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If it took you longer than 8 months to conceive, when did it actually happen? losing hope.

35 replies

OhTheJoys1 · 22/07/2019 22:55

Hi all,

suppose i'm just feeling very deflated lately. It's my 8th cycle trying to conceive.

I've tried having sex everyday, every other day, every 2 days, temping, Opks and nothing is working. I did have my progesterone and thyroid checked and they were fine. Progesterone was 44 on day 21.

I'm 29 years old and beginning to lose hope.

I suppose I am just looking for a little hope. If it took longer than 8 months for you to get pregnant, when did it happen and what helped you?

sincerely, losing hope.

OP posts:
hairymclairie · 22/07/2019 23:01

5.5years for #1, 4 years for #2.

For me it was losing weight and having a lot of sex. I hope it's much, much quicker for you. Being in the midst of this is horrible Thanks.

ShowOfHands · 22/07/2019 23:04

Up to a year is normal.

Took me 14 months to conceive my first. Did nothing special.

Took one night to conceive my second!

Original poster
OhTheJoys1 · 22/07/2019 23:05

Wow,

Im focusing on the it did happen part. Must have been awful.

It is lovely to hear that you now have two kiddies

x

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MargotsFlounceyBlouse · 22/07/2019 23:06

Took about a year, probably closer to 18 months, but I've two children now, more than a decade on. You've got age on your side OP hope it happens for you soon x

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OhTheJoys1 · 22/07/2019 23:07

Ok, hope is slowly returning.

It is driving me mad. I think it is more because I feel it well never happen rather than how long.

Nice to hear that i'm probably just being impatient.

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Happy2be · 22/07/2019 23:10

8 months here and I started taking the tablets luiza zissman (if that's how you spell her name) suggested
the month before. So not sure if just coincidence or not that I fell pregnant the month after taking them x

MrsWilkinsonAthome · 22/07/2019 23:15

Had 2 with ex. I always say that if took 11 months with the first and 2.5 mins with the second! Grin

With ds 1 we had tests and were about to start IUI and hey presto - despite a very very low sperm count. We also dtd 5 days I a row - instead of every other day. Not sure if that Helped.

With ds 2 it was first month.

Original poster
OhTheJoys1 · 22/07/2019 23:21

Ok, I will hold off on the full meltdown for a little longer!

Thank ladies, feel lots better! xx

OP posts:
Ree91 · 22/07/2019 23:30

I'm on cycle 11 with no luck yet, completely know how you feel 💖

Ivy40 · 22/07/2019 23:35

@ohthejoys

We’re on month 8 too. To make things worse, period is 3 days late but I’ve had two negative tests. Period is usually every 27 days.

It’s normal for it to take up to a year. I think it’s the sex ed that we have as teenagers that makes us all think we should get pregnant at the drop of a hat.

hairyharrison · 22/07/2019 23:37

Took 2 and a half years for me!

bonzo77 · 22/07/2019 23:38

We tried for 18months for number 3. The only thing different about the month I got pregnant was that I was taking antibiotics!

( tried for about 5minutes for number 1 and 12 months for number 2 with a bfp after 7 months ending in a mc at 12ish weeks).

SinisterBumFacedCat · 22/07/2019 23:45

18 months. We were in France, had given up hope and decided to drink wine and eat cheese and cold meats and everything your not supposed to do really.

onemorerose · 22/07/2019 23:46

It finally happened after taking folic acid. 8 months is not that long for some people, hang in there

DramaAlpaca · 22/07/2019 23:47

It took me 11 months to conceive the first when I was 28 & about ten minutes to conceive my second Grin Then DC3 took about four months.

This was back in the days before opks were available, but I had a good idea when I was ovulating because my cycle was very regular so we concentrated on trying around then.

Don't lose hope Flowers

SummerSeasoning · 22/07/2019 23:47

Three years (from age 35.)

I'd thought it was not going to happen tbh.

Ivy40 · 22/07/2019 23:49

@sinisterbumfacecat

Same thing happened to my friend. Tried for a year, really well behaved - no booze, lost weight. After 12 months, thought f it, can’t live like this. Went to Italy and drank loads of wine and ate everything she’d been avoiding. Bam, pregnant.

I think there’s a lot to be said for relaxing. My problem is I’m 40 so not sure how much time I have left. May already be past it.

theydontknowweknow · 23/07/2019 09:59

Mid 20s, both perfectly healthy, I finally had a positive test during the 11th cycle! Don't lose hope OP Flowers

EvelineUK · 23/07/2019 10:35

As long as you are regular and you know when you are ovulating (OPK or BBT, keep your folic acid up and look at the SMEP method to give you the best chance. Make sure you keep and eye on your ovulation though because it is not always as regular as your cycle. Oh and make sure your partner follows the sperm health rules too. More than anything don't try too many of these snake oils and old wives tales, stick to doing the basics right. Good luck x

Littlefish · 23/07/2019 10:46

Two and a half years!

Marshmallow1992 · 23/07/2019 10:57

9 months, genuinely felt like it would never happen. I was dtd everyday and switched to every other day and that seemed to work. The month I fell I also took pregnacare preconception and DH took wellman and that seemed to help too. I’m now 13 weeks. Good luck.

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OhTheJoys1 · 23/07/2019 22:26

So nice to hear success stories.

I think frustrations are amplified because you secretly hope it will happen within first 3 months of trying and you make hypothetical plans based on that.

Every month I calculate due date and each month its getting further away.

I suppose its just difficult as i'm putting certain things off such as holidays being booked and taking a promotion that will require me to do a masters degree for a year. I missed this years intake because thought id be pregnant and now I'm wondering whether to apply for next September in case it doesn't happen.

Uncertainty is the route cause of feeling hopeless I suppose.

Thanks for replies, it really does help x

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Preggosaurus9 · 23/07/2019 22:33

I wouldn't put life on hold while TTC. Most things can be rescheduled, put on hold etc. once baby arrives. Just carry on as normal and enjoy your life!

For me it took over 12m and I was similar age to you. I got very discouraged. It happened the month I gave notice to leave my job! Also the one time I fell asleep immediately after sex rather than going to the loo Hmm

EvelineUK · 26/07/2019 13:16

Also don't underestimate the effect of that nagging stress on your endocrine system and therefore chances of conceiving, there is solid science behind the 'Just let it happen' theory. Think of it more like a science project than a ticking clock ;)

Thegracefuloctopus · 26/07/2019 13:31

Okay stop doing everything youre doing! You are waaaaay over doing it. Calculating what your due date would be? The amount of stress and pressure youre putting on yourself is most likely pushing it further away.
We got pregnant 9 months in, once we stopped stressing and decided to go with the flow.
Do not put your life on hold for it, youre just going to do yourself in. Seriously, it sounds cliche but you HAVE to chill out and let what will be, be. Youre clearly desperate and i get that but youre doing yourself no favours and i have no doubt its causing relationship strain too, it always does.