Struggling to conceive! Advice and support needed!

[queenqueenqueen]

Hi wondered if anyone could give me some advice on here? Really feeling so fed up and don't know who else to ask! Dr. Google is never a good idea. I feel like I shouldn't moan about problems TTC tbh as I already have 2 children (conceived easily). I've always wanted 3 or 4 kids and so came off implant 2018 in the view to sort of seeing what happened was nervous and happy when I conceived in August 2018. Sadly I MC in September 2018 and was and still am heartbroken 😔 and feel like it's made me very obsessed about having another baby and have no idea why it's just not happening for us.
During the 14 cycles since the MC I've had about three with mid cycle bleeding. I went to the GP about this and when she asked if I was TTC I said 'sort of' 🤦🏻‍♀️ as even then I felt like I couldn't say yes as I already have children. She sort of put it down to ovulation and didn't seem too concerned but as I was she sent me for a transvaginal scan which was clear, the sonographer mentioned small cyst on ovary but GP never even mentioned that in the results and basically said to stop worrying and come back in 6 months. Well we are now on 5 months and still nothing - what do you think it could be? What tests could they even do for me now? Obviously I wouldn't be a candidate for IVF route wouldn't even if that was an option. But what else could all this be caused by? I think I may ovulate late as the mid cycle bleeding is really about 8-9 days before period? Maybe low progesterone (only heard about this from googling and mumsnet!!) And may be this is what caused MC? How do you test for low hormones? What could they prescribe?

I started to wonder if I even am ovulating but do regular (albeit short) cycles mean I must be?? I did use OPKs and never got a positive so gave up as they were stressing me Out.

Basically I am going to book my 6 month appointment soon and want to go armed with enough info that she takes me seriously and doesn't fob me off if that makes sense.

Sorry if those post upsets anyone, I can only imagine how hard it must be going through all this when you are TTC your first.

Thanks in advance for any replies xx

Gosh that was a bit long! Well done if you got to the end!!!

Hi OP firstly how old are you as that's going to have the biggest effect on why you are struggling ttc? I'm guessing since you said you were waiting 6 months that you might be over 35?

The cyst shouldn't be an issue - I've had one for a long time - as long as it's not hydrosalpinx which is fluid in your tube then should be no effect on fertility

I'd try the OPKs again but if you think you ovulate only 9/10 days before your period then that suggests a Luteul phase problem

Are you and DH on pre conception vitamins? I'd get him tested as well

No only 31 but I went in about 6 months after MC so guess it will be a year when I go back next time x

Have you ever tried temping @queenqueenqueen? It can be useful just to get a baseline of when you ovulate. I have short cycles and always thought I ovulated on cd12. Was tracking this cycle and I ovulated on cd10. I also never fully get a positive opk, they tend to go very dark then fade again. I actually ovulated the same day as my darkest opk this cycle. If your temps stay high after ovulation it's unlikely you have a progesterone issue (I am not a fertility expert though!)

Even if you're not going down the ivf route you can still get bloods etc and they might offer you other support

I'm sorry for your mc too, I had a mmc in April and its the worst thing to have gone through 💔 xx

No I haven't @venusstarr , I do have a thermometer, but think I read you have to do it at the same time, every day, after having a certain amount of sleep, and to be honest, my sleep can be a bit all over the place with my youngest child so wondered how accurate it might be, maybe it's worth giving it another go?

I would request your AMH levels be done and also progesterone tests to confirm ovulation and then also your partner - people always assume not conceiving is a female issue but it's just as likely to be him x

I know what you mean @itwasalovely but I've just got this feeling that that isn't the case, nothing is changed for him, but there is so much has for me - having 2 kids getting a bit older, having a miscarriage coming off the implant, and now, with this mid cycle bleeding, it feels like everything is just pointing to me.