Anyone TTC in a second marriage/relationship?

[tisonlymeagain]

Just wondering if anyone here was in the same boat?

About to start TTC our first child together, we are late 30's and both have children from our previous marriages.

That's good that you gave it a good shot and feel positive about that and that it is a reasonable cycle after the pill. I'm keeping fingers and toes crossed for you! Do you have a date in mind for testing?

I'm not feeling too bothered about testing just now so I'm hoping that relaxed feeling lasts. I probably will end up testing at some point before AF - last month I took a million tests and was manically symptom spotting!

How are you all doing ladies? Any news?

My AF arrived at 13dpo (could have OV'd earlier I guess) which was so disappointing. I had a cry and a wallow but picked myself up. Now we have a small spanner in the works here as DP has a bit of a UTI problem and now on antibiotics but still pushing forward. Bit stressful as the information means his swimmers might not be making out properly and then in a few months there's the risk the antibiotics will affect the sperm count and motility, but not mich we can do. CD9 and 7 days to OV for me, and I've started peeing on OPKs. There was line yesterday which surprised me as not a hint showed up until CD13 last cycle, so will keep up testing as don't want to miss it!

Sorry, @tisonlymeagain, I only just saw this!

That’s a pain on your DP’s UTI, hope he’s ok. Have you ov’d now? Hope it all worked out ok. And fingers crossed you’ll be pregnant in a few months time and won’t have to worry about what the antibiotics have done! I didn’t realise they affected sperm.

I ovulated on cd16, 2 days ago (handily my cycle days have coincided with the actual date this month!). Its strange as when I was TTC before with ex, I ov’d cd19-21 with only a 10 day luteal phase. I’m not sure if it’s taking vit b6 or the fact I’ve been off the pill for a few years this time (I had a copper coil). Anyway, timing was great and I got a nice strong opk and have had a decent temperature rise since. DP has some work on near home so it has worked out really well. Dp says he will get some baggier boxers if I’m not pregnant this month! Im not sure whether to get him some supplements or not to worry 🤔.

I read that saliva is bad for sperm so we have been avoiding oral sex over ovulation. Does anyone else avoid or is it silly to worry??

Hi @Starlight39 - we've just ignored it and carried on. He wasn't really in any pain so it didn't stop anything. Now 4dpo confirmed this month by OPKs and by charting my temperature. It came about 2 days earlier than last cycle but so glad that it did, as only been off the pill since March and so far seemed to have slipped into a good regular pattern. Will hold off testing as long as possible but I know I'll cave by mid-week. Only on cycle 2 and already starting to feel like it will never happen.

Sounds like we're roughly on the same track this month!

Hi everyone. Hope things are good with you @tisonlymeagain? Everything crossed for you this month! Glad your DP wasn't in pain and you were both able to soldier on. Yes, I think we're roughly at the same point.

I'm 6DPO today, not really having any particular symptoms. I'm knackered but I think that's just lack of sleep rather than anything significant!! DP is working away until Friday evening then also working Sunday so I think I'm going to test Sunday morning. I asked him if I find out I'm pg while he's working away did he want me to tell him over the phone. He said he'd rather know in person so we can at least have a hug about it! I don't really want to know and then have to keep it to myself so I'm going to attempt to restrict testing to when he's home.

Ha @Starlight39 yes I'm planning to test on Sunday and my DP won't be here either!

Thought I'd come back to say that on Sunday I got my BFP on a FRER at 10dpo! Lines have got progressively darker. Safe to say we are over the moon but also a little shocked!

Have you tested yet @Starlight39?

Congratulations!! That's great news - hope you have a very happy and healthy 9 months!

I tested on Sunday (9/10 dpo) and Monday and it was a negative so assuming I'm out this month and I haven't bothered testing today. I've had a bit of spotting so thinking AF will be here today and once it does I'll order some more preconception vitamins and OPKs - I just want to be sure a new cycle has started before I spend the money!

One good thing is I have at least a 12 day luteal phase which is better than the 9/10 days I had when TTC DS. Oh and I was thinking I might end up having to do a work trip to India which I was a bit worried about potentially doing while pregnant but it looks like we won't go now so that's a bit of a relief.