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Who is the father

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Justmez0 · 02/10/2019 15:20

Really need some help on when I would have conceived.. Horrible situation to be in!
I went for a scan on Monday 30th September, they told me I was 7 week & 4 days. The first day of my last period was around Monday 5th August 2019 ended the Thursday/Friday that week.
I slept with my ex partner Sunday 11th & Monday 12th August after my period. I then started sleeping with my new partner from Saturday 17th August and did do for the rest of the month.
This 2 week they add on to pregnancy is really confusing me! Can anyone please help me?
Thank you.

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Blahblahblahnanana · 02/10/2019 16:21

Ultrasounds performed during the first 12 weeks of pregnancy are generally within 3 - 5 days of accuracy.

The most accurate time is between 8 and 11 weeks gestation. This is because the fetus is growing so quickly that there is a big difference in size from week to week.

www.ultrasoundcare.com.au/services/pregnancy-ultrasound-5-17-weeks-dating-and-viability.html

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Blahblahblahnanana · 02/10/2019 16:29

Don't be silly, there's not much point in having a baby when you don't know who the father is and you've only been with new 'partner' five minutes. There's time to have a baby when you are in a stable relationship, until then for goodness sake take precautions - double precautions if necessary. This scenario smacks of Jeremy Kyle

Judgmental much! Op came for advice not judgment!

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Justmez0 · 02/10/2019 16:32

Thank you for all your advice you have been great...

Wasn't here to be judged & I know I'm not the first women in this position & certainly won't be the last

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Justmez0 · 02/10/2019 16:34

The ex partner I wasn't even with we just met up.. The guy after has actually been in my life 15 years 🖕

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Blahblahblahnanana · 02/10/2019 16:39

@Justmez0 hope everything works out, I’d just speak to both of them and be honest with them.

And yes, you aren’t the first and won’t certainly be the last to be in this situation.

P1nkHeartLovesCake · 02/10/2019 16:44

Well it’s not a great situation to be, it’s a mess. Do you not practice safe sex? It’s important especially when fucking two men 🤷🏻‍♀️ It’s fine to have sex with whoever you like, no shame in that but you do need to make sure your protected against pregnancy and of course STI

You will need a dna test to be absolutely sure who the father is. Good thing is your only have to test one of them to know who the father is, so won’t have to deal with the embarrassment of telling them both after this who’s the daddy stuff....

peachypetite · 02/10/2019 16:46

Jesus Christ OP what an awful situation to be in but why on earth didn’t you use contraception with either man? I think you’ll have to be honest with them.

Tilltheendoftheline · 02/10/2019 16:46

Did you use protection with either?

I would suggest a sexual health check.

momtoj · 02/10/2019 17:02

You need to put the dating out your head, for example I jumped from 12 weeks to 12 weeks 5 days after one scan and then another day the following week. I knew that wasn’t possible as I knew the exact date I consciences (and was in line with 12 weeks not 12.5) but they said it didn’t matter it’s just measuring the baby. The only way you’ll find out is with a DNA test

DtPeabodysLoosePants · 02/10/2019 17:09

Oh hello again OP. Didn't you ask this a month or so ago? And before that?

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Justmez0 · 02/10/2019 17:11

@DtPeabodysLoosePants never asked this before in my life thanks

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dontpooyoureyesturnbrown · 02/10/2019 17:12

Shame jezza isn't around anymore.
You could get a free dna test @Justmez0
GrinGrinGrinGrin

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Justmez0 · 02/10/2019 17:17

@dontpooyoureyesturnbrown money isn't an issue but thanks

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dontpooyoureyesturnbrown · 02/10/2019 17:21

Sorry @Justmez0

I read recently you can now get dna tests before a baby is born. Might be worth investigating.

bengalcat · 02/10/2019 17:38

In all honesty it could be either . Sperm can live for 5- 7 days so a deposit from your your ex on D7 and D8 of your cycle could be waiting in your Fallopian tube for a possible ovulation from D 11 onwards . Second man deposited on D13 so yes he could be father .
Sorry for the situation you find yourself in .
As a general rule for other ladies reading this can I suggest you only have unprotected sex with one man per menstrual cycle to minimise future confusion .

SummerHouse · 02/10/2019 19:00

I think you need to talk this through with a professional and your new partner. The 7 wks plus 4 has two weeks added on I am pretty sure of that. So you would technically only be 5 weeks plus 4 days.

SummerHouse · 02/10/2019 19:03

*Your weeks of pregnancy are dated from the first day of your last period.

This means that in the first 2 weeks or so, you aren't actually pregnant*

^ from the NHS link

SummerHouse · 02/10/2019 19:05

Good luck OP. It is a horrible situation to be in but it could be the best thing that's ever happened to you. Flowers

00100001 · 02/10/2019 20:25

So... You had unprotected sex with the new guy?

RunsForGummyBears · 02/10/2019 20:31

If money isn't an issue you can get a in utero DNA test - they cost around £900. Don't beat yourself up, these things happen often enough.

justchecking1 · 02/10/2019 21:39

Being 7+4 means you conceived/ovulated around the 24th August. It's not an exact science but even given that it can be 3-4 days out and that sperm can live 5-7 days, it feels very unlikely that you would have conceived with sperm from the 11th or 12th August.

More likely it's your new partner but the dates aren't quite far enough apart to be entirely sure.

Kayjay2018 · 03/10/2019 08:19

@Justmez0 I had a scan on Saturday and measured 7+ 5 (a couple of days ahead against my AF dates). I track my ovulation by temping so know I ovulated around 21st August and so fell pregnant around that time. You need to be kind to yourself, if you are feeling like me, hormones are all over the place and I'm less rational and more emotional than normal. Do what's right for you, not anyone else and if that's keeping going with the pregnancy then a dna test later will give you an answer.

Ginger1982 · 03/10/2019 08:23

Did you use protection with either man?