Sperm Test Results approach

[cityangel]

Who has been through this if results are negative? What approaches are good to help reassure dh and soften the blow?

Any experiences/ advice, welcome

We both agreed before starting tests that if either of us had something 'wrong' then we'd approach it as our problem, not his or mine. As it was we were both 'at fault' so it made things easier. Have you discussed what you might do if you can't have kids together? For example DH and I both agreed that we wanted a child that was genetically both of ours (no donated egg/sperm) or we'd have a child that was genetically neither of ours (adoption). Neither of us felt having a child through donated egg/sperm was what we wanted, so it was an easy decision!

Cityangel - I thought about this a lot before DH got his results, I made a point of saying that whatever came back it didn't matter, we'd get through it together. Pretty much what Nomore said really, that if there were any problems then they were our problems.

Try not to worry, even if there is an issue with the results, there are very few problems related to sperm that are not fixable. There is so much that can be done these days, it's incredible.

Fingers crossed for you that the results are fine anyway.

Make sure he knows that you would rather be with him and have no children than be with anyone else and have them.

Once that is absolutely clear (it could take some repeating) you can discuss whether you want to do anything about it (IVF etc) or adopt (or stay child free)

Thank you so much for all your advice. I really appreciate it. My biggest worry is that if it is negative it could affect him in the bedroom department, but fingers crossed.

He is quite sensitive so I will work on it being an us thing. Thanks again.

So the results were positive thanks for all your advice

Glad it was all OK in the end (for him anyway - are you now going to have tests?)