What are your coping tips?

[Beclaboo]

Cycle 5 day 17 of likely 24 days and I’m keeping my fingers firmly crossed
How do you cope with the disappointment each month? I am struggling badly with not being able to rant about it to anyone I know and since coming off the pill I am having the worlds worst PMS that fully mimic pregnancy symptoms so ignore them
DTD every other day but this month I only had 1 day of ewcm and didn’t feel any twinges so I’m not feeling very positive
I feel if I think positive I’m just devastated when AF comes but then I don’t want to be negative and get stressed.
What treats do you plan for AF arrival and how do you cope? My PMS comes after ovulation so I am currently stuffing my face with malteasers in effort to not tantrum in frustration!
I know people are far worse off than me. It’s just so bloody hard when people keep saying “oooh when are you two gonna have children” IM TRYING DAMNIT

Try and not think of it as 'trying' otherwise sex loses all fun and just becomes a chore. And try not to be watching every month. Focus on other things rather than obsessively wondering if this will be the month it happens. I know it's not easy. We tried for over a year before having to resort to IVF ICSI and now have DS.

Also, if you think there might be an issue (and I hope there isn't) don't wait too long to ask for help.

Hello OP!
Feeling your pain - have been TTC 20 months and I'd like to say it gets easier but... I don't think it does, I think you just become a bit numb to it. It especially stings when ever f~~~er around you is getting pregnant with very little effort.
All I can say is, know that you are never alone. It can feel difficult when your everyday friends don't have a clue what you're going through or feeling, and you truly can't rant at them.
I met a wonderful group of girls on a MN thread, we were all in the same situation and so we set up a WhatsApp group. We're so close now (even though we're all spread across the world). Theres a group chat of 9 of us, and 7 have had their BFPs AND their babies have now been born! It's been wonderful to go through their journeys with them and they are still there for me on mine. xx

@LifeOfRiley63 it’s good to know I am not alone! Yeah I think the worst part is the people that you generally lean on aren’t able to be there for you. Obviously I could tell people but I feel that would add more pressure by people asking if I was pregnant yet 😂 it’s a vicious circle

In the same boat....I was obsessed last month tracking every "symptom" and twinge because i was convinced i was PG but AF arrived today so onto the next month. I think it is so easy to get caught up in it all but this month i am going to try and take a step back and relax a bit more!

@Anny27 totally with you there, I learnt early on that my PMS symptoms highly correlate to pregnancy ones so I just ignore them. Although occasionally there will be one that I’m like I could be 🤔 this month it has been my food tasted funny (probably just hay fever)

I think I’m going to do the same, all my saving with be for a holiday 😉 and I won’t track anything, be more spontaneous and hopefully reduce my potentially raging stress levels!