Second child worries?

[Newmum26]

We have a DS who is 2.5 years. He is the centre of our worlds and we love him to bits, he gets lots of time, love and we do lots with him.
We always said we wanted two children, but since having our son I am finding it hard to imagine changing our now perfect family of 3 to a family of 4 and having another baby.
We would like another child, and a sibling for our son, but I have so many worries: Will I love another one as much as we do our son? Is it fair on him?
I also dread the sleepless nights and teething etc, I think you are 'aware' of it before you have your first baby as everyone says oh sleepless nights to look forward to haha but I think having actually had your first and gone through it it's kind of worse now as I know all too well what it's like and how tough it is at times when you only get a few hours sleep.
I know no one can make the decision for me but I am just wondering if anyone felt the same and can offer any stories or advice? Thanks ☺️

Ah OP, I understand. We've got DD (now 5), and she was 4 and a bit when DS was born. I worried about the same things, there was no way I would ever love anyone as much as DD! Turns out I do, DS is wonderful. He's completely different to DD (she was a nightmare baby and dream toddler, he's the other way around), so lovely, funny and sweet, and I can't imagine not having him. DD adores him as well and he's the same with her, although they do have their moments and I'm sure these will get worse as they get older!

Don't have another child to give your DS a sibling, though. I'm an only child and that's great too! It can be lonely at times but I got my DM's undivided attention growing up whereas I usually have to split myself in half for the DC. It's tricky when I'm on my own at home and DD needs my help with school stuff and DS is feeling clingy, etc.

It's hard with 2. Even though DD is at school and she's fairly independent at home, it's still much more difficult. That said, I wouldn't change it for the world. Good luck!

Oh and yes, the sleepless nights are probably worse because you know what's coming! That said, DC2 might be a much better sleeper. I know DS was at first, then he started going the same way as DD did (horrendous sleeper from birth until 14mo!) until we did sleep training with him like we did with her. He was keeping her awake all night as well, and that wasn't fair on her for school etc.

We have DS1 (3.3) and DS2 is nearly 5 months. I won't pretend it's easy but DS2 really has slotted in so far and DS1 just adores him so much.

I'll be honest and say that part of my reasoning for having DS2 was to give DS1 a sibling. My DDad died suddenly last year and all of a sudden it just hit me how much I appreciated having my DSis. No one else could really get it like she did. I know there's no guarantee they'll be best mates or anything but it was definitely a factor for me.

I've found that my DH has really needed to step up with DS1 (he's always been good but he does more now). I try really hard to make time for DS1 and still have cuddles and play time with him. He doesn't seem adversely affected at all. We kept him in nursery in his routine which I think has helped.

So far DS2 is a better sleeper than DS1 so that's been great, they really are all different. I've actually found that because I know everything does eventually pass in the end it's easier to ride out the tough bits than first time around.

Good luck whatever you decide.