Month 10... Already feeling hopeless!

[lankyliscuits]

Hey,

So AF had shown her ugly face again today meaning I'm now on cycle 10 day 1. We are TTC #1, my OH is 28 and I turn 28 in a few days. We're trying to time BD as best we can (BD 7 days in a row this month, phew!), I'm taking folic acid & vitamin D, tying to avoid Durex lube but haven't tried pre-seed yet. OH's has had sperm analysis which is normal. I'm seeing GP next week for results from my day 1-5 and day 21 blood test results - Receptionist suggested they were normal but I want to wait to hear it from / discuss it with GP.

I know this is really dramatic but I honestly feel like it'll never happen and I've told myself that's the case. I kind of feel numb by it all already. I'm so aware there's people who've been trying so much longer, received intervention to get pregnant etc. I just can't help feeling hopeless!

Anyone got similar 'stats' to me? Any hints, tips etc?

Hi @lankyliscuits I am in the same position but on for a year ttc this month, I'm 30 and my partner is 32. I've just got AF today so feeling down, it just feels like it is never going to happen. Honestly thought we'd be pregnant in a few months.

I went to the doctors at 6 months ttc as I was worried, I had the same bloods as you and they said everything was perfect, they did an ultrasound scan aswell and said that was normal. My DH is going to get a SA next so see what comes back from that.

Sometimes I just wish there was an answer as to why it isn't happening

How did your other half find the SA, bit worried for my DH but think he will be fine xx

Thanks for getting back to me @maisy24 ! It's so frustrating isn't it. I thought exactly the same; especially after being so militant with the pill for so many years (perhaps it is still in my system?!) and thinking if I missed just 1 I'd get pregnant, it's hard to comprehend that I'm not pregnant yet...

So he had to, uh-um, provide the sample at home. Then get it to the hospital within an hour. They give lots of instructions like when he can/can't ejalcuate beforehand, how he must provide the sample etc. I was at work so he just had to do his business and take it in. He said it was fine, just a little weird doing it in a pot then handing it in to a receptionist but like I said to him, they do it so many times it's nothing to them! Also, I had to get jabbed by needles sooo... 😂

Sounds like you may be dtd too much if that's possible apparently if the man ejaculates every day the sperm quality becomes lower
Have you heard of the smep method- google it, may be worth trying that this month.
Wishing you luck xx

@lankyliscuits yeah I keep thinking is it still in my system, I was on the pill for 11 years and didn't miss one!

I have read that some people it took over a year after being on the pill.

My periods are very light and only last two days maximum since coming off it, how are yours? Also I keep having really long cycles, this one has been 45 days!

thanks for the info on the SA, sounds like it isn't too bad.

Fingers crossed we get our BFP in the next few months! Xxx

@mrssunshinexxx I've read so many conflicting stuff about that! Tbh we had a week off and we're just enjoying spending time together so I didn't want to be like oh not tonight babe 😂 I might look into smep again... I just really don't want to turn sex into suhh a mechanical process/chore 😔 x

@Maisy24 I was on the pill for about the same duration - albeit swapped type a few times and did have a 6 month break at one point!

I was quite surprised that my cycles seemed to settle back into a regular pattern straight away. I average a 27 day cycle. I usually have 3-4 days of brown spotting then 3-4 days proper flow. I've asked about brown spotting as concerned about potential low progesterone levels. GP said it's generally not a concern and quite normal but I'll get results in a week! I think the fact my cycles have regulated quickly makes it difficult as well but I'm like well, why has nothing happened yet then?! I haven't been temping but I've used ovulation sticks and seem to get positives around day 13/14 so I feel like I have a pretty textbook cycle x

@Maisy24 I guess the GP didn't express much concern about your cycle length given your test results then?

It took me over a year to conceive DD - she's now 7. I tracked and measured temps and almost drove myself nuts wondering why it wasn't working when I was doing everything "right". Nearly drove a wedge between me and OH.

felt like everyone I knew was falling pregnant at the drop of a hat and I worried that it was never going to happen for me. It really was an awful time. I've had two MCs since DD and with both pregnancies I didn't track, just had regular (ish) sex in what I though may be my fertile period. Am definitely not qualified to tell you it will happen for you, or give you any specific advice but don't let it take over your life.

Hope you get your BFP xx

@jaggynettle thanks for the advice you are right; the trouble with me is that I don't have regular cycles I have anywhere from 28 day cycles to 45 day! So I never know when I actually ovulate, so I have to track.  you are right in saying it becomes obsessive; I'm trying to stay positive and booking lots of holidays to keep me going.

@lankyliscuits when I went to the doctors I wasn't really tracking as I was having 28-32ish cycles. I went because my periods were only lasting 2 days (with a day or so of spotting) the doctor said the period length meant absolutely nothing and as long as you bleed then it's fine as you are ovulating. Annoyingly the month I had my tests I had a 28day cycle! So everything looked perfect, bloody typical! Yes your cycles sound perfect so that's really good as you always know when to try, Let me know how you get on with your results.

My cycles have got longer and more irregular since I've been tracking, I'm sure it's thinking about it all too much is having an impact! Xxx