TTC First Baby Thread 22

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Thought the old one was getting a bit full so I'd start a new one. I'll attempt tagging as many as I can
@Larrydavid @Anny27 @cupcakesandglitter @flossy12 @DuchessofPemberley @ELW85 @Lemonysherbet @LokiCat @Lottiepink @Lozzlepop @MIW01 @whatsthecraic91 @ValidUser

If I've missed anyone sorry!

@lottiepink do you temp?

Hello @whatsthecraic91 nice to see you back, how’s things?

@Kiza sorry I’ve never attempted temping, can’t get my head around it tbh and OPKs have always worked fine for me.

How’s everyone’s Monday’s? I’m CD 2 and AF is being a right b-itch doesn’t help that it’s horrible weather here too! What’s everyone’s chat? Also STILL no letter 🙈🙈 getting very frustrated now!

@Kiza that's a good indication though! I'm sure you will have caught it at right time with smep still, enjoy your early night 😃

@Anny27 yeh I do temp, for whatever good it does 🤷🏻‍♀️😂 not worked yet!

@lottiepink 🙈 temping helps me know when to stop frantically dtd when it confirms ovulation haha 😂😂

I dont think it really helps much else tbh as it only tells me when i have ovulated not that i am about to haha

Yes I temp for same reason as @Anny27 it just confirms if my OPK's were right and when I can relax. I think if I didn't I would wonder if OPK was wrong or right and also personally I like to know as much cycle info as poss. It's not for everyone and if youre happy with not doing it then Dont bother cos it's just yet another ttc 'job' haha.

@orangeloo totally! Because sometimes your LH can gear uo to ovulate and not actually do so i wouldnt want to miss it (obviously i do not take a casual approach to ttc 😂😂)

@lozzlepop ahh sucks that AF is not good this month!

Do you have to wait to ttc untill you get your referal letter? Fingers crossed its not too much longer 🤞🤞

Thanks ladies, that was my thought process @Anny27, thinking 'well SMEP says we need to DTD 3 days in a row but if I've already O then I can have a break! 😄
I'm curious by the temping so think I will try it again next month and remember the 3 hour rule of night time peeing!
@Lozzlepop sorry AF is being so rude to you this month! I'm I right in thinking you phoned them and they said they deffo got your referral you're just waiting on the appointment letter? We got our letter about 6-8 weeks after the referral I think?

@Anny27 I’ll maybe try temping next if it doesn’t happen this cycle. Does it have to be a certain type of thermometer?

@Lozzlepop I’m great thank you! Just waiting on AF passing so we can get back to it! I’m sorry you’re suffering I came on on Sunday and I was so glad I could lie at home I was very sore 😓 hopefully your letter comes this week! FX

Hi ladies, can I hop on?

I'm 30, husband is 35 and we've decided that now is the right time to start TTC baby #1 - so exciting!

I've come off the pill and currently on day 2 of my withdrawal bleed, we'll be DTD this month but not properly 'trying' til after I get my first natural AF.

How are you all doing today?

Welcome @SunnyFlover all be it belated! I've never been pregnant myself but have developed a real habit for symptom spotting which has just led to a greater awareness of AF symptoms which I spent all the rest of my life trying to ignore!

I can feel a dull ache around the time I ovulate onone and sometimes both sides. I feel every twinge in my boobs and this month I swear my nipples look different but then I've thought that before. I now notice every slight dull ache, smell, rash you name it, and wonder of it means this month is THE month! I think it's just one of those things.

Oh my goodness MN is driving me nuts! Isn't showing me the latest posts and losing posts I write!

Welcome @timswifey a lovely bunch of ladies here and a mixed bag really! I'm 34, cycle 5 TTC, no BFP s yet. DP is 33. We both been diagnosed with minor fertility issues. I've got low progesterone and he has sluggish swimmers.

Fingers crossed you get a BFP soon!

Sorry to hear some of you find SMEP so exhausting. Makes me feel very grateful it's quite natural for us. I've started tempting again but I don't think it will help as I don't sleep through the night or wake up at the same time. May give OPKs a go.

@whatsthecraic91 i dont know if you need a specific type of thermometer but i do know it needs to be double digits e.g. measures to 36.36 and not 36.4 as thats more accurate! I have the femometer one which syncs to my femometer app via bluetooth so really quick and easy :)

@MIW01 i think its the pressure of "having" to dtd at certain times that gets me. But SMEP worked for us last time so we'll give it a go again :)

@timswifey welcome :) an exciting time to start ttc! Good luck with your journey:)

@kiza yes deffo give temping another go next month:)

I took my temp this morning for first time since bfp in September and my temps are still high so doesnt seem like natural miscarroage will happen anytime soon and i'll probably need the surgery :/

Thank you for the welcome @MIW01 and @Anny27

It's so weird that I've not felt broody or anything before and then it's literally like a switch being flipped and I want a baby. Now. Lol.

Ladies who have been on this journey for a while, I take my hat off to you. You are so strong.

Morning ladies,

@Anny27 Not feeling as bad today thankfully! Yes we have been told we are not allowed to try at present (which is harder than it sounds lol) as there are certain tests they cant do if you are pregnant. How are you feeling this week? Are you resting up? I took the medication the first time - is that an option for you? So sorry you are experiencing this, sending lots of love your way.

@Kiza yes I called a couple of weeks ago now, I was originally told 6-8 weeks for the letter but we are now at week 9 so if it doesn't come this week I am going to call them as I am off the last week in November and will need to tell work if I need time additional off (hospital is a 70 mile round trip from work) Have you had your appointment yet?

