How to cope with the mental load?

[Itstime1]

Hi.

First actual post here, myself and DH have decided to try for baby number 1. (Both 25, together 7 years and married for 1. Want to try now as it’s a good time work wise for both of us)

My goodness this is a mind field! I’ve been on the pill for 6 1/2 years (Cerezette) and stopped on 30 Sep. I’m waiting and waiting for AF to come so I know I have some sort of cycle again (6 1/2 years without a single period means I have no clue at all)... it’s like I’m doing it blindly.

Is it just my brain that goes into overthinking mode? I’ve already ordered clear blue ovulation sticks to try every day for the foreseeable to see when it says I’m actually ovulating. Every possible scenario goes through my head during the day (pill has messed my body up etc) and it’s really getting me down.

Sorry for the rant- I just wanted to ask how do people cope with all the waiting around for bodies to adjust and everything else that goes along with it. I’m so impatient

Any tips on how to just calmly wait it all out?

Thanks

Hi, i was on the same pill for 10+ years never bled on it and coming off it was totally alien to me. It took me 6 weeks to have a period/withdrawal bleed and then after that my period was anything from 28-34 day cycles. I came off in January and started TTC in april I'm now pregnant. I used the clearblue digital advance ovulation tests too ironically the month they didnt give me any flashing smileys or anything to indicate i had ovulated and i thought i was out for the month, i got pregnant which taught me i was relying on them far too much. Wishing you lots of luck for the journey ahead.

Hi. I had a period after 2 weeks coming off cerelle but i had lots of symptoms like nausea and bloating. I think it takes a while for all the hormones to leave completely. Since then I've had a 31 then 33 day cycle. Used to be every 27 days so think its taking body a while to get back to normal. I m ttc on cycle 3

Firstly, I've read that the pill doesn't affect your fertility or mess up your body. It might take a bit longer to return, but once it does, there shouldn't be any effect.
Secondly, and this is the biggest cliche in the book, please please please don't start your journey by stressing and over-thinking. Hopefully you won't have fertility issues, so the longer you can relax and try not to focus on it the better. Also you are so young, you have so much time.
I started at 36, took a year, so I was panicking every month, over-thinking, it literally took over my life and it was horrible. If you can avoid putting yourself through all that, just try and enjoy it for at least 6 months before you start thinking about all the what ifs.