Grief over fertility

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I am desperate for another child with my husband, I do not hide this fact from him. We have a 7 yr old together who we both adore. A few yrs ago we agreed to try for another and as it never happened for us we started fertility treatments. Last week he told me that now he is "older" (he is 35) he no longer wants another child and is happy with life as it is. We have not stopped talking about his decision and he understands my disappointment with this.

Is anyone going thru similar?

I honestly feel like im grieving for a baby that never was. I feel like he has taken this away from me without really thinking about how involved I was with this. I feel it is unfair that his choice is bigger than mine.

I honestly feel like he has stolen a child from me!

Am i absolutely crazy in thinking this? I dont get why I feel this way. I love my husband and I love my life and respect his choices I just feel so sad.

You are not crazy !!! I would feel exactly the same . I'm afraid I cat help... I wish I could I just wanted to let you know I'm here...

Also 35 is still young I got married at 35 had my first at 37 and now TTC no 2 at 38 so I don't think age is a good argument at all!

Definitely not crazy and very very unfair of him to let you start fertility treatments before changing his mind

My DH was 38 when we had our first and is actually more on board ttc nr 2 and he's 40 now

Perhaps tell him a part of you will always resent him for taking the choice away from you and making the decision for you rather than with you.

What are is reasons other than age - financially obviously he could have a valid reason to say no?

I think it sounds like there’s more to it - 35 is still very young.
Is he just trying to accept it’s not happening?
We had DS at 41 and 39, now trying for baby 2 at 43 and 41.

His only reason is age, he thinks 35 is too old to be having more children. I am 32 so its not too late in my opinion.

Are you sure there aren't any other reasons? He always knew it might take a while when agreeing to treatment.