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Pretty sure I'm about to have another miscarriage

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Kinsters · 13/05/2019 12:03

I've been TTC #1 since August 2018. I got pregnant in October but it was a chemical. The next cycle I was pregnant again but I had a MMC confirmed at 8+4 in December. I got pregnant again in February, another chemical, and now I'm pregnant again and supposed to be 6+3 today. I was so excited and really thought this was going to be the one.

I had some very light brown spotting a week ago but put it to the back of my mind because it was such a small amount and it didn't continue. But today I had more brown spotting and it's got some clots in it as well, it's got a bit stronger now by this evening (I'm overseas) and is almost red.

I'm so sure I'm going to have another loss and it sucks. I live overseas in DH's home country but he's away for work until Friday so I'm feeling pretty alone, hence posting on here.

I've got an appointment for an early scan with my Dr on Saturday and I don't see much point bringing it forward, especially because DH isn't here. She's already given me progesterone and aspirin after I got my BFP this time so there's not much else she could do anyway.

Ergh this sucks. Anyone else going through the same? I'm really just waiting for it to happen now.

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jamtart30 · 13/05/2019 12:09

I'd bring the scan forward. Saturday is a long time to wait when you're feeling worried.

HalfBloodPrincess · 13/05/2019 12:10

I’m so sorry. It sounds very similar to how my miscarriage started last year, although I posted on here at the time and the responses I got were for both negative and positive outcomes, so there might be some hope! (Although if you’re anything like me that made me feel worse so apologies if that’s upset you)
Do you have anyone you could stay with/to stay with you for the next couple of days?

Squiff70 · 13/05/2019 12:19

I'm so sorry you're going through this @Kinsters. I really hope it's not anther miscarriage but it sounds like it's possible. Can you get in to see your doctor sooner? Is there anyone who can be with you until DH gets back on Friday? We're here for you Flowers

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Kinsters · 13/05/2019 12:44

HalfBloodPrincess so sorry this happened to you as well. It's shit. I wish that I'd be in the group of people that it works out well for but I just don't think the odds are in my favour.

I don't have anyone. It's literally just DH. We see FIL and BIL a lot but I never told them I was pregnant and I don't feel that comfortable sharing this with them.

I'll probably go to the drs tomorrow just so I can get signed off work (can't take sick leave without a drs note).

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VenusStarr · 13/05/2019 13:19

I'm really sorry to hear this @Kinsters, I hope that your fears aren't confirmed. If possible I would see if you can get an earlier scan. Sorry you're having to deal with this alone with dh being away. Sending love and positive thoughts xx

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Kinsters · 13/05/2019 13:29

Thanks Venus, your words are very kind. I'll go for a scan tomorrow morning and confirm what's happening.

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InDreamland · 13/05/2019 13:55

@Kinsters I'm so sorry you're going through this, especially with DH away. I really hope that all is still well and little bean is just getting more comfortable in there. Mc is just the shittiest thing to happen to anyone and makes any pregnancy after all the more anxiety provoking. I would bring the scan forward if you can so you're not left wondering and getting more worried. Sending lots of virtual hugs ..........I should pop back to say hi on the other thread x

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Kinsters · 13/05/2019 14:33

Thanks InDreamland, hope you're doing ok. The other thread is pretty quiet now - I think most people have split off to different threads.

I wish the bleeding would just get going properly or stop, this in-between small amount of spotting is just stressful. DH was all ready to drive the four hours back home tonight but I've calmed down a bit now so he's staying put.

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VenusStarr · 13/05/2019 15:11

I don't know what the time difference is, but hope the scan goes well in the morning @Kinsters Flowers

HalfBloodPrincess · 13/05/2019 17:27

Glad you’re having a scan tomorrow x

For me the waiting was the worst part, so I can understand exactly how you feel about the bleeding- the hospital piss about so much that when it finally happened I felt a sort of relief - not that I’d lost the baby but that the uncertainty was over and I could stop hoping. then the guilt at feeling glad it was over set in and it’s taken me over a year to feel at peace with it all.

