End of November, jump on board!

[Skygirl1983]

Moving on from the October threads, join in those that will be testing at the end of November. (Which also happens to be my birthday!)

@Ellsbells112 that's what I've had the past couple of days, but I don't know if it's positive or not!

The only other "symptom" (if you can call it that) which I've had is that, no matter how often I brush my teeth, my mouth still feels like I haven't! Especially in the morning, and I usually brush over the 2 minutes (my dentist both hates and loves me in equal measure!). Anyone else ever had this?! Or am I imagining it? Ha x

@Louu99 I know and I feel awful moaning about him cause I should be grateful! We've had quite the debate through text this morning 😂 I think he feels in a catch 22 situation, he's trying to support me (the one buying OPK kits) but can't be too overbearing!
It's just so stressful! I never imagined we'd be "one of them couples" and would just fall on, but we're obsessed already!!

I wish mine was so invested! I feel like my OH has totally gone off the boil. The past 3 nights I have tried to initiate things and nothing. He usually has a low sex drive as it is but it seems like now we are doing it for a purpose he has lost interest! It's making me feel so sad as in every other way he is lovely but knowing how much I would like a baby makes it's so hard when he doesn't seem interested in the actual work required!

@Ellsbells112 I’m 6 dpo today, that was first I’ve tried to do it. Tbh no clue what I’m feeling for 😂 I just read that it could be a sign I’m so impatient it’s a joke 😂

@ciaraj01 haha yeah its good that you told him though now he can relax a little, or at least act relaxed. I'm constantly telling OH how much I want a baby and why isn't it happening 🤣

@Louu99 dunno about the teeth thing, sorry! When I was preggo before brushing my teeth used to make me feel sick but that was like 4 weeks in or something 🤷‍♀️
I have no symptoms and I guess I shouldn't at this stage except for that heavy feeling yesterday that is gone now x

@Skygirl1983 I know I shouldnt complain.
I sent my OH a...'nice' pic the night before to get some romance in... and he replied was I ovulating 😂😂😂 Like, way to kill a mood!! I'm happy hes keen and has the stamina, but I just dont want it to feel clinical! Definite role reveral in our relationship 😂
Sorry to hear your struggling though, it's probably a self conscious thing - if we dont really try, I havent failed type thing. Have you tried to lighten the mood and avoid TTC conversations? I've just text mine saying I'll do the OPK kits etc but we wont really discuss them anymore, and if either of us initiate anything we'll just be up for it rather than being too concerned about timings but I'll make sure we always try when I'm ovulating.

@Skygirl1983 I feel your pain, mine started trying after the first month of him not really trying and I cried when my af came. He then started to take it a bit more serious luckily but we just arent a couple that have a lot of sex lol so it's a bit of a strain 🤦‍♀️

@nt1992 yeah you need to feel for it on other days too so you know when it feels different lol like I started feeling before my period last cycle, it was low and hard and i wasnt pregnant. Then when i was ovulating i couisnt feel it at all it was too high and soft! The i felt it get lower on monday then tuesday it was at its normal spot again. So who bloody knows what it all means!! Ecen temperature is driving me up the wall! Yesterday mine was 96.6 and today 97.5 what does it all mean!!

I really try and not make a thing about it so he doesn't feel the pressure. He know about the opk and stuff but only tell him about it when he asks. But he obviously knows the purpose behind it all and seems that that pressure is enough to put him off. I wonder if he is worried about his swimmers? I already have 3 children from a previous relationship whereas he has non. So I know I can get pregnant. I don't even want to think about if we have to chat to the doctor about it as he wont go. He never goes to the doctor for anything!

@Skygirl1983 Sorry to hear that, I know it can be hard. This entire process is freaking hard! Think you might both need a conversation to find out what's happening in his head. I'm guessing he wants a baby to but why isn't he putting in the work. I had a bit of a meltdown over the weekend. I felt a lot of pressure and started crying and my OH was so shocked. I don't think he realised everything I was thinking and doing. He said to speak to him anytime and that he is always there. I'm glad that convo happened, I feel a sense of relief and don't feel too pressured and worried anymore. Try not to let it get you down ok, you said he was lovely in every other way so speak to him, be open and share. Hugs

Thanks ladies. It's so hard. And such an emotional rollercoaster. I dont really have any one else to talk to about this so it's good to let it out here. He would love a baby, and I know he would make a great dad. But I think he totally underestimated what is involved. I think he thought it would just happen!! It would be lovely it that was the case but we already have age going against us!! I'll have a chat with him about it and hopefully that'll reassure a bit that I just dont want sex to have a baby. I actually just want to have sex too!! Lol!

Sounds like he could be. I've just sent a really long text to mine about not worrying and trying to make it fun, so hopefully that helps! Maybe try the same? Men are a funny bunch as it is and it's likely just trying to cover up his feelings. Mine has never attended a doc since I've met him so I'm dreading that chat too! I even googled online testing kits for men just incase si we could put his mind at rest! Might be an option for your OH if that's what's on his mind...
A chat has worked for us this morning, we're off on a date tonight 😂 Maybe give it a shot... good luck! xx

Your OH sounds just like mine. I've also looked at those kits too!! We are going out to see some fireworks tonight so will use the excuse of being cold to cuddle up and hopefully put him in the mood!!

They sound very alike!! Fingers crossed this evening has more fireworks for you 😂😂 They're bloody hard work arent they?!

@Ellsbells112 god I never knew that 🙈 I tried to get to it this morning but couldn’t reach it (if it’s even looking for the right thing) I’m going to leave it be and just wait and see such a long wait I’m 6 dpo today 😓

They are very hard work!! There better be more than fireworks tonight!! 😂😂

So difficult not to be obsessed! Sometimes I find myself fantasising about the potential due date, when I haven't even ovulated yet!
Good luck with the fireworks tonight, ladies!

Is anyone else peeing loads more than usual??

If it's any consolation ladies me and my partner never talk about ovulation/fertile times/baby making sex. It's all done in winks and nods, subliminal mesaages. And he is the father of my other two but it's not something we'll probably ever talk about.

He will have sex on command though Everytime so I guess that means we never have had to have those conversations, and we have fallen quickly when trying before.

He is quite honestly so basic, if it involves sex even if he knows it's because I'm trying to get pregnant he will do it for the sex alone 😂

He love his babies and wants more children but he will definitely never discuss this beyond 'yes that's fine'.

I feel that's more abnormal then some of your partners attitudes to be honest, they sound very normal to me, wanting information and keen to absorb knowledge

So the lack of symptoms I said I had... was wrong. I've suddenly come over very dizzy and light headed, have been sick and generally feel awful.

It is winter time, and there's lots of lurgies going around but this isn't normal for me! 🤷🏼‍♀️

@Louu99 When are you actually due AF? That sounds like me in my very early stages of pregnancy

Oh just seen your due on the 14th just over a week away, that's so soon, it's doing so fast this month I can't believe it

@ChampooPapi is it possible? If my ovulation strips are right (to be debated!) then I should only be 6dpo? But I never really have a obvious dark line, they seem to be the same and then nothing, so could I be earlier?

I'll attach a photo of said strips now, see what you think!

@ChampooPapi
Apparently I peaked; but they're all very similar!

@Louu99 apparently my peak was 31st October I’m due AF 15th Nov. We can’t be far apart!