Just been through mmc, anyone in the same boat?

[Chanel05]

Hello I had an ERPC yesterday on what should have been my 12 week scan. Is there anyone out there who's had a mc and tentatively ttc again?

Hey chanel, so sorry for your loss, I had a erpc 1 week ago today...it f**king sucks..I was 8 weeks gone...we're thinking of trying straight away this month as getting pregnant again is the only thing keeping me sane at the moment. I'm taking cd1 as day of erpc so will start testing with opks from cd10...what is your plan. Hope you're feeling ok

@Novasky1 I'm sorry for your loss too, it's heartbreaking. I'm glad I went with ERPC in the end. Dh and I are trying again straight away, same as you. We both feel like we need the pregnancy. I'm feeling very empty today. Did you have this feeling too? How has hour bleeding been?

@chanel05 absolutely agree with the emptiness feeling and having these surreal moments of not believing I'm not pregnant anymore...but 1 week on and it does get better...my bleeding hasn't been that bad...light enough and just have some very light brown discharge now so hopefully it will be all gone after wkend. Erpc was right decision for us..just wanted it out if that makes sense... we just want to be pregnant again..I really hope it doesn't take long.

Hi @Chanel05. I had a mmc in April. I'm cd3 of my first period. We did start dtd before period came, I was really hoping we'd get a bfp. Hoping we can conceive again. We had been trying 16 months before the bfp so it does feel like an uphill struggle.

How are you feeling? I'm still a bit emotional but feeling stronger every day. There's a thread I joined here, everyone has experienced a loss (or more). It's helpful to know you're not alone. There are quire a few bfps which is lovely and gives me hope, but it is also hard to hear, so just a heads up if you're not ready for that. Some days I'm OK with hearing about new pregnancies and some I'm not.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/3541475-ttc-after-pregnancy-loss-thread-29-huddle-up-and-bring-on-the-bfp-s

Cross posted with you @Novasky1, I'm sorry for your loss x

@Novasky1 I know that people say you don’t feel the baby moving until 20 odd weeks and they are totally right of course but you most certainly feel the presence of it inside you from early on and I don’t think people realise that unless they’ve lost a baby. Glad you’ve not bled too much. I had a fair bit after the op but it’s been fairly light since (only 24 hours so I know it could get worse). It’s good that you didn’t have to wait too long either for the op. I found out 3 weeks ago at 8+5 and had chosen tablets first but I couldn’t go through with it in the end.

@VenusStarr I’m sorry to hear of your mmc and I really hope that you get a bfp much more quickly this time. Hopefully your body knows what it’s doing now and will remember the process. I was cycle 8 but even that felt like a long time. I tried everything I ever read but two friends told me not to go to the toilet after we’d dtd which I’d always been doing and in Feb I didn’t and got my bfp so going to try that again!! I’m pleased that it’s not taken you too long to get your first period either, it always feels like a worry when you think how long you could end up waiting! I think I feel in a better place than yesterday as I’ve been in limbo but I’m just feeling devastated not to be pregnant anymore. I’m not sure I’m ready just yet for a bigger thread which is why I thought I’d post this one. I am finding it really hard to see pregnant women in life/on tv or small babies and not sure I’m ready to see other bfp’s yet. Just trying to give myself a bit of time to adjust.

I had an ERPC after a MMC just over 2 weeks ago. Trying to conceive
again and got a positive OPK a few days back, but then I did a pregnancy test and it's still coming up with a strong positive. So fed up with everything. I thought I was coping well mentally but this has set me right back.

I'm so sorry for your loss bee222...have you been continually testing out your hcg levels with preg tests? I believe hcg has to be fairly low for you to ovulate..maybe go to your gp for blood test to see what level you're at? That's my plan for when I hit the two week mark post erpc. Maybe just dtd anyway?!?

Hi all, I had an mmc and an ERPC in late March. It was extremely tough. I had a period approx 4 weeks after the first negative pregnancy test I got (about a week after the procedure) and now we're TTC again. The first few weeks were so hard but coming out the other side now and definitely feeling more positive. Sorry for everyone's losses and sending hugs - it gets easier each day x

Also I learnt that OPKs will pick up left over HCG after the lost pregnancy so can show a 'false' positive that you're ovulating. I think you need a negative HPK first before your cycle will start again on CD1... x

Thanks for your msg ikphillips...sorry for your loss also...still getting positive hpts..it's so disheartening when I see the lines when I just want a negative test..the irony!! Best of luck trying again.. I really hope you don't have a long wait.

@Novasky1 This was the first time i tested since the ERPC. I gave my local EPU a call and they asked me to ring back on Wednesday if i'm still getting positives. It's like a never ending nightmare!
All bleeding stopped after a couple of days so we are straight back onto DTD anyway just in case

I agree with you @Novasky1 I lost a baby a couple of weeks ago at 9 weeks and we are wanting to ttc again ASAP. Me and my OH both feel very empty and like we have lost a part of us.

I am so so sorry for the losses on this post, thank you for all being so open on here too, I have felt so lost and lonely and confused with how I am feeling.

Sending baby dust and love all to all of you

I went out for a drink for the first time since losing our baby tonight with my OH and was only out for a hour, I just felt so guilty putting stuff in my body that I avoided. Before I fell pregnant I loved going out and drinking and dancing and now I would give anything in the world to be just tucked up in bed with my raspberry sized baby, how do people deal with the heartache? When does it feel a little better?

@charlie1999 it does get better... I think for me getting my period weirdly kind of helped as it meant my body was getting 'back to normal'. Hang on in there... hope you've got good friends and family around you x

@charlie1999 don't be too hard on yourself, I know what you mean though, you still feel like you want to hold off on these things because they formed your identity as a pregnant woman.

Has anyone been absolutely ravenous after mc? I had a roast dinner two hours ago and feel hungry already for another meal.

@chanel05 I came across your post here and just wanted to send you my condolences. I’m so sorry you had to go through that I can’t even begin to imagine how you feel 😥 xxx

@Marshmallow1992 thank you. Totally devastated and feeling like I have no idea when it will happen again. How are you getting on in your journey?

So basically nothing last month again, currently ovulated yesterday or today unsure so embarking on the 2ww! I hope you start to feel a bit better soon and can start trying again soon xx

@Marshmallow1992 sorry to hear that, hope this is the month for you and the tww goes quickly.

I found out on Sunday that my baby had no heartbeat. I had medical management yesterday and I think my MC was complete this morning. I wanted to try and get back to normal but it hurt to bend down and pick up the washing. So I sat back down again. I forced myself out to go and get my nails done and my nail girl was asking me if I'm going to have children. I managed to just smile and say 'hopefully'.

On top of the emptiness and the sadness, my sister gave birth to her little girl this morning. Awful timing. I am so happy for her, it's really really lovely. I'm just struggling to be enthusiastic about anything because I feel so empty.