IVF rounds then she gave up and finally became a nurse and just started her job then boom, pregnant completely naturally.

I just believe in things happening At the right time, although at the time 3 years ago I thought I was ready I don't think I actually was (but this is just me personally & my story ) . Now I feel very ready and the baby's due date is our wedding anniversary! Maybe fate if you believe in that.

Good luck & I hope you get your BFP very soon ❤️xx

I'm feeling disheartened at the moment too. Started TTC in June, and just finished yet another AF, so going on to Cycle 6 now. I know it's not long in the scheme of things, and I cling to the statistics about most healthy couples conceiving within a year, but still. Every single month I convince myself it's happened (sore boobs! twinges! nausea!) but each month there's no whisper of a BFP, and AF arrives right on cue.

It took us 5 years and a round of IVF before we finally had a positive test and I found the best way to deal with the disappointment was to always have things planned to look forward to. I've lost count of the amount of times I told myself well it wouldn't be convienient to be pregnant this month as we're going to ...... and I'd like a glass of wine or I'd like to be able to do .....

Lots of good advice here. Not sure how to stop the disapointment. I personally gave myself time scales and a plan. So came off the pill, give it 3 months to see what cycle is like and if its regular. If not speak to GP. After cycle becoming regular, give it 6 months. If not pregnant, consider private fertility testing (fortunately for me this would have been an option, partly because once we started trying we also started saving). I didn't want to leave it a year because I read some research, about how 80% will conceive in 6 months, if you dtd at the right time. Fortunately I got pregnant in that time. I found it helped to have timescales in my head and between those times to tell myself not to think about it. Also banned myself from testing before AF arrived. Different things work for different people. I don't know how I would have found it if it took years, have massive respect for people who go through that. Good luck.