Can't get pregnant again after miscarriage.

[susso]

Just as the title reads really! It took us 10 months to conceive our first baby who we unfortunately lost early on. That was mid March, we have been actively trying since and been getting positive OPK's etc... but it just doesn't seem to be happening. I know it's only been 4/5 months but it just seems like it's never going to happen...

Has anyone been in the same situation and how long did it take? Did you try anything different? I know there's not a definitive answer to this question but just wanted to hear other experiences! Thank you x

Hi. I'm going to follow as we had a miscarriage last October and still not been successful in conceiving.

I had a mmc when we ttc #2 and it took us 11 cycles to conceive again afterwards. The things I did differently for the last 2-3 months was cutting out wine and taking some supplements which were supposed to improve egg quality (can’t remember what they were called now though...).

It took us 9 months to conceive originally, then I miscarried twice in 6 months. It then took 20 months to conceive again and I was going out of my mind, to be honest. It’s so stressful and frustrating. I started to hate myself because I became an angry, jealous person who couldn’t be happy for anyone else’s happy news. But, it was third time lucky for us.
We decided to start trying again when our first baby turned one and conceived, without miscarrying, immediately. Good luck, OP, I hope your wait isn’t long.

How old are you? If over 35 then the 6 month mark might be time to ask the Gp for a referral.

Hi @susso, we've spoken before I think. I'm sorry for your loss ❤️ I finally conceived after 16 cycles but had a mmc in April.

I'm currently under a fertility clinic and had the hsg (dye in tubes) test in June. My cycles are short so have had 4 since the miscarriage. We threw everything at us concieving again, dh on wellman conception tablets, me on ubiquinol (am 35) since the miscarriage. We decided to try smep this cycle - sperm meets egg plan, I used opks and measured my bbt and I am now pregnant, early days at 5+4.

Wishing you the best xx

Thanks everyone for your replies! Makes me feel better I'm not the only one who's been having trouble. Been feeling like such a failure lately! My sister has just announced she's pregnant and it has been so so hard. We only have 2 years between us so we're very close so naturally I've been here for her and happy for her. But it is killing me on the inside. I went to her scan with her and had a little cry when I got home. I'm so happy for her but I wish we were going through it together.

@Teddybear45 I'm only in my early 20's so doctors have been quite dismissive and basically said I'm still young so keep on trying... currently waiting for a referral to a different clinic.

@VenusStarr ahh I'm so happy for you! Congratulations! We loosely stuck to SMEP this month but going to give it a proper go and get DP some vitamins etc... fingers crossed I'll be joining you soon!! Have a lovely pregnancy ❤️xxx

Also my cycles are averaging at 38 days, this one was 41 days.... so they're really long. They're regular though and have been for a while now so I guess that's good. Does anyone have any experience of shortening cycles? I've heard about supplements to try etc but just unsure x

Hi @susso took us 6 months to get pregnant lost baby in May and we've been trying since. I feel the same like it's never going to happen I get sad and angry as well

@susso it took 7 months to conceive and then mmc in December(ttc dc2). Still trying now and I have short cycles (21-22 days) so its been a lot of bfn since. Struggling this month because we reached the EDD and I can't help but think of the newborn we should have had. We are being referred to the fertility clinic but it's a long process.

Had a miss after our honeymoon which was June. Did not conceive again till January and had our first beautiful girl that September, had a miss the following June and had a boy the following July, another miss the following feb and had a any girl the following April and a boy November 12 months after that.

Main thing I realized is that I ovulate on day 21 which I only discovered thanks to ovulation sticks, the happy faces genuinely did make me feel happy and realizing that it always seemed to take us 4-5months to get pregnant each time which I guess eventually put us at ease and made us stress less.

I guess the reason I gave so much detail above is that there can be a happy ending at the end and that it definitely makes you appreciate what you've got and how you got it.