Hi,
Feeling apprehensive about posting this...
Last October I had a miscarriage at 12w+3. It was very traumatic and happened very quickly at the hospital. It was a very much wanted pregnancy and my husband and I were devastated. At the time we were told that the baby would be taken to histology for tests and we then agreed for a communal cremation with ashes at our local crematorium children’s garden.
I struggled greatly with my mental health after the miscarriage and had to take significant time off work with intensive counselling. I fell pregnant again in January but that ended in a very early miscarriage at around 6 weeks. This was another blow that I had to get my head around.
It’s taken me several months to get back to a place where I can begin to start thinking about the future and trying again. I recently went to my GP who (after asking me if I had had my baby yet 🤦🏼♀️) has referred me to the hospital. I also asked about the tests that the hospital said they would do on our baby. She said there was nothing in my notes and as they were tests that she didn’t request, she wouldn’t be able to see the results. She also said she wouldn’t know who I would need to speak to to find anything out.
I had a missed call from the hospital last week but as I was away on holiday I didn’t have the chance to call back today. No-one seemed to know who called me or why, even after speaking to 4 different departments. They also didn’t seem to know where I could chase up the test results.
I’m just wondering if anyone else has been in a similar situation and what you did/who you spoke to? I don’t really know where to go from here? Do I contact PALS to ask if they can find out for me? Do I try EPAU (where I ended up miscarrying) again to see if I can speak to someone different? I’m just at a loss!
I just want to know if there is anything to be aware of if we were to conceive again. We desperately want our own family and I want to do everything I can to prevent the miscarriages again.
Thank you,
Lou