TTC how to stay positive I need support

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Hello guys,

I am completely new to this. I was pregnant in August last year first try and had a termination in November due to unhealthy baby. It was my first pregnancy. I am since trying to conceive with no luck.
I track my ovulation, I got regular ovulation, I paid private to check everything is fine inside and it is which is good right ? How ever I now feel like it is very difficult to cop with the two week wait and period every month. I feel frustrated and discourage and don’t know what more I can do.

People says I need to relax and I am trying but it is not that helpful. I also feel like no one around me can understand me.

My husband is going to do a check up as well.

I guess I am looking for people on the same boat ? And success stories as well ?! I am so ready to welcome everything is right in our lives at the moment but I cannot get pregnant and it really get me down.

Thanks for reading this message and hope to hear from you guys xx

Hi so sorry for what you are going through and for your loss. My situation is a bit similar. I got pregnant in July last year after 2 months trying though lost the baby at 11 weeks which was the most devastating thing ever. We’ve been trying since with no luck.

I’m getting fed up it’s 7 cycles since mc and nothing. Waiting for af on Thursday. Feel like I’m never getting pregnant again and it’s so hard. I’m also sick of hearing it will happen, just relax! X

Hi dramaqueen14,

I hear you! It is such a hopeless feeling. But you never know it might be your month !! AF has not turned up so you are not out yet!!

I just got my period yesterday and this month I am actually not too upset. I would of been due the 10 th of May when my next period is due so I am really hopeful that it will happen this month and on my next period due I will have a positive pregnancy test. I am trying to send positive vibe even though it is really hard. My husband is not desperate to have a baby he is very patient and more see how it goes but I think man thinks differently and he already got a daughter.
How is you other half copping ? Or reacting ?

X

I really don’t feel like it’s my month though I know I’m not out until af. I’ve told myself now no more early testing and waiting until af instead.

I know what you mean about the due date. Mine was mother’s day and I felt so rubbish. Me and dh went for dinner to mark it even though I didn’t feel like it. I feel a bit better now it’s out the way but I do hate seeing small babies still.

I’m with you on the positive vibes, trying to relax more but it’s hard. I tried reflexology this month was really relaxing. What have you been doing to relax a bit?

My dh is very laid back about it all. Says it will happen when it happens, and that at least we got pregnant etc. He’s is no rush. I feel it though. I’m 33 and would ideally like 2 children and you just never know if it will happen. Xx

I get you. Mothers day was hard and I cannot imagine how hard it would of been for you if on top of it, it was your due date!!!

I have tried acuponcture but it was not really for me. I travelled a bit for work so that was great to get my mind occupied in the last month but this month I am going to get the hopefully «futur parents/nursery»room repainted and redecorated as I think this would be good for me to still look forward to it and have a nice guest room until I am pregnant and actually start buying baby stuff.

I think you are right we spend too much money on test haha so now I said to myself not to buy any test until I am 1 day late on my period !! It is hard though but no need to test early as the tests are not reliable that early anyway and put more stress to it !!!

I completely get you with feeling crap when you see small babies. Three of my friend just announced their pregnancy out of no where and it did hurt a little.

I went to see a friend today and she is great because she is getting excited for me to get pregnant and it reminds me that YES it is exciting !!! If you try to get back to your mindset as it was before you got pregnant and had your first baby. I know it is hard specially if you saw your baby on ultrasound like I did but I feel like I am getting excited again of the overall experience ?!

It took me 5 months but maybe that is the time I needed to get over the loss of my first baby.

As your husband said you got pregnant and I did too so there is no reason why we won’t again.