Positivity, please!

[LizaRose81]

Hello all. I’m 37, have had a chemical pregnancy and a miscarriage in the last 5 months and am starting to feel that it’s never going to happen. I know people wait for far longer than this and really I have an awful lot to be grateful for, but my body is all over the place, so I think I may have missed ovulation this month because it happened so much earlier than normal and I’m finding it hard not to be disheartened and cross with myself for not being more careful. Has anyone else been in a similar situation? I’ve been pretty positive but every month that nothing happens just feels harder to pick myself up from. Thanks in advance x

Hey! I feel for you so much !! Much but please don't lose heart!! I'm sure someone will come along who knows far more than I . But I know you'll get your sticky bean soon!

Stay strong @LizaRose81 and try to stay positive. It is disheartening month by month, I totally understand where you are coming from. I am 38. I have a DS who is nearly 3 and I fell pregnant 2nd cycle of trying. I didn't envisage issues when TTC no.2. However, we started trying in Dec 2017, I then went on to have 3 MCs in 2018 which has been heartbreaking. The doctor who did my d and c after MC no. 1 has been very much of the view that it will happen for us but given age it might take a little longer but as long as we (DH and me) maintain the strength and support each to keep trying and we'll get there. Last MC was in Nov and my cycle seemed a bit odd since. Went to see doctor again, he said that if it didn't happen this cycle to start Clomid maybe next cycle. I went for a scan etc and progesterone tests and I think I generally felt a bit better having a bit of a plan which made me relax more this cycle... and guess what? BFP! So, it's early days and who knows might be another MC but I am trying to stay positive.

The above is a long winded way of me trying to say that it does take time but try to stay positive and try to relax as much as possible. I used CB OPKs to track ovulation which was actually really helpful but I know some people find it adds to the stress. The benefit is that it potentially removes one of the many luck aspects about conceiving ie timing when to dtd I'm usually fairly regular but this cycle ovulated much later and o would have missed it if I wasn't monitoring.

It will happen OP stay positive x

Thank you both so much.

I think I just hit a wall last night - I've generally been quite positive but occasionally I freak out at lack of time/age/feeling like it will never happen.

Jonesydocandjr, thank you for your thoughts. I don't think it's about how much you know but about looking out for each other, which I really appreciate. Whatever your situation I hope things are going as planned.

Newbie21, you've been through such a lot, I'm so sorry for your losses. I have everything crossed that this time will work out for you all. I agree that relaxing must help - I didn't know I'd miscarried for a fortnight (a couple of months ago), but when I looked at the dates it had happened in the middle of a very busy, stressful and emotional week. Whether some of that was cause or effect I guess I'll never know, but I'm certainly trying to keep calm and positive now. I really do hope things work out for you as it's so difficult to keep trying - and of course, congratulations!

I've also tried to reply to your lovely messages several times and the internet has been conspiring against me, but they do make such a difference so thank you both for taking the time to respond. We're off on holiday very soon (I thought the dates were going to work out perfectly but never mind!) so that will be a lovely chance to escape.

Thanks again and good luck xx

Sorry to hear you are going through this Liza

Just wanted to add another positive story

I caught with dd after 9 cycles and all good; always planned another child

Took 2 years but I then had a missed mc - found out at 12 week scan which was heartbreaking

This was followed by a chemical pregnancy

However, 4 months after that I got my bfp and ds was born when I was 36 - he's 10 now!

Hang in there, thinking lots of positive thoughts for you

Hello @jackstini, and thank you for the lovely message. For some reason the notification didn’t come through so I’ve only just seen it. What a lovely outcome to your story, and it really is helpful to know that people get there in the end, even if it’s not the easiest journey. We’re actually on holiday, which I’m hoping will help to chill us out at the very least. It’s been so heartening to read your responses, so thank you xx