TTC but not having sex....

[Seraphimofthewilderness]

We're supposed to be trying for our second. My DH is very enthusiastic about the idea, keeps talking about what it will be like DC2 arrives, how we'll do things etc.

It took one cycle to conceive DS, with an OPk. So I bought the same one again. Jumped on DH when the time was right. He unfortunately couldn't do it, so we didn't.

That was a week and a half ago. Nothing since then. He doesn't even come to bed with me anymore. Just stays downstairs on his phone.

I try to talk about any of this and he refuses- I usually get accused of trying to start a row.

Yet he's still talking about lovely it will be to have two kids!

I have no idea what to do now.

When you say he couldn't do it . . Ie get it up or the grand finale?

Maybe he's just feeling a bit anxious/pressured over it as it's been planned, maybe throw the OPK away and just go with the flow. Let him know you want him whether you're ovulating or not x

No grand finale.

He knows the fertile window has gone but he's still not interested.

It's quite depressing when he would rather read football shite on his phone than do it.

Bump

I'd pay attention to his actions and not his words. It sounds like he's not genuinely ready for another one.

Given your fertile period has passed for this month maybe just try to ease off any pressure and maybe let him come to you. He could be feeling a bit apprehensive if he couldn’t finish last time. Men can be very proud.

I am in my first month of TTC with DH and he told me he feels like a baby making machine and I’m only interested to have a baby (although he says he wants a baby too) Could it be that?

Can you try to entice him in a less direct way?

Yet he's still talking about lovely it will be to have two kids!

Don't engage with these conversations. Just change the subject. He doesn't get to fantasise cosily with you if he doesn't want to take part in the process.

He has a right to not just lie down and assume the position. But you have a right to not want to indulge a fantasy that simply can't happen without his Co operation.

Perhaps when you stop talking about it and stop responding to conversation, then he'll want to take some initiative, if he truly does want a second child.

Sorry @Seraphimofthewilderness manic couple of days!

My OH actually said to me "I didn't think you want sex unless it was in that window" which made me pretty sad, that's why he'd not made any advances as felt like I only wanted pregnancy chances! I realised I needed to step back and just try and go with the flow, as someone else said, ignore the baby convo's, just try and let it happen x

I feel the same as you OP! My OH initiated us TTC, I had mentioned I was ready and then for my birthday he got me a baby grow and said he's ready let's try!
Since then (Feb 19) I think he has tried it on with me once!!!!! I have a high sex drive anyway and he's always tired 🙄 but he would also rather stay up all hours on his game and then invites the dog into bed when he does come up!!
I had to really pile the pressure on to DTD last night and today I got a strong positive on my OPK!! He won't do it again tonight!!!
I feel like a sex pest!!!
Who knows what goes through the minds of men!! At least we are not alone xx