Been told to 'expect the worst'

[SamRwl]

So ....by my last period (23.04.19) it puts me at 8+3 weeks pregnant we paid for an early scan last Sunday and she said I was measuring at 5+5 there was a sack and a yolk but no fetal pole or heartbeat, told me to go back in 2 weeks,

We went for another scan today at a different place and she says it doesn’t look good as I’m still only measuring 5+6 she said there is a fetal pole still no heartbeat and to expect the worst and she’s referring me to EPU Monday morning and looks like I have a little bleed just above the sack

Has anyone else had this??
It's going to be a long wait until Monday, so I loose all hope completely!?
I don't know what to do ...
I just feel hopeless ....

To make things worse I've just started with bad morning sickness, she said because the sack is growing I will still experience symptoms as normal 😞
Finding this really hard to take in

Oh @SamRwl I'm so sorry you're going through this. I have no experience of this, but my thoughts are with you. Sending lots of love & luck your way x

Unfortunately yes. First scan at 7 weeks and there was a heart flicker but fetus was measuring 5 days behind, second scan at 9 weeks no heartbeat and fetus had stopped growing. Currently going though a medical miscarriage.

That said, after my first scan I googled and there were loads of people who had measured behind and gone on to have healthy pregnancies.
But I went into my second scan only vaguely recognising that things might not work out ok.

Sadly you’ve experienced a missed miscarriage. Unfortunately very common

Thanks all, bit of a sleepless night but starting to come to terms with it all now x

Oh I’m so very sorry. Yes, I’m afraid I had an early scan at 6 weeks and they could only see a yolk sac, I went back at 8 weeks, saw a heartbeat but still only measuring at 6 weeks. Sadly, as @sillysmiles said, I had no idea really what this meant until a midwife said ‘what will be, will be’. I miscarried at 9 weeks (by their dates, 11 weeks by mine).
But again, for as many m/c stories I read, I also read stories of hope where baby caught up.
Also, a year later, I fell pregnant again and at 6 weeks had a small amount of fluid which they thought was a burst cyst and had disappeared two weeks later. I am now 17 weeks pregnant.
Each pregnancy is different. Try to concentrate on what the professionals tell. If the worst does happen, Tommy’s and the Miscarriage Association have some wonderful people at the end of the phone of you need a little extra support. Fingers crossed for you lovely lady xxxxxxx

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@SamRwl so sorry 💕 I have no experience of this but thinking of you and hoping for the best, it seems like there are outcomes that go both ways so 🤞🏻 for you 💕💕💕 make sure you look after yourself and we're here if you need to talk 💕

I'm sorry to hear this. I had a similar experience where my dates didn't match the scan. Unfortunately it did end in a natural miscarriage when I was 9 weeks but baby was only 5+.

Be prepared for the epu to send you away for a rescan in 12-14 days. I had 3 in the end as they needed to see progress (or not) in order to confirm a missed miscarriage.

Was the private scan abdominal? There is a chance you ovulated late and if not transvaginal it might be too small to call it yet.

It's been 2.5 months since mine and I'm still struggling to be honest. Sorry this is happening to you

So sorry to hear this @SamRwl, it's such a shit, cruel thing to go through, especially when you're feeling the full effects of morning sickness. I had continual brown bleeding through first pregnancy so scanned me at EPU and saw heartbeat at 6+4. Just felt like something was still wrong though so paid for private scan at 11+4 and baby had stopped developing at 7+4. It was such a shock, even though suspected something, and ended up having d&c to remove. They scanned me again prior to this to make double sure. The doctor made sure to tell me that it was nothing I had done, more than likely a chromosome abnormality so baby wouldn't have had quality of life anyway. I took a bit of comfort from that, not in the moment, but afterwards. My next pregnancy resulted in my dd so it didnt affect anything there (although was very paranoid throughout but think that's understandable once you've experienced something like this) . Thinking of you

Just had a scan and there is a beautiful heartbeat I can't believe it, I just burst out crying !!!
Everything looks good I'm just a lot earlier on than I thought ! Only 6 weeks instead of 9 xx

Oh my goodness @SamRwl that's amazing!! Congratulations!!! What a little miracle!
I remember you saying on another thread somewhere that you didn't get a BFP until really late... that must be why?! We're you tracking ovulation? X

@mumof1hants I didn't track it at all it must have just been really late I can't believe it, 3 weeks behind seems like a lifetime to catch up but I'm so so happy to see that little heart beating !!!
It's really put me off going for early private scans she was so adamant it was a miscarriage I'm just so relieved I even cancelled my booking appointment just another 6 week wait until the 12 week scan but at least I can try to enjoy it now ❤️xx

@SamRwl omg I'm so so so happy to hear this!! Congratulations!!! You must be so thrilled! 💕💕💕

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Congratulations @SamRwl ! Hope all goes well

@SamRwl that is so so beautiful! I'm so so happy for you! ❤️

Just seen this thread! Was frantically scrolling through hoping for good news and I found it!! Amazing! Congratulations!

@SamRwl such brilliant news... made my day! What a cute little bean already! You just must've ovulated late!! X

Keep us updated won't u x

@mumof1hants ofcourse ❤️ thank you so much everyone xx

I was just coming on to say don’t lose hope- my ‘missed miscarriage’ is currently out walking his dog.
Fab news!

Wonderful news!! Congratulations!!!! Xxxx

Brilliant news! I’m so so relieved for you. Now just relax and take good care of yourself xxxx

So nice to hear good news xxx

Fab news ❤️