Pregnancy test question // worries

[lovelikewinter]

Hi Everyone,
I'm new here.
I think I'm pregnant, Google says I'd be about 3 weeks and 3 days.
I feel so sick at my desk off and on, waves of nausea.
Can I buy any pregnancy test to see, or does it have to be a Clear Blue 6 day early one? My period is supposed to arrive on Saturday
However, I'd rather know sooner than later because my partner doesn't want children
I never thought I did, but now I don't know. Realistically I don't think it'd be a good idea, I don't have any family apart from a mother who I don't get on with very well [I don't think it'd be fair to bring a child into that sort of environment], I have a good job but finances are a mess currently, I still can't drive and still live at home.

My boyfriend doesn't like condoms and doesn't want me on the pill. He also ended up making a point of telling me that as long as he withdrew when it wasn't my ovulation date, that ejaculation would be fine.
Now he just does it anyway, sometimes without saying anything.
So I'm really worried.
Thanks Xx

If your period isn't due yet, the nausea you're experiencing now is not a sign of pregnancy. If you're roughly on cycle day 22 of a 27 or 28 day cycle, you most likely are only around 8 or 9 days post ovulation, right? Even if I've miscounted, if it's too early for enough hormones to be present for a test to be positive, it's too early, really, for there to be enough hormones to be causing nausea, either. I hope that is reassuring!

But, it sounds like your boyfriend is very controlling, and there are some red flags. You know deep down something is not right, don't you? Trust your own better judgement. x

Hope you're OK @lovelikewinter it's a difficult situation to be in. X

I hope you're OK. It really sounds like he is very controlling.. do you have a support network around you? It sounds like you might want the baby if you are pregnant...?

Without wanting to complicate things I used an early response test 4 days before my period was due - negative. I then was late and tested the day after I was due with a digital test and it was positive (now 9 weeks pregnant) so I'm not convinced on those tests but it could have just been me

Just scrolling through and saw this thread - I hope you're ok. I don't like that he's telling you that he doesn't like using contraception, doesn't want you to use any but then says he doesn't want children?! That's the risk he's taking. He sounds really controlling and I really hope you're able to find support. xxx

Id highly reccomend Op you take yourself to a family planning clinic/ gp and get contraception. if youre worried hell find pills, get an implant or something. explain to the hcp so they can reccomend a contraception that `ll work yet be un noticed?

what a horrible man you`re with.

I'm pregnant, took a few tests to make sure...

He hasn't taken it very well and wants me to get rid...

I feel different now I know it's not just me I have to make a decision for.

I feel so alone and so scared, I have no one to talk to or support me in real life

The way you need to look at it op is what would be worse because you sound like you want this baby so would it be worse to raise the baby on your own without him or the possible emtyness and hate for him you would feel if you had a termination?

@lovelikewinter, I'm glad you know for sure. You want your baby. Please don't be bullied into a termination by this man.

It's clear you want different things. He took the risk of sleeping with you unprotected.

He has no right to control you or your body. Do you feel safe? Keep talking here, we will listen

He said that it was both of our faults, essentially inferred that keeping the baby wouldn't be the right thing to do because of where we are in our lives. I've always said I didn't want children, but the second I thought I could be pregnant I realised I did-- Is that hormones outriding logistics? I'm trying so hard to look at this openly but its incredibly hard

I don't really know how I feel ... I'm lucky to have been able to book a doctors appointment for later on today. I feel so tired, nauseous off and on. I keep wee'ing, and the more I wee the more sensitive it feels--its not like burning or anything, just feels weird. I don''t know if thats normal or not.

thanks for the support I appreciate it x

I don't even know if I can go home because my mum and I aren't speaking, I can't stay with my boyfriend as he already has plans, the only friend I have is busy and won't want me staying.

What kind of world is this to live in? :(

He just sounds so incredibly controlling that's not any sort or relationship I think regardless or what you decide regarding the baby you need to get rid of him

Glad you're seeing the GP @lovelikewinter, please tell them how you feel, there may be some support they can offer.

Don't doubt your feelings. Yes you have choices but they are yours to make, not his. You said you want your baby.

What do you mean you can't stay with your boyfriend? Do you live together? If not that's a good thing!

I'm worried for you. Maybe call women's aid, just to chat through what's going on. You don't need to tell us everything but from what little you've said, he is not a nice person and it's not an equal relationship. X