Trying for a baby-when?

[itsahardknocklife87]

Hi all
This could be a long one so sorry. I have a nearly 11 year old and 7 year old. I had horrendous pregnancies (obstetric cholestasis) and c sections (big blood loss with No2) with both as well as a massive decline in my mental health. I live with Bipolar 2 disorder it is stable. We also only live in a two bed house we own with no chance of moving. I am so broody and I think hubby is coming round to it. I recently had to have my copper coil out because of heavy periods and I can't have hormonal. Would we be selfish to bring another baby into the world? We both work full time money and space isn't abundant. The kids have a room partitioned off. But I'm 32 and I feel it's now or never. I'm petrified but so worried it's selfish to have another child given we don't have three beds....

I wouldnt have another in your situation. It doesnt seem fair to your older children to have you physically ill for 9 months as well as mentally affected for longer. How will the bedrooms work - will the older 2 eventually have to share when they are older - as it isn't great for a 15yo and 11yo to share.

Why is it now or never? Because if your age? You're still young!

I started trying at 33, due at 34. I plan to have another child or two before my egg supply dries up! Haha!

In your shoes, I'd be making a plan for the next year or two to save up and then start trying. X

In balance the sensible thing would be to wait perhaps, so hard when your head and heart are telling you different things.