Feeling hopeless

[Anna7676]

Hi everyone, I’m sat watching “Emma Willis delivering babies” crying my eyes out, wishing it was me and I’m after some reassurance that I’m not mad/on my own.

Me and partner have been ttc for two years, and currently in my second round of clomid. I’m also trying to deal with a partner who is reluctant to get himself tested until I’ve been tested for everything/tried everything. 🙄

I’m starting to feel completely hopeless and like I must not deserve to be a mother. Anyone else feel this way?

It doesn’t help that my mother in law was today lecturing me on having to decide to have a family soon before I’m too old (she is nice really but no body knows about us ttc).

So he'd rather that you're poked, prodded and have some really invasive shot done than jizz in a cup? What an ass?!

Second what @physicskate said! Surely he must have had SA done though for you to be in clomid?

Hi Anna, your partner seems a little selfish. I went thorough the tests I’m sure you have which are invasive. As above all he has to do is produce into a pot and it’s done with pretty much why won’t he get tested ?

I developed a small weight related cystocele that the GP refered me to Gynae for. Once there the consultant was happy to discuss fertility and started me on Clomid.

My partner isn’t really the issue tho tbf he’s supportive and is just a bit scared of the results which I can understand.

The whole process just takes the spontaneity out of having a baby and is such a strain.

I think your partner needs to grow up a little. He can be worried about the results but if you are working on the same common goal, he needs to be willing to take an active part. You could be taking drugs unnecessarily if make factor infertility is the problem. I would be questioning his commitment to this.

This thread really has taken a turn, I was feeling low and reaching out for support, in what I thought, might be room of people who could sympathise and that I might find some people in a similar situation. But instead my relationship seems to be under fire. 🤔

Your partner needs to be tested. If he cared about you, he would be tested. It is really not very much to ask.
It is a very exhausting time, but imagine if you don't have the full picture. My neighbour had ICSI, a relative had ICSI, and my three children were born through IVF, and in all three cases it was related to male factor infertility.
Both of you make the baby, both of you need to seek a overview of your health.
AND IT will get better. Yes you deserve a baby, , and your partner will be lucky to have you as the mother of his child - so all I can say is, he needs to be the supportive one, not Mumsnet.