Crushed... I hate TTC. It’s ok to have a good cry sometimes right?

[ItsAlwaysSunnyInPhiladelphia]

I have long cycles, around 45ish days give or take.
By looking at my rise in temp I ovulated yesterday..
Me and DH have not DTD since Wednesday evening, despite my best efforts.
So now I’m just sat here crying because I’m convinced the chance for this cycle. Which takes me into our 10th month TTC. And I have to wait until the beginning of November to be at this point in my next cycle.
TTC is hard. And I’m trying so hard not to resent DH for turning me down the last 2 nights for being tired, but I can’t help it.
FFS I even had a pregnancy dream last night.
Baby dust to all x

I'm with you, into cycle 7 now of ttc #1. Had that classic thing of thinking it would be easy, after all I've spent so much effort trying not to get pregnant over the last 15 years...

My DH was really casual about it in the first few of months, but is now much more focussed about ovulation times etc, which I am finding really helpful - takes the pressure off me driving the whole thing. Would your DH get more involved in timings and things?

I feel on the verge of tears at some point on most days to be honest. I know we're in the entirely normal parameters of how long it takes to conceive, but it's more frustrating and upsetting than I ever imagined.

& to you

It’s so hard at times a cry will do you good it’s all worth It in the end hun

Pregnancy dreams are the worst...so disappointing when you wake up ☹️ having a good cry is fine...be kind to yourself. Keep your chin up.

The whole thing is so so hard. Have you thought about stopping temping and tracking and just DTD as much as possible as and when you both feel like it? There can be so much pressure on both of you and it can do the world of good to try and take it off sometimes. Especially if you are starting to resent him as you don't want it to become some chore you have to get out the way, I understand how hard it can be though as you want to give it the best shot each month. Have you talked to DH about it all?
If you DTD on Wednesday and you ovulated yesterday you are still in with a chance and it only takes one!
Have a good cry, treat yourself to something nice today and try and relax - it will happen!

Just wanted to say I am also TTC #1, currently on cycle 9 and no sign of a BFP yet either. I am also finding it hard, especially with pregnancy announcements on FB, so just wanted you to know that you are not alone

Fingers crossed for everyone 🤞

I'm so sorry, it took us a year, and every month was hell. I hope it happens for you

My cycles are long too - on Cycle 6 but 7 months in - I know that makes it doubly hard. Be kind to yourself

I felt like this sometimes. Ask DH if he wants a baby or not and explain the small window for conception. Then just leave him to take the lead for a bit.

I feel you. I'm incredibly lucky because I do have a DD, but we really wanted two quite close together. Unfortunately, post pregnancy, my periods regularity has totally went out the window. They used to be very consistent 28 day cycles, now they chop and change so much I genuinely don't know when is the best time to even TTC. This is my third month of a 'late' period and it's so irritating. It literally doesn't matter what I do. I'll note when my period starts, TTC, negative, period is late by a week, it'll come, so I'll then note it down again. Then I say to myself, okay that was a 30 day cycle, I know for next time... then it's late again.

We've agreed that next month we're just going to try as much as we can for the entirety of the month to maximise our chances, but of course, AF still isn't here. It's so frustrating waiting and waiting and waiting, knowing it'll be a negative anyway.

But I know I am very lucky to have DD, so it does soften the blow a bit.

Massive hugs. It is a really hard process. My period arrived on Friday which marks cycle number 10 for us too. I am feeling like that 12 month mark is fast approaching. We have booked a night away and I'm going to buy some nice lingerie to put the fun back into it. Fingers crossed we get our BFPs soon X