Another month, AF arrives right on time

[AnnaSteen]

I got my hopes up this month. No idea why. So fed up. I can’t seem to stop myself fantasizing about AF not coming, when the baby would be due, when we would tell people, what we would do on our holiday etc. don’t know why I do it to myself!

Bad luck - it will happen though! It's actually a good thing that you're regular but I know how disappointing and all-consuming it is. xxx

Hi @AnnaSteen

Sorry you are feeling fed up. Every month I make sure I have something to treat myself to! So if AF arrives I have something lined up. Usually it's chocolate or wine-based 😆 but next month i might ask DH to take me on a cinema date! I find it helps, even if a tiny bit :)

Do you do temping? I've only done it for one full month so far but found I could tell when AF was going to arrive as my temperature dropped, which helped prepare me for the disappointment.

I know it's tough but please know there are others out there who feel the same - I've cried and cried in previous months, but I know I've got to try and stay positive even though it sucks.

Sending you lots of luck for next cycle :) xx

Also I can relate about planning for the future etc. We went to a wedding at the weekend and I thought by this stage I'd be wearing a mat dress and almost ready to pop! 🙈

Just posted similar except mine hasn't started yet!

Can feel the build up and every time I go to the loo I get more annoyed 😭

I don’t chart temperature but I’m fairly regular so if I am even a few hours late I get my hopes up. We found out DH had a very low sperm count and that IVF was our only option last year but then he managed to improve it to normal so we’ve been told to try for 6 months naturally and I keep hoping it’ll just be our savior and mean not having to do IVF. Instead we are 3 months into our 6 month and no luck. So fed up. Thanks all for the sympathy and advice. I’m off on holidays next week so trying to console myself that at least I can drink etc but at this stage I just want to be pregnant not drinking!

I understand re wedding! I’m bridesmaid for my sister and she told me she’d picked me out a maternity dress last year as she knew we were trying - 3 months till the wedding now and not even pregnant. It’s all very depressing.

Hoping we all get lucky soon...

Hello ladies. Just been reading through your posts and you sound exactly like me. Getting invites to weddings and wondering what to wear in the hope you will be pregnant by then. Spending every month thinking about when the baby will be due and how and when to tell people. Then AF arrives and we're back at square one. Feeling really down as it has been a year now.

@AnnaSteen how did sperm count increase back to normal? Just wondering as DH on medication that can lower sperm count, he's been mostly off it since we started TTC but no luck yet.

Definitely try not to worry on holiday, hope you can relax and enjoy 😊🍹

Hi @Wannabemummy22 I know it's so difficult isn't it, I've really tried now not to think about ooh by Christmas I'll be X months pregnant or by this date... Etc... Otherwise yes I end up feeling pretty down!
I know technically we are still in the early stages of TTC (cycle 10) but coming from a family of women who all conceived first time round it feels like a lifetime!😂

@Am2019 it is hard and all people say is it will happen just be patient. I don't want to be patient. My sister got pregnant pretty quickly so I do wonder why it hasn't happened like that for me.

@Wannabemummy22 my sister also got pregnant cycle 1. Although it seems so far that ours is male problem. Not that it helps as we either get pregnant or we don’t.

@Am2019 he first tested 1 million, cut down on alcohol and coffee and took wellman. Retested 3 months later and it was 5 million. We were told it would be unlikely to improve any further but my DH took that as a challenge!! Completely went cold turkey on alcohol, caffeine (including all fizzy drinks), no sweets or chocolate, lots of nuts, leafy greens, salmon x3 times a week. No processed meat (bacon, sausage, chorizo, ham etc), red meat only once a week (fillet steak) otherwise fish/chicken. Cut down on dairy and gluten. Took Proceive Max sachets and also took some herbal stuff from an acupuncturist. For our IVF he tested at 18 million. So told that normal is 15 mil to 200 mil so we are now in lower range of normal.

I am right with you. It's the most heartbreaking thing. I am due AF either Sunday or Tuesday (26-28 day cycle and I never vary from that. I can already feel my tummy cramping in preparation and feel apprehensive. I am an emotional mess when AF turns up for a good while after. We have only been TTC since January so I don't really think my DH understands my upset. I guess I just feel my body has let me down and there's something so unfair about having to deal with a period at the of the disappointment. Good luck xx

@AnnaSteen sounds like your husband is very invested. We are just waiting on an appointment for DH's sperm to be tested.

@Wannabemummy22 good luck with the test. Well we read a good few peer reviewed books and the evidence base is there that diet changes helps and I guess he proves it does. Anything to make the journey shorter be that via natural (unlikely) or hopefully successful with IVF without too many failed cycles. It makes me happy he is 100% in it with me! I read about women whose husbands refuse to give up theirs ‘few vodkas’ etc and that would drive me demented!!!

Sorry for my late @annasteen, that's amazing how he managed to get it higher with changing lifestyle! Good to know it can be done that way and in case DH needs to go back on his meds