@whatsthecraic91ah the same as me although I didn't feel so bad on Sunday but yesterday was rubbish, good excuse to eat chocolate though! Thanks lovely, I hope so too 🤞🏻

@timswifey hello and welcome, you are in safe hands here the ladies on this thread are lovely and supportive and remember there is no such thing as TMI lol!

Welcome @SunnyFlover sorry for the super late hello ☺️ I have had cramping whilst pregnant before, you do end up just second guessing your symptoms though so I try not to test until AF is officially late.

@MIW01 I keep not receiving notifications which is super frustrating. I definitely found SMEP tiring, i Think if you OV quite early on then its fine but I am usually day 18-19 so its a fair old slog lol!

Hows everyone else doing today?

@ValidUser how are you?

Hey ladies, we are very active today. I like it!
Welcome @timswifey you've come to the right place!

@Anny27 sorry to here your temps are still high and you may need surgery. Thinking of you.

I am going to try SMEP this month we usually do not far off anyway but I really want to be pregnant before Xmas. Like @Lozzlepop though I ovulate cd 17-19 so SMEP is a long old slog.

I'm also going to try not to test unless AF is late. I wasted two FRERs last cycle. So I'm sick of seeing a lonesome line and literally pissing money away.

I have my first acupuncture session tomorrow night so I'm excited about that and feeling that I'm hopefully improving my chances. I've got to do something - now cycle 11.

@orangeloo Yeah its usually those last 3 days that do it for me I'm like - I AM DONE 😂 Oooh good luck for the acupuncture session, I have heard really good things! I have given up counting cycles as I am not sure if it applies to our situation 🤷🏽‍♀️I know we can get pregnant I just cant stay pregnant. Deffo hold of testing until AF is late, especially as so many early pregnancy symptoms are like AF symptoms.

I watched a really interesting documentary on IVF last night, amazing what goes into it, terrifying but amazing. It was on iPlayer and is called Making Babies- not sure if its only available in Scotland though.

@Lozzlepop I am 19/20 DPO, 6 days late for the AF... Tested yesterday morning - negative. Decided not to test today... Maybe ai can hold of to not testing tomorrow...

I am just going by my work colleagues example as she was receiving negatives all up until week 7... Baby is now born, healthy and beautiful.

@Lozzlepop calling sounds like a good idea especially with that epic journey you have to make, our appointment isn't until early Dec so still have this month to see if we get our BFP!

Welcome @timswifey and @SunnyFlover
@MIW01 wish I had your energy 😊

@Anny27 sorry to hear you may have to have the surgery, unfortunately the same happened to me twice and makes the mc more prolonged as I felt I couldn't grieve fully until it was all over. Lots of love and care your way

Hi all, brand new here and looking for a bit of reassurance/advice/honesty!
It's our 3rd month TTC (I'm 26 hubby is 28), we got a BFP the 1st month but unfortunately ended in a miscarriage at 5 weeks.
Last months cycle was heavier than usual - as to be expected & this months is due in 6 days (according to Flo). I took a test this morning (9DPO) as I've been having some symptoms but it was a BFN. My symptoms are:
Cramping - been cramping and having twinges since ovulation~
Nausea - small waves off an on
Veiny Boobs
Indigestion - never suffer with this, but the past 3 days non-stop
Exhaustion
Bloating
Am I just being a crazy symptom spotter or do you think we have a chance this month?

@SunnyFlover how are you tracking OV? Is there a chance you could have OVd later than usual so AF/BFP still not due yet? Are you testing using FMU and FRER? Try and hold off another day or so and test again if no sign of AF

@Kiza should be around about the same time as us then. Fingers crossed that this is your month, what CD are you? Its not such a bad journey from where we live so I would either take the whole day or a half day and WFH depending on the appointment times.

@ttciom hello and welcome. So sorry to hear about your MC, a few of us ladies have experienced losses so know how hard it is. 9DPO is still early to test, did you have any of the above symptoms with your previous BFP? Try and hold off another couple of days and test again with a FRER, fingers crossed!

@Lozzlepop, I was extremely aware of the differences in my body after coming off contraception and used FLO app to track the cycle. Lucky me I just felt the day of ovulation ( few failed CB digital ovulation tests were taken in the learning process...💸💸💸) but that day when I truly believed I was ovulating- little smiley face came up! So I also did few cheap tests and the result line was much much darker than the control line. So I assumed it happened then. Next day the line started to fade away immediately.

This was my first ever ovulation that I managed to "catch".
Clear blue ovulation tests are soooo expensive! But in my case it was so worth it 🙈

@SunnyFlover thats really good that you are in-tune with your body! I usually get Ovulation pains so I can marry that up with my OPKs but I usually do the same as you and test the day after just to make sure! Have you had any stresses which may cause AF to be late? Just trying to cover all bases.

@Lozzlepop I'm cd3/4 (not 100% sure given the difference between temp and opk). That's good that you're able to work from home, and really hope you get either a letter or answer to your phone call soon.

@Lozzlepop stress was/is not more than usual...
At 9/10 DPO I had a 2 day spotting/ very light bleeding. Totally odd start as well as ending of it. Absolutely not like my periods. So hoping it was implantation. But it was all shades or red as well as bright red ( which worries me as most info would indicate that implantation is NOT bright red blood) . Confused.com ... So now 19/20 DPO and have no clue what is going on, mild cramping for nearly 2 weeks ... No af , no BFP