TTC in August Looking for a BFP

[libralady]

Hi,
Thought I'd start a thread for those of us looking for a BFP in August. I'm ttc #2. Have a DS of 3.3. I'm current on CD15 - OD day - with a bit of luck. Have been bd'ing like mad over my fertile days and will continue to do so for a few more days yet. Then it will just be the 2ww. Anyone else in situation?

so sorry to hear your news upsidedowncake. nothing I can say really other than I am thinking of you. Life can be so cruel sometimes.
Libralady - bad news about your back - and rubbish timing for you. Hopefully the painkillers will ease things enough for you to attempt some bd'ing.
Am out of the running now for this month - definatly no baby for me . Not too suprised really but am sooo disappointed. Definatly not through lack of trying on our part, dh is looking forward to a few days break . Have managed to persuade him to take Zinc supplements now and keep feeding him fruit smoothies. Hopefully might all kick in next month.It's our first wedding anniversary bank holiday weekend so fingers crossed for an anniversary baby .

Oh upsidedowncake _ i am sooooo sorry, but pleased that they managed to catch it so early (if you know what I mean). I had an ectopic almost a year ago and they made me wait until week 8 until they would scan me - the baby was still living and I lost my tube so I do know what you are going through .

thinking of you xx

libralady - sounds painful and frustrating all at the same time!

moodymoo

Oh - so much blue on this thread at the moment.

Upsidedowncake - So sorry, I agree with Bellie that at least it looks like they've 'caught' it early. Small comfort I know. Thinking of you.
Libralady - how annoying. Couldn't have waited a week or so, could it?!
Moodymoo - sorry this isn't your month. Come and join the fun on the September thread.

I had a great night out in Nottingham on Saturday. First time I've been out since January and first time 'on the town' in Lord knows how long!! At least the Clomifene didn't stop me from having a good time, no side effects to report so far and only one day to go on this course.

Tigerschick - glad you had a good night in Nottingham, wish I had spent mine in such a fun way, instead cooped up in a caravan with SIL and 2 kids - nightmare. Think I will come and join you in the september thread now if that's ok

I hesitate to say "the more the merrier" as, clearly, that is the motto of the ante-natal threads ... but you are very welcome to join us

Hi there

Agree with you all about glad they caught it early. Stiff upper lip, what ho, etcetera. I'm fine really apart from the occasional 'Oh f**k!'

The irritating thing is having to wait until Wednesday and Thursday for more tests rather than having it resolved. But I can see the point of them letting nature take its course.

Libralady - what a pain about your back. Not great timing.

Moodymoo - I'm sorry. But fingers crossed for the bank holiday!

Bellie - thanks for your support. I'm sorry you lost your tube. I've been reading up a bit about it.

Tigerschick - glad you had a good night out. Sounds like you really deserved it! Take your point about lots of blue, but at least odds are that the other three bfps will be OK now.

Can't decide whether to join the rest of you on the September thread when I've been banned from bonking anyway, but just for the support, or just to let it go.

Upsidedowncake - it is up to you - I have been logging on to the ttc threads for about 6 months, tho for at least 3 of them I have known that the chances of me getting pg were next to nil. It's nice to have somewhere to come and chat and to keep up with everyone ... but it can be quite obsessive, which isn't great if you aren't allowed to do anything about it.

Agree that it is rotten that you have to wait until Wednesday to find out more. Fingers crossed that, one way or another, things work out OK.

upsidedown - you don't need to keep a stiff upper lip - you still need to grieve.

