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Starting to worry :-(

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blueym · 12/05/2019 10:18

On my 6th cycle and my period has just arrived.
My husband and I have been actively trying for 6 months now, I get positive opks every month, lots of ewcm and we have lots of sex around this week but yet I’m still not pregnant? I’m 27, fit and healthy and my husband is 34 and active and healthy (although could probably loose a little weight).
We have fallen pregnant before at the start of our relationship in 2014 (around 3 months in) but we made a difficult decision to terminate, so I know I can fall pregnant.
I guess I’m just having a rant (sorry) and possibly looking for some reassurance?
I’m really starting to feel it will never happen for me.

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hcopp · 12/05/2019 11:16

I feel your pain @blueym. We're on cycle 10 ttc #1, and absolutely nothing yet. Neither of us have kids, and there is a history of infertility in my dad's mum's (ie my Nana's) family, so I'm so scared that that might have passed its way to me. Another couple of months before we can go to GP for tests.

All I can say is keep at it. Everyone always says that trying for up to a year is normal, even if you have conceived before. I know for a fact it took my parents nearly two years for my oldest brother, and they ended up with five kids! My sister really struggled conceiving her dc#2.

Don't lose heart. You're not alone, ad you have to keep believing it will happen soon. We're all here for each other on the tough days. xxxxx

Lammoshay · 12/05/2019 11:24

I feel you I’m 5 months in and nothing and same story as you do know I can get pregnant. I’m 35 and hubby 43- I’m at the doctors this week to see what they say- hugs to you xx

Katie2207 · 12/05/2019 11:26

I know how you both feel😩 on cycle 17 for baby #1 however I was diagnosed with pcos last January. My mum has fertility issues aswell but had 2 children so there is always hope, hopefully we get our bfp soon😊

slb1985 · 12/05/2019 15:11

You're not alone. We've been ttc for ten months now, only bfn's and its getting me down. Again, same same as you, I know I can get pregant. Me and partner are both 34... i just worry its never going to happen but you've just gotta keep trying. Hugs xx

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blueym · 12/05/2019 17:19

Thank you all so much for the lovely words (you all sound lovely) and I’m sorry to hear you similarly are feeling down with the whole process.
I live in a very small community where everyone (and I mean everyone) has fallen pregnant within 3 months and love to declare it and I naively thought that would happen to me! So it’s nice to not feel alone.
I would just love to know why it’s not working?! But that’s the control freak in me.

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Lolipoplady · 12/05/2019 17:56

I also am in this boat. I know I can get pregnant, but I'm now into cycle six of ttc - I never thought it would take this long and I'm getting a bit worried.

I get positive opks each month, so I am almost certain I'm still ovulating. I'm 34 and it's 4 years since I was pregnant so I'm worried that my eggs are not good quality any longer. Can't think what else could be the reason!

It's interesting and kind of comforting to know that others are experiencing the same, makes me feel less alone. Thanks for starting this thread OP!

Dramaqueen14 · 12/05/2019 18:07

I totally get it. We are now a year later with nothing to show for it except one miscarriage at 11 weeks in September. I’m feeling very low about it all x

ilovesocks · 12/05/2019 19:33

I can relate too. Had a termination in 2013 when we hadn't been together long, and been TTC nearly two years now. I've been diagnosed with PCOS so take metformin and had a chemical pregnancy in October. I got put on Clomid in January and have just found out I'm pregnant again, very anxious that this will turn out to be an ectopic or another chemical. Trying to take one day at a time.

It was tough knowing I'd got pregnant inadvertently so easily, and then couldn't no matter how hard we were trying, so I can empathise. Do you track your BBT? Some people think daily sex reduces the amount of good sperm available so you could always try going down to every other day for a couple of cycles?

Buster144 · 12/05/2019 19:38

I'm with you here too! currently on the two week wait to see if I have been successful this month, on cycle 9. However I'm not feeling particularly positive. Everyone and everyone around me is getting pregnant too. My best friend is starting to ttc this month and I just hope she doesnt get pregnant before me as I'll find it really hard. Not a clue if I am actually able to get pregnant or not, so just need to wait a few more months before I can visit the doctors for tests.
This month I've decided to not use opks, concept plus etc and not put the pressure on myself. It will happen when it's right and we'll all just have to wait it out until then I guess!

Explorers10 · 12/05/2019 20:09

I’m the same trying for 5 months & nothing has happened. It’s really hard to be positive and I also feel worried and low. I know I have to stop feeling like this as can affect TTC. anyone have any helpful tips about how to be positive? I really want to stop feeling so negative!

hcopp · 12/05/2019 22:50

@explorers10 You mustn't feel like that! All you have to do is look at all the (**ing) pregnant ladies around you and that you see in the street, and know that it can and it will happen. There is no reason it will be any different for us than it was for them (and every time you see one of them, we have no idea what they have gone through to get to that stage...) Hope, ladies! Xxx

Explorers10 · 13/05/2019 09:25

@hcopp thank you just need to start believing and stop feeling so down and try and find other things to keep me occupied

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