TTC after loss and tension with DH

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I lost a baby last year and had a CP last month. This month I have just come out of my fertile window (I believe) and we didn’t even try this month.

We have both had a lot on with work etc and have been a little bit at odds which happens and my rational brain tells me one cycle doesn’t matter.

But then the irrational and tired part of my brain tells me maybe it will never happen for us.

I have read women are more fertile after a MC and feel more frustrated that we “wasted” this month. I think I actually read that women are fertile for a few months after MC, not just the next cycle, although I’m not sure why.

I am not sure what I am asking for, maybe just some support and to find some people in the same boat.

I just feel exhausted and low due to everything going on.

My usual TTC thread is very quiet these days, which is good as many of the women are pregnant!

You poor thing. Sounds really stressful. I've had heavy duty falling outs with my DH when we were not only supposed to be trying but due for booked fertility treatment. He once said he was going to withdraw consent for IVF two days before an embryo transfer (that failed anyway). I know personally how stressful it is TTC when things aren't going well with a partner. Not only are you worried about not getting pregnant but also how to patch things up with your partner. You have my sympathy and I hope you try again next month when you've worked things out with your partner x

Thank you @ChatWithMe TTC and real marriage problems are things many of us don’t discuss in real life and I have felt a bit alone and just worrying it won’t happen. It is hard wanting to sort things out and then feeling I’ll never have a family of my own.

But, trying to see the positive, we were trying for four months before that and this cycle was the first when we didn’t do hoping it is just a blip.

I suppose we don’t know what the future holds.

I hope things work out for you too x