TTC - Want to heat from other big ladies like me!

[MrsGeeHill]

We’re TTC our first child and I am convinced I won’t be able to get pregnant as I’m overweight. My BMI is currently 46, I’ve so far lost 2st 1lb over 17 weeks. I feel like if I keep waiting to be an ideal weight to get pregnant I’m never gonna get there and it’s really affecting my mental state.

My friends and family have said I need to stop being concerned about what other people think but I’m so scared that if anything goes wrong it’ll be my fault for being fat.

I’m not unhealthy and I can exercise regularly with no issues. My blood pressure is on the low side and my family has no history of diabetes or weight-related illnesses despite the women on my mums side all being big.

I’d like to hear from other big girls in my position who know that they’ll spend their life waiting if they wait until they’re skinny to conceive. How did you guys get past that fear that any complications in conception and pregnancy are your fault because you’re fat?

Thanks in advance guys.

Hi!! My BMI is currently 37 so I understand! I am now 4 weeks 6 days pregnant and I'm over the moon. My sister said to me after I had a miscarriage that she wants to wait to get pregnant so she can lose weight and have that 'belly pop' that slim women do. That really put into perspective how little I cared about that and just want a healthy and happy baby.

I also fell pregnant in my first cycle so my BMI didn't hold me back. Just hoping everything goes well, and staying on track with eating healthy and fitness! If you are doing what you can do to make yourself as healthy as possible, you cannot blame yourself! If you allow the fear to hold you back, you might never get what you dream of!

Literally could have written this myself op! I know exactly how you feel. Well done on your weight loss, you are doing really well! I'm really trying to get my head straight to start losing weight, I'm a terrible comfort eater so it's a bit of a vicious circle with me (want a baby, can't have one as feel too fat, eat because I'm down!) My partner & I have currently decided that whilst we are not actively ttc, ie doing all the ovulation tests etc, we are not preventing & this has put me in such a better frame of mind & I'm starting to eat better & exercise more.

My BMI was 42 at my booking appointment...we had 2 miscarriages however there is no concrete evidence this was linked to my weight....currently 25 weeks and physically getting pregnant hasn't been an issue...stop stressing about it keep healthy and it'll happen xx

I'm going to go against the grain here. A BMI of 46 falls into the morbidly obese category. You could have absolutely no problems as a result of this, but statistically your baby and you are at higher risk.

If you are young and doing well with losing, then I think you are better off carrying on losing and trying for a baby later. Not least because when baby comes along you will have far less time and inclination to devote to losing weight.

I do appreciate how hard it is. I have just tipped from obese into merely middle-of-the-range overweight, and that has been really hard.

I'm the exact same! I've lost 5st since Nov, I've been keto, and bmi is 40ish right now (I think)
Got my coil removed today, so keeping going with my weight loss until my cycles are regular again. I was overweight when I conceived my other 2 kids (13&8) so not too bothered what weight I am when/if I conceive again and Ive no health issues (other than being chunky but funky) 🤣

Fingers crossed it happens soon for you.

So I’ve lost 2 and a half stone and my BMI is down to 44. I’m an active person, I carry my weight really well so don’t look like I’m as heavy as I am, and I eat healthily as well. I have a history of underactive thyroid in my family but have never asked to be tested for this, maybe I should ask for a blood test.

My husband is 6 years older than me and will be 30 next year. I know that’s not old to some people but he wants a family and I feel ready to give him one.

We decided after all to start TTC and while doing so I’ll continue to lose weight in a healthy way. Thank you for your advice everyone, I appreciate all of it xx

I'd definitely mention the thyroid issue and get tested for it as it can have an impact on fertility.

My friend had a few miscarriages and the recurring mc actually put it down to her thyroxine meds needing adjusted during pregnancy and her next pregnancy was successful x

I had a bmi of 38 when I first ttc. We tried for two years with nothing happening and my cycles went a bit haywire. I went on the Cambridge diet because I wanted to do something drastic and fast and lost two stone and got to a bmi of 35 before getting bfp. Not sure it's down to the weight loss as fell pregnant with #2 with bmi of 39.

I would say not to fall into trap of eating for two or myth that breastfeeding burns loads of calories as this hasn't worked for me. But I also wouldn't put your life on hold to lose weight. It is harder to diet and remain active with young children without support though so if you want to continue to lose weight you will need to prioritise this with healthy and achievable plans while ttc, pregnant and beyond. Good luck 😉

Good luck with TTC. Some people will say you need to lose weight but you deserve to be supported on your journey like everybody else. Plus lots of overweight women have given birth to beautiful healthy babies and there’s no reason why you can’t be one of them.

Keep up with your weight loss regime and being healthy and active. You won’t be a failure. Lots of people struggle for lots of reasons. Sadly all too common.

You got this!

I'm ttc with a high BMI, this is my first cycle trying. I am trying to lose weight, but as I am in my 30s, I thought I would start ttc now as I don't want to waste time. I am doing keto to lose weight, as this works best for me. I have know other people with high bmi have healthy pregnancy. I think as a bigger girl its easy to say I'll do it when I lose the weight, but I feel like if I do this, I'll never have children.

Hiya, hows everyone getting on? Just wondering if anyone of you have PCOS? GP has confirmed my long held suspicion today, feeling a bit meh. Have managed to lose 8lbs in 2 weeks, all GP said was to keep losing weight 😣

Hi can I join?

I am 26 and TTC #1 with a BMI around 40 and hypothyroidism.

I stopped taking the mini pill end of may and have had 2 AF since. My cycles are averaging about 38 days I'm cd26 today and starting the dreaded TWW. Very encouraging to read your success stories!

I have a bmi of 42, currently lost 12lbs in 3 weeks. We've doing the keto diet, I've read lots of things about keto babies!
Reducing sugar intake helps reduce internal inflammation and lots of people have said they have gotten pregnant in a few months after starting keto.
I'm crossing my fingers for a keto baby!