Ttc after miscarrage - need advice!!

[Sami121]

I had a miscarrage on 21st june and would like to ttc again asap. I have been bleeding since the miscarrage. A nurse at the hospital said you count the first day of red blood as cycle day 1. That would mean im on cycle day 23? I still have light bleeding. My cycle is usually only 27 ish days.Surely i cant predict ovulation like this. Does it only work if you bleed for the same amount of days as a period would be? Im so confused, if anyone has any idea it would be great
Thank you x

@Sami121 really sorry to hear of your mc. The cycle immediately following mine ended up being 43 days and my luteal phase was much shorter than normal. I 100% understand how you are feeling to have that desperation to ttc again but it is one of the reasons doctors say you should wait one cycle before trying again as your body can be all over the place. I got myself totally worked up in the first cycle trying to track ovulation but looking back, I should have left it for that first one as I put so much stress and pressure on myself. You can still ovulate (though it doesn’t always happen after a mc), I ovulated on cd 30 something after mine. I’m sorry that you are going through this, there is no feeling like it.

@fallingasleeprightnow
Thank you for your reply. I know deep down i should let things be before starting again but its so much easy to say than do, which im sure you know.
If you dont mind me asking, have you fallen pregnant after your miscarrage and how long Did it take. I only ask because it took me 19 months to get pregnant when i miscarried and i have heard it can be quicker after a miscarrage.
Thank you again x

@Sami121 totally get where you’re coming from. At the time, it felt to me like trying to grab onto thin air, that desperate but unable to do anything. I’m having anxiety counselling now as I stressed myself out so much and my mental health really suffered as a result.

It took me 8 months to conceive first time and I’m not yet pregnant again. I have read of many people that conceived again quickly but it hasn’t happened for me that way sadly.

Sorry for your loss @Sami121 ❤️💔 I had a missed miscarriage in April. My cycle returned to normal pretty quickly but I know it can take some people a while. I was advised not to dtd whilst still bleeding due to infection risk, but was told as soon as it stopped we could ttc again.

It took us 16 cycles to concieve before that bfp and we'd just had an infertilty referral. 4 months after I miscarried I am now pregnant, 5 weeks today. So scared and I have an early scan next week. I was scared it would take us a long time to get another bfp but was 3 cycles in the end (misses one month as had the tube dye test as part of fertility tests)

I put a lot of pressure on myself early on as I was so desperate to get pregnant again. It's really hard. Be kind to yourself

Good luck xx

@ fallingasleeprightnow
Im sorry to hear about this i really am. As someone who also suffers with anxiety i know how cripiling it can be. I felt i was making huge strides with my mental health and was really starting to feel so much more possitive but then i had the miscarrage and i felt like i was back to square one. Im so pleased youve gone to counciling. I hope this is helping. Its so difficult because things like anxiety and a miscarrage its hard to seek a support from friends and family unless they have been through it personally. X

@VenusStarr
Congratulations!! Such fantastic news.
I keep telling myself what will be will be and no amount of stressing will change the outcome but i guess its a part of the process :)
I wish you the best of luck at your scan and a happy healthy 9 months x