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WWYD - difficulty conceiving / newly engaged

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lankyliscuits · 13/09/2019 07:34

So as of today I'm on cycle 12 😭 GP has said she's happy to refer us to the fertility clinic whenever we're ready. We were thinking trying a few more months before this. Also, very excitingly, we got engaged on Monday! Now wondering what to do first. In reality we need to save for the wedding and it'd be in a couple of years, minimum. But what do we do about the baby situation?! Quite obviously, since we've already been trying, it wouldn't concern us to have a baby out of wedlock. It'd be nice to have our child there which would be potentially pushing it back further. But then it'll be harder to save when/if we do have a baby...

What would you do?!

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PotteringAlong · 13/09/2019 07:35

I wouldn’t be wasting my savings for a minimum of 2 years on a wedding if there was a possibility i would need to fund private ivf.

What would you rather have?

Bananalanacake · 13/09/2019 07:40

could you get married sooner in a registry office then it won't cost thousands and you don't have to worry about out of wedlock.

itwasalovelydreamwhileitlasted · 13/09/2019 07:40

Presumably your eligible for IVF on the NHS? I would explore that first? If you find out that you're not then you ll know you'll need to save for IVF - but there are lots of Funding options out there now and interest free loans especially for ivf payments so you wouldn't need to find all the money straight away

If you have a baby chances of you ever getting married are unlikely so depends how much you want both?

IVF isn't easy on a relationship - I feel more secure as I'm married

Chilledout11 · 13/09/2019 07:42

Congratulations on your engagement Flowers. Great news.
I think I would plan a simple wedding (still lovely but maybe just the two of your and immediate family/ nice meal and champagne) soon.

Then you haven't spent a fortune but that security. Best of luck to you x

Chilledout11 · 13/09/2019 07:43

Sorry meant to add that in no way would I delay trying or availing of treatment for the wedding.

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