Hi all, decided to stay away yesterday for my own sanity! Anyway, pretty sure my period is on it's way and anyway, the symptoms have died down so I'm forgetting about all that. Had a dream last night that I did 2 tests and they both came back BFP and the first thing I wanted to do when I woke up was test, especially with first morning urine as not done that yet. Then 5 mins later when I came round properly, I decided it was wishful thinking and I wouldn't waste ANOTHER test!!! So I'm quite proud of myself for that

Moodymoo - thanks, will look into that but if it's really expensive, might just have a chat with Dr first. I'd like to think I just tested too early but I really feel it's not the month for me. I'm pretty sure AF is on the way. Oh well. Anyway, sorry you're out for this month, no doubt I'll see you on the Sept thread. Oh and fingers crossed for an anniversary baby, wouldn't that be nice

1down2togo - welcome

Upsidedowncake - {{{ hugs }}} I'm so sorry But it's definitely better to get it earlier rather than later, doesn't help though does it As for whether or not to stay away from TTC boards, that's a personal thing. I must admit some days I think it feeds my obsession but then it's also nice to have support. I wish I'd known about Mumsnet when I MC before ds was born. Would have been nice to chat to people who'd been through the same thing and get away from the same old comments everyone made about it. I'm fine thanks but don't worry about other people, think of yourself

Emz26 - oh, I hope you are! All I can say is that I knew and my friends knew I was pregnant with ds when I was only a week gone but the cheapy test was negative. Got a BFP when my period was actually due/late (can't remember). But also don't get your hopes up either as there's nothing worse than expecting it and then being let down.

libralady - sorry to hear that, how horrible for you...the pain and the not being able to get down to it. Hope it gets better soon!!

Right, best get off MN and have a wash ready for when kiddies arrive. Bye for now xx

Hello everyone

Moodymoo thanks for the info on how to calculate CD1. That means I am on CD3 instead of CD5 (and that is the first time I have calculated my cycle day since losing the baby - it feels weird). So all set for getting fruity next week and have some ov sticks to use.

girlycm - yes I meant you need to avoid going mad from obsessing as we all go temporarily insane during this process but it doesn't help matters My dh gave me that look when my pre-seed arrived through the post. He said (rationally, I might add)since when did we need it before! I may as well have ordered a leprachaun I have never had a problem conceiving but of course there is no magic cure for losing babies so I went ahead and bought any old thing to make me feel better!

Upsidedowncake - so very sorry about your ep I had one 18 months ago which resolved itself but took a few weeks. The waiting was the most agonising bit - along with the fact that you still feel pregnant Take good care of yourself - lots of pampering will help. How is your dp?

Though initially very pleased to get my period (four and a half weeks after my missed m/c)I had a few low moments during the week and it dawned on me that I had been confronted with the finality of not being pregnant anymore. I think in my subconscious that I had dismissed the ERPC as an operation rather than signifying the end of my pregnancy. Another very sad thing for me this week has been the discovery that a good friend had resumed a relationship with a violent partner and she had a black eye from where he had punched her in the face. She has ended it but I'm not sure she will have the strength to keep away/keep him away. I am so frightened for her as he has become increasingly violent each time. I can't understand why she has got herself into this situation as she is usually assertive and together.

hi everyone

well done for not testing looneytune - how are you feeling though? I know your symptoms have gone, but has your period arrived yet?

I am waiting until thursday to test although as I have had my usual light bleeding since cd 17 I am not hopeful, but it keeps me going knowing that there is still a chance!

Ladylush - where do you get leprachauns from then [grin} - it may take the luck of the irish for me!! Have fun over the next week!
I know what you mean about the operation and the pregnancy being separate but if you grieve I am finding that time really does help and if it means ordering everything under the sun I am all for it.
Sorry about your friend I think just being there to support her will be a big help to her.

Just had to clear all our drains out - as they were blocked with leaves etc and all the toilets were backing up ! Oh the joys ......!!

