Concerned...umhelpful GP

[Margo34]

Hi

DH and I celebrated our anniversary with a night of heavy drinking. A couple of days later, spotting starts, then light flow. I get upset and confused because it's still 2 weeks until AF is due and never had mid cycle bleeding ever, wonder if raucous DTD brought it on early. Followed by headaches and exhaustion, bleeding doesn't stop (but still only light to spotting) few days later. Decide to make a gp appt as this is all so unusual. Before calling gp, thought I wonder if I could be.....? Had done a test before last AF arrived (as she was late) but that was negative. So did a digital test first thing in morning and a very quick BFP appears, 2-3 weeks since conception. So excited and confused and upset (about the heavy drinking followed by bleeding), dates don't seem to match up with last period (which was 4 days late and test showed BFN at that point), as hadn't DTD since then. Went to GP and was practically laughed out the room. I'm concerned and devastated that I may be experiencing miscarriage (from the drinking) and he first said digital test won't be wrong, then he sat scoffing and telling me there is no way I'm pregnant based on what I've said about not DTD after last AF. I wondered aloud if I might have mistaken it for AF (and then the dates would make sense) but he laughed again and said no. Then said he could test me now because it sounds like my test at home was out of date (wrong though, mate, I checked!) OR already opened/not new (wrong again mate, bought it from your on site pharmacy)! He refused to send me for blood test. He did his test and his test was BFN after barely a 30sec wait but he did say it was smudgy but still no way to be BFP. He laughed and shunted me out the room. In tears and despair. Still hadn't answered any questions about the very unusual light mid cycle bleeding either.
Went home, brought 3 more tests (different brands, some digital one regular. Did one immediately (different brand to start of the day) and it said BFP in under 1 minute. Will save the other 2 for after the weekend.

I'm so confused! Am I pregnant? Am I miscarrying because of a stupid night out? Am I not pregnant? If I am miscarrying, how long will the hcg hormone still be present in my system?

GP was next to useless! Help! I'm driving myself insane!

Anyone experienced this or similar?

Your doctor sounds like an unprofessional idiot.
Don't jump the gun lots of women bleed in early pregnancy and one night of heavy drinking won't have caused any major issues this early.
If it's a miscarriage it sounds like a chemical pregnancy which are very common. Dont blame yourself. Your drinking will not have caused the miscarriage mostly its just a chromosome issue with the embryo which will have stopped it from implanting correctly.
You should have no issues falling pregnant again quite quickly if that's what you want. Xx

One night of drinking won't cause a miscarriage, so stop thinking that.

It sounds like you are pregnant. Congrats! No test can tell you if it's viable though... bleeding can be common and totally normal. If you can, I'd try to get in to be seen at a local early pregnancy into (though some of these need a gp, unfortunately).

I'm sorry you weren't reassured by the gp, as that's sort of what they're meant to do (not always, they're human too. I once once told 'have more miscarriages' while having a miscarriage by a gp. Twat.)

If you feel like you need more reassurance, another gp or the epu. Other than that, all you need to do is follow your local protocol to book in with a midwife. It will feel like you're sort of left to it, and you are, because medically, there's not a lot that needs to/ can be done with early pregnancy, even in the case of miscarriage. The vast majority of miscarriages (which are sadly super common) don't require medical intervention...

Good luck. It's an awful waiting game!

Hi OP, I don't think you'd be getting multiple positive tests if you weren't pregnant. Hard to say whether it will stick at this point (I really hope it does!), so try not to worry as there's very little you can do to control it. If I were you I'd be looking to change GPs, his reaction was completely inappropriate for dealing with someone who is clearly distressed, regardless of what his personal assumption may have been.

So sorry to hear your GP was unhelpful, perhaps pay for a private scan as sounds like you’re at least 6-7 weeks weeks so they should be able to see if it is viable?

Thanks all, you've made me feel a little more reassured. Hubby pointed out a couple of other symptoms from last couple of weeks that, with the hindsight of a BFP HPT, now make sense. Exhaustion being one, going to bed at 9pm every day and still being shattered! Feeling nauseous too, thought I might have been starting a cold or illness picked up at work (in a school, so not uncommon assumption at this time of year).

I think I'm going to put in a complaint about the GP I saw and request a first appt with alternative GP/community midwife. If my Sept bleed wasn't a true AF then I might be 6 - 7 weeks based on known AF dates. I didn't know to expect bleeding, so guilt and panic overtook.

It's an emotional minefield, isn't it?! Thank you for your replies and not laughing me down. Can you tell, TTC #1?! 😳