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Conception

When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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Obsessed with TTC :(

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Jade218 · 02/09/2019 20:19

So....I decided only a month ago to start trying. I've been on the fence years about kids and finally get to 33 and I've become obsessed.

It's driving me nuts, I've only done one cycle - today alone I've done a test even though I just had a period and haven't even ovulated??!

I'm reading every article going and watching live births on YouTube.

Wth has happened to me?! Also concerned if it takes me a year how much of my life it's going to consume.

I need to forget about it, any tips?

Anyone else feel the same and totally obsessed by it? I am really hoping it happens soon as I can't take much more or this!

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Napqueen1234 · 04/09/2019 08:58

@Jade218 when you look at those statistics it sounds horrendous but most people who want to get pregnant do so quite easily within a year. I’ve always fallen pregnant v quickly (sexual health nurse so good understanding of cycles and fertile window etc!) and friends have generally conceived without help within a few month. Try not to worry until you need to!

Hayley94 · 04/09/2019 09:55

@Thistle23 I'm waiting on withdrawal bleed after coming off the pill. Seems to be taking forever.

Thistle23 · 04/09/2019 11:31

@hayley94 I've had my withdrawal bleed start of August.

I'm just so impatient for my first real period , it's annoying me that there's no set time and varies from person to person when it will return.

paintinglady2848 · 04/09/2019 12:49

I read your post wasn't sure whether to reply or not as I don't want to cause anymore worry. But wanted to tell you about my experience about being obsessed with getting pregnant. I was like you obsessed and wanted it to happen immediately. My cycles were a mess often leading to false hope. In the end it took me two years to conceive. I was convinced me or DH had something wrong with us. Due to my age doctors wouldn't refer for two years either.

Looking back I now think it was caused by my stress. The month I finally got pregnant was the first month I wasn't obsessing over it. We had afew weddings and a big holiday and I said I didn't want to think about it so didn't track my cycle or anything. I now realise I ovulated a lot sooner in that cycle than any other in the whole two years.

Since having DD my cycles have been a lot better. We decided afew months ago we wanted DC2. This time I was so different. I kind of expected it to take awhile and accepted that. I feel very fortunate to say I got pregnant in my second cycle. This confirmed to me that stress was a big factor in conceiving the first time.

I suppose my advice is to keep yourself busy to distracted yourself. Try planning lots of nice things with DH. Easy said than done but obsessing won't help. Whilst TTC you will feel like everyone else is pregnant. Try not to let it get to you. It used to get to me. However, I realised this wasn't fair when SIL reacted badly to me getting pregnant. She had no idea I had been trying for two year. I still find her reaction hard to forgive whilst I understand the her feelings (she had been trying for 6month).

Good luck OP sending lots of baby dust hope it happens very soon.

Hayley94 · 04/09/2019 12:52

@Thistle23 how long did it take you to get withdrawal? I'm on day 10 with no sign other than cramps but I've had them for about a week now x

AdalbertWaffling · 04/09/2019 13:12

I'm literally obsessed - it's all I can think about which makes concentrating on other things so hard (like work for example!!!). I am symptom spotting like crazy, I'm only 4dpo (3rd cycle ttc) and have been feeling nauseous all day. I have a stinking cold so it's probably that, but I've been googling "morning sickness at 4dpo", which is v v v unlikely, and I know that! I need to give my head a wobble

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Jade218 · 04/09/2019 13:38

@paintinglady2848 thanks I really appreciate your honesty.

You're right I think stress has a much bigger impact than we think,

I genuinely believe if I'm not pregnant after cycle three which is next month, I'm just going to forget the whole thing and have sex with DH when we feel like it instead of tracking anything and drink alcohol if and when I'm going out and continue my life as normal until I see a positive test.

It's not practical to keep this ovulation stick stuff up etc long term I'm already fed up with it all x

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Thistle23 · 04/09/2019 14:06

@Hayley94, just my usual time. I finished my pack on the Thursday and had my usual withdrawal bleed on the Monday .

Hayley94 · 04/09/2019 14:38

I was on the minipill so not had periods in nearly 8 year. Wondering if I will get a withdrawal or my first bleed will be the real thing 🤔

claireb707 · 04/09/2019 14:43

I too had withdrawal bleed within days of stopping pill. That may be dependent on which type of pill you are / were on. I was on Noriday. Last pill was taken 15th August and had withdrawal bleed 17th August. Now just waiting for first period

Hayley94 · 04/09/2019 15:52

@claireb707 I was on desogestrel, just feels like a long time not to have a withdrawal yet. I started ovulation tests straight away and they showed I have ovulated twice already. All very bizarre!

claireb707 · 04/09/2019 15:59

@Hayley94 I've apparently not ovulated at all yet 😂😢

Hayley94 · 04/09/2019 16:35

@claireb707 I was expecting to me like you and have ovulate for a while. To be honest, I'm not too sure how it's happened 🤣

claireb707 · 04/09/2019 22:52

Well either I've got spotting or period has arrived. (Finally)

Hayley94 · 04/09/2019 23:44

Excellent!! X

claireb707 · 05/09/2019 06:40

Or maybe not few spots and very minor cramps on right hand side last night and now nothing....
Cramping didn't feel like usual period pain either

Hayley94 · 05/09/2019 10:41

Could be your body gearing up for it. I've had the same for around a week and feeling very fatigue but I just put it down to my body adjusting without pill x

claireb707 · 05/09/2019 10:42

Who knows I'm baffled.

Though a small part of me wonders if it could be implantation bleed? 🤞🧐

claireb707 · 05/09/2019 10:43

Doh pressed post too soon.
Period pain for me is normally whole way across body not specific to one side like that and it did feel completely different

claireb707 · 05/09/2019 10:46

It's possible with the dates I guess

Hayley94 · 05/09/2019 11:43

Fingers crossed for you x

fallingasleeprightnow · 05/09/2019 18:36

@Jade218 I conceived in February but had a missed miscarriage so when I went back to the doctor after this, they said I wouldn't be eligible for any further investigation until 12 months after my miscarriage because I conceived within the normal timeframe of a year.

Shazzasc7 · 05/09/2019 19:25

A little like you Claire b I’m on the older scale I’m 42 my partner is 35 I have kids to a previous marriage he hasn’t any of his own but adores mine and we would like a baby together I’m worried about my body clock now , I have a regular cycle but has not happened yet . I have just in last week started using opts and today long behold I have a positive so I’m hoping it’s a good sign that I’m ovulating but wether I’m fertile is another thing so we will see . They tell you on a 28 day cycle day 14 ovulation this is not so I only got a positive test today on opk and it’s day 15 .

Hayley94 · 06/09/2019 11:11

Can anyone see a line on this or am I going mad? X

claireb707 · 06/09/2019 12:02

Hmmm maybe but not sure

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