Mental health after miscarriages

[louisepottsx]

Anybody else a complete mess after a miscarriage? I know it's normal to feel sad about the loss , but I am in the worst state of my mind I've ever been in & ive gone through much worse. I can't seem to keep myself together, anxiety attacks I've never had before. One day I am fine and then next I'm a complete sad mess sobbing. I'm not sat thinking about the baby it just lost, I don't see a baby and get upset it's really weird. I just feel so sad . Going to seek some support but wanted to know if this is normal? Xxx

Totally normal.

If it was a much wanted baby then you've not only lost a pregnancy but also a dream.

Even if you didn't say it out loud, in your head you will have imagined the baby, dressing them, bathing them, going for walks, showing them off etc

And then cruelly this has disappeared.

Emotionally it was the hardest thing I have ever had to deal with.

9 months on and I still have moments.

Talk to friends/family/partner or even strangers. It does help. It won't change what happened but you will learn to live with is and no matter what anyone says, your baby matters and it's up to you how you remember them ❤️

11 years on I can tell you the date and time of my first miscarriage. Strangely I can't tell you what time my children were born. My miscarriage took almost a year to recover from by which time I was expecting again and the pregnancy lasted with ds.

Don't expect too much from yourself, its ok to be sad and tearful and angry and hurt. I had 4 babies, but only 2 children. All 4 mattered hugely and whilst I never got over the babies lost, I have learned to live without them being in my day to day life .

So sorry for your loss

It’s still a grief that has to be processed but could also be hormones playing a large part. Give yourself time to feel what you have to and hopefully your hormones balance out soon as the sudden drop cause cause low moods.

Absolutely normal.

I have also developed a severe health anxiety after my miscarriage with full on panic attacks and a unreal obsession of my body letting me down in one way or another and I was convinced that I will die of a heart attack, a stroke and I was also convinced that I was riddled with cancer in whatever body part or organ I took my attention to.

I had no choice in the end but to go on medication, because it was starting to seriously limit my working life, relationships and just normal living.
Honestly it was so bad, I can't believe the things I was doing like checking my throat for signs of throat cancer in the reflection in car windows in a middle of busy streets, I'm sure whoever saw me doing it must have thought I was barking mad (I was probably getting close going mad)
It was a real shock to my system, as I always considered myself a very strong person, outgoing, up for anything or any challenge, I've been through a lot worse and this has literally crumbled me.

Almost one year on, I still think of what happened every single day. It will never ever leave me. Although that heart wrenching sadness has eased, it is still a sadness that will remain forever with me and always be part of me. It has been incredibly hard and I think you never truly get over it, you just learn to live with it.

I am very sorry for your loss and please grab any support with both hands. x

Thank you so much for your replies& so sorry for all your losses 😢. I had two in the space of four weeks. Second one was very early, a chemical pregnancy but I think part of these reason I'm feeling so bad is because it's confusing as to how your meant to grieve for something you've never met, I don't know what's normal, it's not spoken about , it all happens so fast :( one minute your so excited, like someone said.. making all these plans and the next your not pregnant anymore . I am at the doctors tomorrow to talk to them about what's happened and possible therapy. Xxx