Ladylush - good luck with the ov sticks - I have a little supply hidden from dh under the front seat of my car. No chance he will find them there. Wouldn't usually bother hiding them but as I have bought a clearblue monitor for this next cycle he would not be happy if I was doubling up with the opk's as well. What is the deal with pre-seed? I have seen it advertised but I don't really know much about it - can you tell me anything? Been watching put for it on ebay as it is loads cheaper getting it from the american sellers when our excange rate is good.
I know what you mean about your period arriving. I was like that last month. Even though lost baby in March I had heavy bleeding untill June, sorted out by hysteroscopy in July so last month was officially end of it all and it really hit me that I was at the end of my pregnancy journey. It was horrible. Just trying to concentrate on getting pg again now.Was made harder as a colleague was pg as well - 1 week behind me, so have been waiting for that to be over with and today it was - she had her baby this morning and I feel horrible to admit it but I was glad she got a boy - I couldn't have handled her getting a girl like I had and I am even more horrid to say that I was kind of pleased that he weighed 10lb - really really nasty of me but I couldn't bear for it all to be perfect for her. Am so glad that it is over with though as was driving me mad and has made me feel so horrible about myself.
As for your mate all you can do is sit back and be there for her when it all goes pearshaped again - the more you tell her not to go back the more determined she will be.

moodymoo - what was the hysteroscopy like - I am booked in for one in Sept?

Ladylush - I can relate to that feeling, first period after my ERPC really affected me but it did get better with time. I left it 3 months til we TTC again and then I conceived straight away. I really hope you do too I can also (sort of) relate to the abuse thing too. Recently found out my sister's dh has been hitting her. Long story, no seeing black eyes as they live couple of hours away but she's mentioned cracked ribs, being black and blue etc. but she's not leaving as he's convinced her she'll loose the kids. Anyway, that's another story. I think you can just be there for her but TRY not to get too stressed by it as it won't help things - easier said than done.

Bellie - thanks, I really wanted to throughout yesterday and also this morning but I've not. It's like an addition but I'm not even due my period til Sunday(ish) so it's silly to test now as I've not got the symptoms anymore. Yesterday the period pain type feeling stepped up and then last night, my sides felt like they'd been pulled (like pulled muscle, stitch type thing) and that wasn't nice. I did rush around a lot yesterday but then again, being a childminder I do usually anyway (think coz yesterday it was different kiddies, it was more work, but fun). Tummy really bloated, had the dull ache for about a week and half now and just waiting for period to arrive Still very confused about the brown watery stuff coming out of (.)(.) and someone else online who I got chatting to has had the same as me (and all other symptoms), was due her period this Sunday gone and still nothing but BFN still. So she's keeping me posted as we've both never seen or heard of this brown stuff I thought all my symptoms were due to coming off the pill or something but this other lady has been ttc for a year now so it's clearly different for her. Oh well, only time will tell. Good luck with your test tomorrow! When are you/were you due?

moodymoo - gosh, you had heavt bleeding that long I lasted over the weekend but the amount of blood loss was making me ill, I couldn't walk up the stairs etc. and then ended up having ERPC which sorted it. Think I bleed for about 6 weeks after that but not really heavy like before. What is a hysteroscopy?

Right, off for another cuppa whilst I wait for mindees to arrive!

moodymo.....p.s....I don't blame you for feeling better once that lady had her baby, gets it out of the way. I remember my first day back at work after a month off and a friend at work (not close thank god) told me she was pregnant. It was that stage when it was all new so she was just telling everyone. I wanted to be happy for her but I couldn't help it reminding me of what Id just lost. Time is a great healer though.

Looneytunes

I am really sorry if I's going to scare you with this. I may just be slightly distractedly looking out for the same symptoms as me.

What is your discharge like? Mine looks like prune juice - brown and watery. TMI everyone else, sorry. A feeling of bloating is also a possible symptom of an ectopic - though as you say, it absolutely could be your period.

If you can, I would make an appointment with your GP and I would also do a pregnancy test anyway even if it is too early.

Fingers crossed Looneytunes that it isn't anything to worry about. It probably is nothing, but as this has been going on for a while, perhaps it's worth checking out. Good luck.

agree with upsidedown LT - worth checking out!

How are you today upsidedowncake??