Thinking of you Flowers

turquoiseturtle · 13/05/2019 17:42

@Kinsters I’m so sorry, this is such a rough thing to go through. I really hope it turns out to be a false alarm. However things go, I’d like to encourage you not to hesitate to take as much sick leave as you need and then some more!

Good luck with the scan tomorrow.

sprinkleofsunshine · 13/05/2019 17:46

Miscarriage is a horrible thing. Sorry you have to go through this without your dh there. Sending love and positive thoughts your way Thanks

InDreamland · 13/05/2019 18:06

@Kinsters I have spent more time on the general TTC after pregnancy loss thread which you popped onto briefly, come back and join us there. Shame the others on the July thread have gone quiet but guess that as some get pregnant and others feel left behind we would eventually go to other threads. I'm really up and down - still finding the mc's hard to cope with. I really hope that the bleeding stops and you are just having a false alarm. Guessing you're hopefully sleeping well now, 8 hours ahead? So you'll pick this up in the morning. Hope the scan shows a healthy bean with strong heartbeat x

Thumbellini · 13/05/2019 18:45

I hope you get some answers tomorrow, so sorry to read what you've gone through. It has echoes of my own experience, recently MMC after a run of CP's. I was given aspirin and vitamin D everyday and then progesterone and clexane from BFP. Is this something you could ask for next time? I really hope all goes well but just know you aren't alone in this if the worst does happen. Thanks

McHelenz · 13/05/2019 19:15

@Kinsters I hope everything is positive for you tomorrow xx

spellingtest · 13/05/2019 20:56

Good luck for tomorrow. We are all here for you too. Sending love xx

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Kinsters · 14/05/2019 01:18

Thanks everyone, you're all so nice.

Just waiting to see my Dr now. The bleeding isn't particularly heavier this morning but it's still there.

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Kinsters · 14/05/2019 02:17

I can't believe it but the baby is still there and has a heart beat. It's measuring correctly and everything looks as it should.

Dr upped my progesterone pills, gave me a progesterone injection and has swabbed to check for infection so now it's just watching and waiting.

I feel really dazed and shaky, just going to rest for the next few days.

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RedPandaFluff · 14/05/2019 02:34

@Kinsters I'm so relieved and happy that you were able to see a heartbeat and all is well! Definitely relax as much as you can over the next few days 💐

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Kinsters · 14/05/2019 04:31

Thanks RedPanda, I've been signed off for the rest of the week so I can take as much time as I need. I'll see how the bleeding goes over the next couple of days.

It was such a shock, I was so sure it was going to be bad news today. I told my FIL what was going on and he's sending food round for me which is lovely.

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IABUQueen · 14/05/2019 04:49

Had similar experience..

Question, is your DH taking any medication that affects conception ? Mine was and didn’t realise. Stopping that snd me taking progesterone and fixing my vitamin levels solved it for us after 3 Mmc.

IABUQueen · 14/05/2019 04:50

Omg just saw your update I’m soooooooo happy for you. Ignore my previous post

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Kinsters · 14/05/2019 05:03

Thanks IABUQueen, sorry that you've been through so many miscarriages, that must have been so hard. I thought I was ok and relatively chilled out about this pregnancy but I'm really not at all!

Me and DH both take pregnacare pre-conception and I also take co enzyme q10. I've noticed since taking these my cycle length has increased so I wonder if maybe I was deficient in B vitamins. Hopefully that and the progesterone does the trick.

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VenusStarr · 14/05/2019 07:09

Fantastic news @Kinsters 💜

InDreamland · 14/05/2019 07:36

@Kinsters that is wonderful news. Sounds like a strong little fighter you have in there. Make sure you take all the time you need to rest up. Will you get scanned again next week? Hopefully you'll have closer monitoring now.