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Cataholic · 26/08/2019 02:47

Little back story- fiancé and I have been together for over 6 and a half years. We got pregnant within the first 6 months and miscarried at 16 weeks. We were 19 and 20 and at college at the time. Had a couple of pregnancy 'scares' over the years, but never actually pregnant. I say 'scares' as my fiancé used to be petrified at the thought and would shut off.
Anyway, since MC, we've both been to uni, have fairly well-paying jobs, our own home, got engaged and are getting married in upcoming March.

This month, Aunt Flow hasn't arrived. As well as that, I've been very sick, tired, have sensitive areas, and constantly need to pee. This isn't normal for me so we did some tests which came back negative so went to GP for blood test. Spoke to fiancé whilst waiting for the result, and suprisingly he didn't panic and has this whole new 'we can do this' approach to the idea of us being parents.

Result came back negative, and I had a bit of a breakdown- not like a stroppy 'get me pregnant' breakdown, but a genuine feeling of sadness over it all. My MIL also didn't freak at the idea of being a GM for the first time when I told her what's happened, and it took me by surprise again.

Now. I have an appointment with GP on Tuesday to see what's going on because she was utterly baffled that result wasn't positive. Fiancé suggested that we talk to her about family planning and see if GP can assist us in starting a family.. like who is this man and what is going on?!

So, my question really is how do I go about talking to my GP? Is there anything in particular that I should ask? We're finally ready to start our family and I want to go into this with as much information as is possible.

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Cataholic · 26/08/2019 02:49

(Have posted this elsewhere but had no response, so hoping for something here)

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MrsH497 · 26/08/2019 08:06

How long have you been actively trying to get pregnant?

Pebbleinthesand · 26/08/2019 08:18

You need to speak to your GP about the missed AF and find out what's going on the but as far as I'm aware (from experiences friends have spoken about) I think you generally need to have been actively trying for 6 months to a year so maybe just start trying properly and see where that gets you.

Cataholic · 26/08/2019 08:50

We've not been necessarily 'actively trying' as in planning for and increasing frequency of intercourse, but we haven't been 'careful' for just over a year- another reason GP was a little baffled with the negative result.

Previously seen by Gynaecology and was told that I'm very healthy looking down there, and that they don't see any reason why I haven't yet caught.

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Wearenotyourkind · 26/08/2019 09:06

If you take any prescribed medications, it is worth discussing this with the GP to ascertain which ones you can and cannot take when pregnant. I did this before we started actively TTC.

MrsH497 · 26/08/2019 09:36

@Cataholic most GPs will want you to be actively trying for a year before any fertility testing will be offered.
Worth an appointment and a chat though with gp

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