I think I need a talking to

[Chanel05]

Having had a mmc and surgery at the start of May, I'm now in my 2ww, 8dpo. In my brain, I've totally convinced myself that I'm pregnant even though I have no real symptoms. My cat has been glued to me the last few days which he was the week I found out I was pregnant and I had some strong cramping in my abdomen a couple of days ago. So completely irrational stuff!!

During my previous pregnancy I had sore boobs at 9dpo and I'm fretting that they feel normal today. I keep staring at my temp chart (as if I'll get some kind of ridiculous answer) 🤨. Can someone please talk some sense into me??? I know that it's a long way to fall emotionally if I get af next Sunday but I am having a totally irrational brain. I have been ttc for a year and I just feel totally desperate.

Sorry you went through this. It's tough and difficult.

Did you definitely ovulate last week?
Have you had negative tests following the miscarriage?

I don't want to disillusion you but it can take time for your body to return to a normal cycle.

Some people are lucky and fall pregnant without a cycle but this is rare

Fingers crossed OP! I had d&c at then of April.. ovulated 3 weeks later..and now 5 weeks pregnant again...very possible!

Hi @Chanel05. I had my mmc in April. I felt very similar last cycle and convinced myself I was pregnant. I allowed myself to start early testing. I was totally obsessed, I'm not sure it actually helped me, especially the brutalness of seeing bfn day after day.

I've decided to only use frer tests and as they're so expensive I won't do them before af is due. I'm not ttc this month as had an hsg as part of my fertility tests so couldn't risk pregnancy and it's been so nice not tracking anything.

If you can try and distract yourself this week and I'll keep my fingers crossed you'll get a nice surprise next week 🤞x

@Michellebops yes definitely ovulated. I got a negative hpt ten days before this and my ovulation was confirmed through temping (I've temped since last September so v confident of this).

@Novasky1 congratulations! Wishing you a healthy 9 months.

@VenusStarr it's definitely obsession! That's a good word to describe it. I think at the moment where I'm still in the cycle of the mmc I feel like it has a hold over me as I was never this before! Have you felt much more relaxed than you have in months before knowing that you're not ttc? I've deliberately not purchased any frers as they are expensive, I'd rather wait till it's a sure thing before buying them as I've spent a fortune in the past.

Don't beat yourself up. MC is hard and it's natural to want to conceive again right away. Both my younger children were born the moth after an early MC

Good luck OP and if this isn't the month then it will be soon x

sorry both my younger children were concieved rather than born the month after!

@Mamabear4180 thank you for your kind words. I hadn't really considered that I was being harsh to myself but I suppose I am. So much pain, longing and desperation comes from a mc doesn't it? I'm being ridiculous I know because it took me 8 months to conceive the first time and it took a long time for me to accept that my journey was not coming off the pill and falling pregnant weeks later. I know these feelings lead you to a slippery slope more often than not.

Can definitely relate to the feeling of it having a hold over you @Chanel05 I'm a lot more relaxed than I was last month. I do still think about it but it's not constantly in my thoughts and as I've already ovulated on the day of the procedure I can't symptom spot!

@VenusStarr when will you get results/ further info about what's next?

Just watched an episode of Young Sheldon and the mum had a mc. Literally burst into tears and had to turn off. Felt so emotional the last two days.

@Chanel05 they told me that one tube is fine but the dye went into the other tube but they weren't sure it came out. It was too painful to carry on though. I've got a hysteroscopy in August too, another month off ttc then a consultant appointment in September. Not sure if we'll get a plan then or not.

I hate getting unexpected reminders of my miscarriage especially when you're trying to take your mind of things! X

What does the August appointment entail @VenusStarr?

It's a camera to look in the uterus and I think at the tubes @Chanel05. It is under local anesthetic but they'll try and remove and fibroids if they can. I have a fair few! But none are obstructing my uterus so they might leave them alone. I hope so, the hsg was really painful!

@VenusStarr hopefully it won't be too painful for you afterwards! Hopefully you are getting somewhere by having appointments. Do you feel positive having things in the diary planned?

I think so @Chanel05 but then I also feel like having a baby is even further away, if that makes sense. I know I did conceive but it took so long and to then lose the baby, I'm scared it won't happen :(

@VenusStarr I know exactly what you mean - it's like having a false start every time. I'm sorry that it took you a long time to conceive, it's totally rubbish and then when you lose it after such a long time it breaks you even more. I have since learnt not to say oh I think I'll be pregnant by Halloween or July or whatever because those things come and go and you feel desperate still when it hasn't happened. We've just got to try and believe that it WILL happen. For both of us too it's statistically unlikely that the next one will end in a mc (I understand of course that doesn't mean it can't and having been in the 2% of people who mc after 8 weeks I know myself that someone has to be that awful statistic) but it will end positively.

Thank you @Chanel05 💜 I hope that we both don't have to wait too long x

@VenusStarr well I did an ic this morning and it was a bfn so I feel like there's no hope this cycle.

It's so early!! @Chanel05 there is still hope but if you're not due until the weekend I'd hold off got a few days x

Hi OP, I am 7dpo after a CP last month. I'm also continually checking my chart etc.

@Whyhaveidonethis sorry to hear that. When are you going to test?

@VenusStarr I'm due af on Sunday so I know it's very early days but feel like it's not good news when I had symptoms at 9dpo last time.

I understand that @Chanel05 but this would be a different pregnancy with a different sperm and egg. There is still every chance that you will get a positive test this cycle 🤞x

@VenusStarr yes you are of course right. Told you I needed a talking to, I'm a mad woman 😂

😊 @Chanel05 🤞 x

Hiya, I had a mmc and erpc in April and now 6 dpo of my second cycle. I'm feeling like I might be pregnant too but I think some of it is my body reacting more strongly to hormones after the pregnancy. I quite enjoy early testing tbh even if it is negative 😬 can always convince myself is just too early. Anyway I'm hand holding for you. Takes a long time to stop feeling vulnerable after mc.

@Chanel05 I don't want to test too early but know I will!! I'm hoping I get to Wednesday Friday without testing!! 😂