Try for #3 or call it a day....?

[PineapplePrincess]

Currently have two DS. First was conceived just over five years ago, we weren’t even actively trying...

Second was much more of a struggle. Three miscarriages all at or before 12wks, and one chemical pregnancy. Horrendous two years all in, but we welcomed our second son 12wks ago after all but giving up.

It may just be my hormones talking, but I would quite like to try again. Part of me is still longing for a little girl, the other part is really enjoying the baby stage.

The fear is going through the heartache of miscarriage. I’m also in my early forties, so no spring chicken. Despite testing there was no explanation for my previous miscarriages other than possibly age and ‘bad eggs’.

So what do I do? Has anyone had experience of miscarriages, rainbow and then trying again?

I didn't want to read and run. I am sorry for your losses. I think only you can answer that question. I try to imagine myself old in these situations, and looking back would you regret not trying for a 3rd? And if it is another boy would that be upsetting to you?
I have had one miscarriage and that was hard enough so I can't imagine how hard it must have been and it would be totally acceptable to not want to try again for that reason.

@PineapplePrincess sorry to hear you've had a hard time. Me and my husband were umming and arring about having a 3rd and we eventually decided that there's a chance we would regret not having another but there's no chance that we would have another and then regret that decision. We are now actively TTC and very excited at the thought of a 3rd