Hi Upsidedowncake

Don't worry, you've not scared me (well, yes but not something I hadn't thought of)

Just been on the phone to the Duty Dr and she's reassured me that it would be too early to have the pain I'm having BUT she's still told me to come and see her tomorrow (1st available appointment with female Dr)

I started to think about possible EP when I got these sharp pains, mainly in one side but I did in the other too. The watery brown fluid from my nipple concerned me, thought was very odd. Anyway, these are the FULL symptoms I have left (some not mentioned before as put down to other stuff):

Brown Watery fluid coming from right boob
Bloated tummy
Feeling of period coming (stronger from yesterday)
Pains in sides, near hips. Mainly left side but has been both
Really hungry, eating more, only felt full up once since all this started
Slight sicky feeling every now and then, nothing like it was
Hot and clammy (I keep telling dh it's hot and he must be coming down with something if he thinks it's cold! lol)
Tired
Emotional and ratty

Think that's it. Duty Dr said as test is still negative, we'll have to see if my period comes and take it from there. She doubts what I'm feeling would be down to EP this early on.

What does worry me are these things....(I know I'm silly, not sure how much I believe but here goes)......When I went to tarot reader last (she's always spot on about very unusual stuff so deffo not a con person) she mentioned I'd be having twins (it runs strongly in my family) but I'd need an operation after which would stop me having any more children. Part of me wonders if she got slightly wrong but the op bit right? Anyway, not reading too much into this I get my crystal out (i know, silly, but it's helped me with lots of things before, helped me find my passport in a place I checked 4 times before but it insisted it was there and it was blablabla)...anyway, i asked random questions which i knew answer to and was right as usual, I then asked if i was pregnant and it turned to no but when i asked if i had EP it changed to yes. I think it's probably wrong so I'm not going to worry (well try). It could be down to a urine infection.

What do you think (ignoring my silly beliefs of course). And also, I mentioned you had the watery brown stuff and she said but that would be down below and not boobs, I said I'd check for confirmation as I thought you were talking boobs - can you confirm?

Thanks

How you bearing up anyway? Hope you're ok!!

Yesterday was a good day. Spent it with a friend with a ds my little boy's age and revelled in the fact that I have already been so lucky to have him

Today I had to go back to the hospital for blood tests. Awful spending two hours back there again and now pretty down.

Put ds back in nursery when I went to hospital and haven't got him out yet. Want to curl up in a ball, but know that probably best thing is to take ds1 to swings or something.

Have emotional ups and downs of pregnancy hormones, plus the whole grief thing.

Can't tear myself off MN.

Bellie - not sure if you've been in the 'caravan' at all but if you have, you will know that not long after I'd said about still not testing but wanted to again this morning, I did one - couldn't help myself!!!

Upsidedowncake - meant to say that the Dr said that the brown watery stuff is probably just hormonal. Oh, forgot to say, I'm still weeing lots (but that could also be urine infection couldn't it)

What do people think of these very early pregnancy tests that you can get from ebay that measure from 10miU? Just wondering if it's worth getting a first response one or are they probably all just as reliable as each other?

Oh well, Dr's at 3.30 tomorrow.

Hi LT

A bit of a Xthread. So glad that you have spoken to doctor and hope it goes OK tomorrow.

My prune juice is coming from down below. Sorry that I misunderstood.

not ventured to the caravan yet - trying to remain as positive as I can be and in my mind ventruing to the caravan or the hut is not going to help me at the moment. (not wanting to sound rude to anyone that goes there but how my mind is at the moment iyswim)

I deliberately hold off testing (another way of me staying positive as long as possible each month ) until my period due date - which incidently I got wrong this month and is Friday not Thursday so another day for me to remain positive!!! So not sure how the really early pg tests work or how realiable they are!

Am having cramps and still getting my watery discharge/light bleeding - but I keep hoping that dispite this I will get a BFP (see I am in my own bubble - not a caravan )

Could be a urine infection but still worth going to get checked - if possible take urine sample with you - I can never manage to squeeze anything out at the doctors!