I had sex!!

[Dlah]

Ok maybe that's a little OTT but having struggled with my partner having some 'issues' in DTD the first 4 cycles of us supposed to be trying, we finally were able to have sex, during ovulation and give us a chance of conceiving our 2nd.

It feels like a massive weight has lifted, even if we're not successful this month, at least it proves to him we can get past it, and hopefully that will help him relax going forward also ☺️

Crazy lady going back in her box now . .

Woooo great OP! Good luck

Hurrah first time back is the hardest!

Yaaay, good luck OP :)

This made me laugh as this is me!! 4th month ‘trying’ to conceive our 2nd, but first month there’s an actual chance. Think we got the window. Hope so anyway. If we’re not super lucky this month I really hope it wasn’t a one off... we’re older as well so don’t have months to waste! Good luck!

@tmc14 nice to know it's not just us in this boat, although I certainly don't wish our struggles on others, but it's a lonely place sometimes feeling like you can't even get in the race.

I really wish us both lots of luck and if not, that it's a step to helping problems going forward x

Hi @dlah just wondered how you were getting on? We’ve now been TTC #2 for 5 months... only one month we were in with a chance. After this months fertile week passed without even an attempt at sex I lost it at my husband a bit... hope you’re having more luck! As you said, everyone else on here seems to be at it like rabbits so thought I’d check in & see how you’re doing x

Hi @tmc14 well we're still in same boat it seems, as per last post was first time we actually had a shot but no joy. Was ovulating a couple of weeks ago, sadly was crashed into head on and had severe bruising/whiplash so all action was out the window. Skip to tonight we sent DD off for a sleep over at Nanas to get back on track and just 'practice' without distraction and I've bloody well come on 2 days earlier than expected!! TV and chill it is lol

Well, I'm just trying not to think about it too much, it's hard coz I just don't feel like we're even in the race but hopefully we'll get a shot soon. How about you?

Oh no, sorry to hear about the crash, how awful & scary. Hope you’re ok. Eurgh, early period is annoying! I had a weirdly long (for me) 35 day cycle last month. My cycles now range from 27-35 so hard to plan things. Need to talk to husband again about things, without stressing him out. I turn 40 in a few months so just really aware of time. Would be hard enough if we couldn’t conceive a second child, but if we don’t even try properly, it’s going to be even harder to deal with.

Yeah I fully understand what you mean. You just want/need to know you've given it your best shot. I'm still trying not to put the pressure on, I dropped into convo last night that I couldn't get pregnant currently, ie last nights happenings were supposed to just be for us/for fun as I wasn't ovulating. He did comment once I came on that he try and step it up once finished and we'd try and go back to every other night/few days (which is how we conceived DD) as the current once/twice a month if lucky is hardly likely to cut it. This ttc lark is just a pain in the arse!

My partner is similar. It makes it all so much more stressful doesn't it? Hoping he will try this weekend as fw and I think I will cry if he doesn't. It's bad for self esteem too, I keep thinking it's because of me somehow. I have RA and other issues and know he worries about hurting me by mistake, which is how we got into such a stressful situation, I think.

So sorry about crash and hope next month is better. Every other day would be ideal, wouldn't it?

I am 34 btw ans ttc one x

@tmc14 @Sleepyhead11 about to ovulate, but the couple of attempts we had over the weekend just because, sadly seem to be back to square one, which now makes me anxious thinking we just won't have a shot these next few days. Tried to coax my husband last night but he had a stressful evening so no, he did say we'd try tonight. Really don't want to 'plan' sex but if one of us doesn't suggest we don't do it during the week lol too tired!

Hope you're having better luck?

Hi @dlah really sorry you might miss this cycle... have you had better luck the last couple of days?
No luck here. Last cycle missed the opportunity completely. Husband and I have had a couple of chats, but it just ends with him saying he’ll try harder, doesn’t really mean anything to be honest! I’m CD8 today, my cycles are a bit all over the place but expect to ovulate around CD17, so need to turn on the charm next weekend! Feeling quite despondent really. Husband just seems really against planning/booking in sex to even try. Not sure what to do. Lots going on in life so won’t make a thing of it this month, but if we don’t even try next week then I’ll have to have another conversation next month. Sorry to sound a bit miserable about it, just want another baby so badly and I’m really trying to start resenting my husband over it.

@tmc14 I'm with you. I'm literally about to ovulate now, tried to turn it on Thursday night but he couldn't get it up. He's already gone bed tonight, but I feel like now if I come onto him again it'll be another 'flop' excuse the pun. I want him to come onto me, which in fairness he did last weekend, we tried Saturday & Sunday but he lost it both times. Have suggested viagra which he's refused and I have to respect his decision, just feel like I'm putting pressure on him without meaning too

Oh it’s so difficult. Will he talk about it at all? I don’t have any suggestions, not putting pressure on is unfair on you, putting pressure on won’t make it work, can you go away next month just before ovulation? Would that help? Or just add to the pressure?
We actually have got a little lucky, managed to successfully have sex last night, and was the day of positive opks so good timing I think. Had to try twice as lost it first time. But obviously chances of success so small!

@Dlah your situation sounds tough 😰

This is meant kindly but is the right time (or with the right person maybe?) to be TTC? I know you have a DD already.

There seem to be a number of issues there, and it sounds like you only want to overcome the sexual dysfunction issues he's having solely to conceive? It sounds like there are serious issues in the relationship?

@EarringsandLipstick my bad on my part if it's come across that way. I can say we're very happy, have our DD, got married earlier this year and are in a great place. Admittedly sex in general has become a problem whether ovulation or not, and I do feel intimacy is important for any relationship but we're just trying to work through it as best we can. Sadly my husband has severe white coat syndrome so the prospect of talking to anyone outside ourselves is a zero

Oh I'm glad to hear that & if you're both happy, that's the main thing.

I hope everything works out, especially TTC 😊