I don't know how to prepare

[FRANCESCA249]

Hi everyone :)

My husband and I have wanted a baby for so long and now we've decided we think it's time we should try for one but I am absolutely horrified.

I was an orphan and never had a stable or healthy family that I could ask for support or use as guidance. I don't really know what having a family is like other than my husband and I'm so scared I'm going to ruin something.

I know I'm not pregnant yet and this will be in the future but I wanted to be able to understand how to prepare before pregnancy so I don't go into this blind.

What advice would you give? How do I prepare? What do I need to do?

I hated my childhood and I felt like I never had to opportunity to play with people my age and I struggled so much with socialising because of it, I never learnt life skills that others my age had learnt growing up and I felt so useless cause I never had anything I was good at. How do I avoid making my child feel like this?

I want this so badly and I want to do them well but I don't know how, please can someone help

By reading up on parenting advice and changing/ adapting it to suit your dc. Not one person is right and no one knows hows to raise your children best way. Books are just experiences and tricks that worked for others when they were raising their specific children in a certain environment. Every child is different and go through so many life stages and require diffrent things at different times. Do what works for you and your children. There are a lot of different variables in parenting techniques so I would advice to read up on them, so you have different techniques you could trial. It is all trail and error. Do your best, its all that you could do.