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Having a baby at the start of a career

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confused1993 · 18/08/2019 15:03

Hi,
I'm not sure if this is in the right forum but I'm hoping for some advice please!
I'm 25 and my partner is 30, we're both keen to start a family and want 2 or 3 kids but I have only really just started my career and am still at the bottom of the ladder. I'm worried that if I choose to have a baby soon I won't be able to get back in work as it's a very competitive industry and so essentially choosing to have a child might also be choosing to kill my career goals.
Another factor in play is that my parents are both experiencing health issues and I really want my parents around when I have my child/ren and will be devastated if I wait and something happens which means they won't be with me.
I know that this is ultimately my (& my partner's) decision to make but I was wondering if there is anyone who has been in a similar situation who could give some advice? For more context, we are not yet married and have only been together for 2 years but we both know that this is it for us.
Essentially, we want kids but feel we should have them sooner than ideal because of a number of factors.

Thanks!

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MrssC92 · 18/08/2019 16:13

I was in a similar position about 12-18 months ago. We decided that we would wait until I got to a certain position and then we would start trying for a baby. I knew, due to courses and a certain scheme I was on, that I would qualify for and be 'automatically' promoted by June 2019, which made the decision easier. It means that when we do get pregnant, once I return from maternity leave I'll return on the same level I'm at right now. For me, career is important and I've trained for a long time to get to where I am, but I also know that I want to return part time after children, so the promotion = more money = I can afford to work part time. We also used that time to get married which kept us busy planning!

Everyone does things in their own timings so I personally don't see age as being too important, but ultimately the decision is yours and you need to do whats right for you both.

JoJoSM2 · 18/08/2019 19:38

Depending on the field, your career could stall when you have little children. With kids, you want to spend time with them and not put in 12h/day, 5 days a week. Personally, I'd want to a few years in a career under my belt before children.

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