Need handholding after miscarriage

[AdriannaP]

I have been TTC DC2 for a loooong time. I finally fell pregnant and sadly started bleeding yesterday and today it was confirmed I had a miscarriage.

I am very sad but also still in a lot of pain and bleeding a lot. Would appreciate some good thoughts and also advice on what to expect now. Thanks!

@AdriannaP I’m so sorry your going through this it’s really hard. I had a miscarriage a couple of weeks ago at 8 weeks. Hopefully the bleeding won’t last too long for you mine only took 4 days and please take something for the pain. Be kind to yourself and take some time to grieve. Thinking of you x

So sorry op. Look after yourself

Thank you all. I really appreciate it. X

Feel so sad, this was a much wanted pregnancy. Also seeing the gyno clear out the pregnancy tissue was so hard.
I have not told anyone about the pregnancy yet (apart from DH of course) not sure about sharing these news now? Did you tell close family and friends? All my family are not in this country so it would be easy to hide.

I am a bit torn with my mum, she is prone to make comments that are meant to be helpful but I often find patronising. I don’t really want her to give me all her “expert” knowledge on miscarriages and advice on how to conceive etc... need to think about it.

I am so sorry you're going through this. I had a miscarriage this time last year and its absolutely heartbreaking. Physically I felt fine after a few days, much like a heavy period. Emotionally I was wrecked for ages and I still feel myself welling up thinking about it now. But you have to allow yourself the time to grieve. Don't feel you can't/shouldn't be sad or cry, you've lost someone you love. Also don't forget about your OH grieving. I kind of did as I was so consumed by my own feelings I didn't really consider how he felt which added to my guilt. Take lots of time, sending you gentle hugs xxxx

I'm so sorry :(
I had a miscarriage before I had my son.
I did share with people both before and after as I cope by talking. Do what feels right

I didn't share with my mum who sounds perhaps similar to yours- only with other close family/ friends who I knew i could trust to do nothing more than give me a big hug and be there when and if I needed them to be. I have taken huge comfort from a very few people and glad that it wasn't more widely discussed.

I am very sorry for your loss @AdriannaP I had a missed miscarriage in April after a long time ttc. Physically I was ok within a couple of weeks but emotionally I am still struggling at times. I'm having counselling now but I had a lot of trouble coming to terms with what happened. This week is the first time I've felt genuinely OK in myself and feeling optimistic about the future.

I have been very open but I think it's very personal what you choose to do do, there's no right or wrong way to move forward.

Give yourself time and try not to put too much pressure on yourself to be OK.

Sending love ❤️

It's so tough isn't it. I had a miscarriage in March and still have days where I struggle (like today).

I am so sorry you are going through this too.

I found sharing with others helped me but I know it isn't for everyone.

I am getting fixated on my cycles which I know isn't good in terms of not being particularly relaxed about it all and heaping the pressure on.

Always here if you need a chat.