I really hate TTC :(

[Rosieposy89]

I'm CD27 and can my uterus is cramping on and off which I guess means my period is coming tomorrow :(. I really, really hate TTC it feels like getting pregnant is impossible and I just want to give up. Going into July will be our 7th cycle TTC and it just feels like we're over half way to having to go get fertility tests done :(. I just can't shake the negativity, I guess it all feels lonely and overwhelming. I don't think hormones help the situation either. Sorry, I just needed to vent xx

It’s really shit OP, pretty much in the same boat as us... (long story, 3.5 years trying, lost son at 14 weeks due to fetal abnormality, and been trying ever since with not even a hint of good news..) it’s emotionally exhausting isn’t it.
May sound totally obvious but.. Make sure you take some time for yourself, things you enjoy etc - just to have some normality in your life. TTC is a drain, especially for months and years on end.

Ps. Not to get hopes up but my first symptom was cramping, so don’t lose hope just yet!

I went through this with my first baby- ttc took nearly a year so I understand. Be kind to yourself
It's so frustrating. The waiting, hoping, symptom spotting.

I can relate entirely, our stats are almost identical!

I’m so sorry for your loss 😢 I cannot even begin to imagine the emotional pain!

What I am beginning to learn is to keep reaching out on here. Everyone is so supportive and it is reassuring to be around people who just get it! Good luck and I hope
AF does not arrived.

I absolutely understand how you feel and am in the same boat - going into month 8TTC and really feel like I’m just never going to get pregnant!

It’s a really lonely time and I naively never thought it would take this long! My mind now starts to jump to what happens if I’m not pregnant in the next few months and what If I can’t get pregnant at all...

Sone lovely people on here have reassured me that we are still within a ‘normal’ time frame. I’ve read such conflicting things about what’s normal and what isn’t.

Were you on the pill before, regular cycles?

Thank you for all your support guys. AF arrived today and I took it really well... obviously I'm sad but no tears. I think your words of support really helped. Good luck and baby dust aplenty! Xx

Sorry to hear AF arrived but that brings with it a new chance. TTC really is the hardest!

@GandTisgoodforme oh I am so sorry for your loss, that is heartbreaking. Thanks I'm going to aim to make it less of a focus in my life. Good luck xx
@gotmychocolateimgood I'm glad you got there in the end. It is so frustrating and my DH felt this was our month and so he was sadder than me when AF arrived today. I forget it affects him too xx
@Annie20019 thanks - yes its great, TTC is so isolating as no-one can see your torment, I'd be lost without MN. Good luck to you. My AF arrived today bang on time so I guess its onto cycle 7 xx

@RoseIvy I'm sorry to hear you are having a tough time TTC too. It really does feel impossible but I guess there's a reason why docs aren't concerned until after we pass the 12 months TTC point.

I was on cerazette for 2 years. Came off in August 2018 to get my cycles back, and fell straight back into my regular rhythym straight away. I'm going to start temping this month to try and see if I can identifty ovulation patterns. Good luck to you xx

Its easy to castastrophise about not getting pregnant and the what if's. I'm trying to rationalise it that if there is an issue then hopefully there will be treatment options it doesn't necessarily mean no children ever. My AF came today and I was so calm I think my brain has just had enough of getting upset over it.

@needsomebabydust thanks so much. Yes first day of a new cycle so I can only move forwards. Going to give temping a go this month xx

I can totally relate to this. We're almost at 1 year without even a hint of a BFP. It's soul destroying :(

Me too, and I'm 39 so it feels like a lot of pressure

Just come across this by chance on active threads, but just wanted to say that I took 18 months to conceive dc1, there was no fertility issue and dc2 was conceived second month of trying. Sometimes the feeling of pressure etc can stop it from happening I think, try to relax and enjoy life and it will come! Maybe book a holiday, don't put your life on hold.

@justbeingelle aww I am so sorry to hear of your struggle. It is horribly stressful. Are you seeking help? I've decided to go at the 11th month mark if its needed. Good luck xx

@critters68 aww good luck. How long have you been TTC? The pressure is immense which is why it feels impossible I think xx

@Tfoot75 thanks so much for your advice and your experience reassured me that a lot of it is luck. I think I'll try and focus on making the most of a baby free life as its time I won't get back xx

We've been ttc for 22 months with one early mc in April 💔 Dtd regularly through the month, not just when you think you might be due to ovulate, eat well, exercise and be taking folic acid and vitamin d. Don't get too disheartened, it's very normal for it to take a year x